How To Keep Some Hope...

[Dis]

Hi guys!

 

I have a date with a new guy this Sunday that I met on match. He seems complimentary, intelligent, sweet, inquiring and respectful. He has a great job. He works in the technological side of health care and I'm a student nurse. He's my type physically. If he didnt seem so great....I wouldnt have ventured back into dating

 

I've had some really bad luck with OLD and just dating in general. I always told myself I'd never give up the hope that the right guy is out there but now??? I kind of feel apathy or hesitance towards that idea....I dont know what happened to me....

 

I dont know much about this guy. He messages me everyday, quality messages.... but only once or twice a day....so...I'm trying to figure out whats wrong with him??? Hahahaha He's very attractive so I'm wondering if he's really cocky or a player but I KNOW I cant judge him because of that

 

I'm just so used to things going wrong...I dont know how they can go right at this point

 

How do I remain hopeful and brush off the feeling of being jaded and preparing for disappointment???

 

Thanks guys!!!

[selinaluv]

Hi guys!

 

I have a date with a new guy this Sunday that I met on match. He seems complimentary, intelligent, sweet, inquiring and respectful. He has a great job. He works in the technological side of health care and I'm a student nurse. He's my type physically. If he didnt seem so great....I wouldnt have ventured back into dating

 

I've had some really bad luck with OLD and just dating in general. I always told myself I'd never give up the hope that the right guy is out there but now??? I kind of feel apathy or hesitance towards that idea....I dont know what happened to me....

 

I dont know much about this guy. He messages me everyday, quality messages.... but only once or twice a day....so...I'm trying to figure out whats wrong with him??? Hahahaha He's very attractive so I'm wondering if he's really cocky or a player but I KNOW I cant judge him because of that

 

I'm just so used to things going wrong...I dont know how they can go right at this point

 

How do I remain hopeful and brush off the feeling of being jaded and preparing for disappointment???

 

Thanks guys!!!

 

I think we have to learn how to do a better job keeping faith in these guys until they show us otherwise. He may actually be a guy in the same situation as you. I know I am not good at that either because of past disappointment. But we have to think glass half full.

 

And my ex husband was cocky and a player. He is very good looking and had women chasing him. All that changed as soon as we connected. He only had eyes for me and made that very clear to others. Sometimes the right woman will do that. Try not to assume anything until you meet. (lolol which is funny cause I pretty much as similar post just a week ago).

[Gaeta]

I had moments like yours many times when I was searching. After almost 4 years of numerous disappointments I'd ask myself, on my way to another first date, why do I bother.

 

Then I reminded myself that if I did nothing no prince charming would come knocking at my door.

 

At times I needed breaks from dating, those were helping as well.

 

One day you'll meet a man that will give you no reasons to complain but you have to believe such men exist to find them.

[AdentureWithMe]

Just keep your wits about you and pay attention to early red flags as they come along. Seems like this guy is great so far, don't let your mind and past experiences color this too much. In other words, don't make this guy pay for the sins of his predecessors lol.

 

This guy could be "the one" or he could just be a "good one" for a few months. Either way, enjoy the moment and keep your eyes open to things that don't sit right with you, so in cause you need to get out you can on the early side.

 

Try to think of each new guy as a new adventure... some will be great, bad, scary, ugly, whatever! Think of it as exciting journey that you're in control of ( in the sense of yes I like him/want to continue to date or no he's not fitting my needs... to the curb!)

[joseb]

Don't get ahead of yourself. You haven't met him yet (unless I misunderstood) so you really have no idea if he is attractive or a match yet. Remember online is nothing until you meet.

[todreaminblue]

you have to be in the moment that moment hasn't happened before its completely new just like the guy you are with on a date is completely new.....so if you enjoy the moments when you are with him,getting to know him , enjoy spending time with him and make the date date fun and refreshing....remember if you have to, what you love to do and what you love in a guy........and do those things and see thoset things if they are there...see potential.....instead of noticing imperfections.....with someone new and a different perspective from your side......and enjoy a date...dates are meant to be enjoyable....with online just be careful......and if he attempts a grope....well yeah..he isnt right for you possible player...then you will know...

