newheart Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Dis, I just read about your accident and wanted to say I am so sorry to hear this! While I imagine that was scary (and terrible that your car is totaled), it sounds like you made it out with minimal injuries, thank god! Glad you will be getting your stitches out soon! 2
Author Dis Posted February 12, 2017 Author Posted February 12, 2017 I became much happier with the entire dating scene when I stopped focusing on it, entirely. It's easy for OLD to become an obsession the same way social media is. Open up your app, scroll around, shoot out messages, check to see if messages have been read/seen, etc.. etc... It became seriously draining for me. If I were single, I'd just wait for the "weekly" matches to pop up, shoot messages to those that sparked my interest and go along my way. This is such a good point!!! Actually I'm rarely on OLD. I uninstalled the match app (the only OLD profile I have left) from my phone. I used to be addicted to OLD apps. Now I rarely go on them so I'm good with this It seems like you're over-analyzing this as well. If Saturday is what works for you then Saturday it is: you have a busy schedule. You don't want to feel rushed into a date that you might not enjoy. Honestly, the guy will jump at it if he's as interested as you are. If not, then it maybe time to write him off. Hahahaha! I totally over think everything!! My over thinking knows no bounds but I'm really going to try to reign that in now. I messaged him on match telling him I had to reschedule. Then he texted me without seeing the message so I told him about the car accident. he was really nice about it. I suggested Saturday night. He said that works great for him and that he'd call me during the week All is well!
Author Dis Posted February 12, 2017 Author Posted February 12, 2017 Dis, I just read about your accident and wanted to say I am so sorry to hear this! While I imagine that was scary (and terrible that your car is totaled), it sounds like you made it out with minimal injuries, thank god! Glad you will be getting your stitches out soon! Thanks so much girl! It was really scary. When I woke up from getting knocked out I had to crawl into my backseat and exit through the back passenger door because my car was so obliterated The crazy thing was, as I crawled out of my car, blood all over my face and disoriented as all h***, the guy who hit me started yelling at me! Saying it was my fault. How awful is that? If that was him crawling out of his car I wouldve been there to help him in anyway I could (but I guess thats why I'm a nursing student and hes not lol ) I'm really sore today but just grateful I'm ok! My stitches will be out on Thursday and the date is rescheduled for Saturday
No_Go Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Ouch sorry Dis... Sounds terrible but it could have been real bad (my own experience was broken femur some years ago). If you're in New England stay home! February is just a bad bad month. Hi guys! So I was on the way to the mall to get a new outfit for the date and I got hit directly in my drivers side door by a snow plow truck I was taken to the hospital and got 6 stiches in my lip, I have a concussion, my jaw is a little displaced and I have a chip facture in one of my knuckles.... but it couldve been so much worse Apparently some cute fire fighters were looking after me on the scene of the accident but I was too concussed to remember (of course) )...I think I'll bake them some cookies and bring them down to the station in a dew days So, the date will have to be postponed as I am a hot mess lol 1
newheart Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Thanks so much girl! It was really scary. When I woke up from getting knocked out I had to crawl into my backseat and exit through the back passenger door because my car was so obliterated The crazy thing was, as I crawled out of my car, blood all over my face and disoriented as all h***, the guy who hit me started yelling at me! Saying it was my fault. How awful is that? If that was him crawling out of his car I wouldve been there to help him in anyway I could (but I guess thats why I'm a nursing student and hes not lol ) I'm really sore today but just grateful I'm ok! My stitches will be out on Thursday and the date is rescheduled for Saturday OMG HE started yelling at you!?? What a POS! Yay for your Saturday date!!!! 2
Author Dis Posted February 12, 2017 Author Posted February 12, 2017 Ouch sorry Dis... Sounds terrible but it could have been real bad (my own experience was broken femur some years ago). If you're in New England stay home! February is just a bad bad month. Oh wow! A broken femur will make life pretty tough for quite awhile Lol I know! Feburary in New England is awful! Roads werent bad yesterday but you wont see me drive in the snow again anytime soon!
Author Dis Posted February 12, 2017 Author Posted February 12, 2017 OMG HE started yelling at you!?? What a POS! Yay for your Saturday date!!!! I know right?! And Yay!!
thecrucible Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Sorry to hear about the accident, Disillusionment. I'm rooting for you for your date on Saturday! 2
Author Dis Posted February 12, 2017 Author Posted February 12, 2017 Well it doesn't have to be "huge" and difficult though the results can be huge. Let go of the pressure of needing to settle down. And practice being in a more accepting state of small, everyday things in your life. Little tiny things. That will help you strength that "in the moment" muscle for your mind. BTW, perfect example is your car accident. Now maybe these are the type of things to worry about--but you didn't because you couldn't see it coming. But it came and there wasn't much you can do about it in advance. Now that it's happened, you work on healing yourself and rearranging your schedule to accommodate your stitches, etc. You NEVER know what will happen with relationships--some will surprise you in bad ways and some in such great ways you could have never expected. Either way, if you approach your life in a balanced way, you can both protect yourself from things (red flags etc) and move yourself forward to accept the good things because you "know" you have the strength to survive whatever life throws at you. In fact, I think one of the worst things a person could have happen to them is to have never been fazed or thrown a curve ball and be in a seemingly perfect relationship and existence. Then what do you do if it falls apart? You will either find a strength you never knew you had (probably some of the very same zen skills that got you into this wonderful--when it was wonderful--relationship) or fall apart completely and almost permanently. In some ways, if you really think about it these perfect lives we think others have can be just as scary. Those statements you tell yourself, "if only I meet & find my soulmate by 31, I'll be ok" can stunt things. What about telling yourself, I'll be ok. Sometimes that attitude shift can bring around exactly what you want (the guy). I'm glad to hear that even small changes can help as I think I have a long way to go. Yes! I need to let go of that pressure to settle down, every time I think of it I feel awful. Its going to happen when it happens and no amount of stressing over it will make it happen sooner...it'll just cloud my judgement and heighten my anxiety The car accident is a good analogy....puts things into perspective for me Balance....I'm going to keep that in mind. Its been lacking in my dating life. If I balance dating with all other areas of my life...I think I can break this pattern
Author Dis Posted February 12, 2017 Author Posted February 12, 2017 Sorry to hear about the accident, Disillusionment. I'm rooting for you for your date on Saturday! Aww thanks girl! I'll keep you guys posted! 1
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