Meeka Posted July 23, 2005 Posted July 23, 2005 After a whole year me and my friend outgrew each other. There's absolutely NOTHING that would ever get us to become "more than friends"....well at least, I don't think there is. I still think sometimes that I still like him....when we were together, I was able to picture him as someone who was right for me. Now i have to forget about all of that.... because we had problems, and things got ruined. He occasionally gives me hope. Like flirts, but we do things that are harmless to each other. We're both trying to become just friends again. And I don't mind that. But what i'm coping with -- is being able to watch him with other girls. He always told me he doesn't care about relationships and sex. (he's a big computer junkie, btw) and I don't think he has anyone he'd consider dating........during the winter, he's going to be moving to Arizona. I told him "You're going to want to meet people and experience things!" and he says "so what if I want to "meet people and "experience things?"....I don't know why but I felt hurt thinking about that stuff. Is it normal that I act like I want him all to myself sometimes? Or maybe i have nothing to worry abut?? I'm really scared some girl is going to come out of nowhere and swipe him! PS. I am 17, and I know I have a long way to go before I ever mature, but I really care about this guy. He's 18, and graduated.... and I have a few months to go before I can leave home. I feel really locked up, and maybe I am being a little controlling.....!! (i hope not) I would like this to be a normal friendship again.
zuir1 Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 The sad thing is that your always going to have feeling for him. You cant get rid of that because your always going to remember how you two use to be. As for the girls and worrying thats perfectly normal. Lots of girls feel that the guy is just gonna get swept off his feet. You are jealous and want him. That right there says you still have feeling for him. Your just confused and have to decide if you really want to be his friend or not. If you want to be "only" his friend then its going to be really hard and take some time. But him moving away is ethier gonna make you think of him as a friend and realizing that you can move on...Or your gonna miss him alot and realize you want to be with him. So the only thing u can do is the worst thing.....Let time take its toll.....Time...I hate that....
Meeka Posted July 30, 2005 Posted July 30, 2005 Originally posted by zuir1 The sad thing is that your always going to have feeling for him. You cant get rid of that because your always going to remember how you two use to be. I never thought of it that way...and now I dont have a choice. But thats exactly how i'm feeling!! The other day, I tried to explain to him how unfair it feels to remember things that i was promised, but it somehow ended up in "its all your fault", and I was also on several meds from the doctors, so I don't remember everything. I just want him to be my friend now.... I've heard of the saying " The grass is greener on the other side", sometimes I think it's better if i've never heard of THAT grass! thanks for the advice anyway Zuir1!
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