 

but if he treats you with respect and you have a good time...you can breathe and just have fun and continue to have fun on future dates.....the past is still where it is meant to be .....live in the moments you have now and dating wont feel jaded...deb

[SevenCity]

Help me out here. He messages you twice a day and you haven't met and that's not enough? I'm not trying to be mean but it really sounds like your expectations are off the charts. What could he possibly have to say when the two of you have not met in person?

 

As far as loosing hope I'm right there with you. I had a date tonight from OLD and the pic of this girl must have been taken 10 years ago. She was nice but I didn't feel anything and couldn't get over the feeling I was duped.

 

I've only been dating for 4 months and already I'm jaded with OLD. I don't think it's honest to put up a pic that isn't representative of what you look like when we go on a date.

 

I'm at the point where I dread going and when I first get in my car all I want to do is go back home and spend time with my dog. The ones that I do click with turn out to be psychos after about week 3.

 

I cannot seem to find a woman I want to spend more than a month with.

 

I have another date tomorrow and I really hope it's not another failure but I'm sure it will be.

 

But as mentioned, my next gf isn't gonna come knocking on my door so I'll put in the leg work.

[KBob]

Hi guys!

 

I dont know much about this guy. He messages me everyday, quality messages.... but only once or twice a day....so...I'm trying to figure out whats wrong with him??? Hahahaha He's very attractive so I'm wondering if he's really cocky or a player but I KNOW I cant judge him because of that

 

Not acting clingy is a very big grey area with dating. Some women don't like too many messages, some like a lot. It's difficult for us guys to judge that and it's not very cut and dry to ask a woman about it within the first couple dates. He may just be trying to avoid smothering you or coming across as needy. Give him a chance and stop looking for negative points against him, or you may inadvertently create some out of nothing.

[GoldSparkz]

Well done on sticking in there. OLD is tough but worth it if you stick it out! One thing i would say, is that it's important to approach this date with an open mind and fresh perspective. I know it's hard, but try not to let your past experiences cloud your judgement of this guy. Aim to go on the date and HAVE FUN. Don't expect anything from the date apart from meeting someone new and that's it. If you put pressure on the date, you'll come across as desperate and jaded. Then if things work out, great. If not, move on to the next one and keep going until you meet your prince charming.

[BaileyB]

I've had many moments like this and I'd pretty much resigned myself to the fact that it wasn't meant to happen for me...

 

But I will say, when you meet the right guy, you will know. Not to be too cliche, but all the frustration of dating really does fade away when you meet someone you really like...

 

Hang in!

[OatsAndHall]

Help me out here. He messages you twice a day and you haven't met and that's not enough? I'm not trying to be mean but it really sounds like your expectations are off the charts. What could he possibly have to say when the two of you have not met in person?

 

As far as loosing hope I'm right there with you. I had a date tonight from OLD and the pic of this girl must have been taken 10 years ago. She was nice but I didn't feel anything and couldn't get over the feeling I was duped.

 

I've only been dating for 4 months and already I'm jaded with OLD. I don't think it's honest to put up a pic that isn't representative of what you look like when we go on a date.

 

I'm at the point where I dread going and when I first get in my car all I want to do is go back home and spend time with my dog. The ones that I do click with turn out to be psychos after about week 3.

 

I cannot seem to find a woman I want to spend more than a month with.

 

I have another date tomorrow and I really hope it's not another failure but I'm sure it will be.

 

But as mentioned, my next gf isn't gonna come knocking on my door so I'll put in the leg work.

 

I agree with this... I think you're strongly over-reacting to the situation given that you haven't even met. All of your interactions have been via the internet yet you've already established a strong opinion about this guy and expectations for him. Folks need to ditch the idea that OLD sites actually have something to do with dating when they don't, in reality. They allow you to meet someone, set up a date and go from there. Any pre-conceived notions you have about someone before you actually meet them are contorted by technological space.

 

I will add one final thing. I have read many women comment about how a guy is or isn't their "physical type" on this site while expressing frustration over dating. By doing this, you're hacking potential quality dates down significantly. If you state that a dark haired guy isn't your "type" then you've cut the dating pool down by half half. If you state that you won't date anyone with facial hair, well, you've just cut it down further. If you take it another step further and are fussy about their hair length, then you've just whittled the dating pool down to less than 25% of the available men out there. Oh, let's not forget those women that are solely looking for the "athletic" body type. Now, tie in other factors: whether or not they want kids, their employment/education level, hobbies, (etc) and you've pigeon holed yourself significantly. You can whittle a dating pool down from 100 guys to 5 in a hurry.. And, these are generally the same women who's profile includes something about being jaded or "having their hearts broken".

 

Now, I'm not typing this out of frustration: it's just a reality. I'm a reasonably good looking guy who's active, works out and takes care of himself. But, I can't help but laugh when my blond hair, goatee (or any other physical trait) become deal breakers for them. These are the same women that I run across on OLD sites, even after taking 6+ month long breaks from them.

 

So, my suggestion to the OP is this: ditch SOME parameters of your "physical type" and you'll probably have more luck with dating. To be blunt, if you just can't imagine yourself on a date with (insert physical trait) then you need to reevaluate your priorities.

[Dis]

I agree with this... I think you're strongly over-reacting to the situation given that you haven't even met. All of your interactions have been via the internet yet you've already established a strong opinion about this guy and expectations for him. Folks need to ditch the idea that OLD sites actually have something to do with dating when they don't, in reality. They allow you to meet someone, set up a date and go from there. Any pre-conceived notions you have about someone before you actually meet them are contorted by technological space.

 

I will add one final thing. I have read many women comment about how a guy is or isn't their "physical type" on this site while expressing frustration over dating. By doing this, you're hacking potential quality dates down significantly. If you state that a dark haired guy isn't your "type" then you've cut the dating pool down by half half. If you state that you won't date anyone with facial hair, well, you've just cut it down further. If you take it another step further and are fussy about their hair length, then you've just whittled the dating pool down to less than 25% of the available men out there. Oh, let's not forget those women that are solely looking for the "athletic" body type. Now, tie in other factors: whether or not they want kids, their employment/education level, hobbies, (etc) and you've pigeon holed yourself significantly. You can whittle a dating pool down from 100 guys to 5 in a hurry.. And, these are generally the same women who's profile includes something about being jaded or "having their hearts broken".

 

Now, I'm not typing this out of frustration: it's just a reality. I'm a reasonably good looking guy who's active, works out and takes care of himself. But, I can't help but laugh when my blond hair, goatee (or any other physical trait) become deal breakers for them. These are the same women that I run across on OLD sites, even after taking 6+ month long breaks from them.

 

So, my suggestion to the OP is this: ditch SOME parameters of your "physical type" and you'll probably have more luck with dating. To be blunt, if you just can't imagine yourself on a date with (insert physical trait) then you need to reevaluate your priorities.

 

Thanks for the response Oats

 

I've gone out with guys who werent my type and been attracted to them so I'm not too picky. I also dont have things on my profile like, 'Dont message me if XYZ' My profile is really upbeat and positive. I'm aware that many people have profiles that seem negative and jaded but mine isnt one of them

 

I know I could end up with a guy whos not my type at all...so I'm not ruling anyone out

 

Before this guy I had taken a break from OLD, but he caught my eye so I decided to go for it

 

As far as any preconcieved notions I have about him, I'm only saying that he sounds like a good guy. I've done OLD long enough to know that people arent always as they seem

[Dis]

We're getting another winter storm on Sunday so I told him we might need to reschedule depending on how the weather is

 

I have a tiny car so....its not great in snow

[SevenCity]

We're getting another winter storm on Sunday so I told him we might need to reschedule depending on how the weather is

 

I have a tiny car so....its not great in snow

 

Ugh. I don't like this because it could delay the date another week.

 

That's another week of texting 2x per day which will get you hooked on his online persona or he might say something to upset you.

 

I purposely don't text a lot before a first date for those reasons. I will have no idea if I like a girl until I meet her in person. Too often people build up a fantasy in their head only to be disappointed when they meet.

[Dis]

Help me out here. He messages you twice a day and you haven't met and that's not enough? I'm not trying to be mean but it really sounds like your expectations are off the charts. What could he possibly have to say when the two of you have not met in person?

 

As far as loosing hope I'm right there with you. I had a date tonight from OLD and the pic of this girl must have been taken 10 years ago. She was nice but I didn't feel anything and couldn't get over the feeling I was duped.

 

I've only been dating for 4 months and already I'm jaded with OLD. I don't think it's honest to put up a pic that isn't representative of what you look like when we go on a date.

 

I'm at the point where I dread going and when I first get in my car all I want to do is go back home and spend time with my dog. The ones that I do click with turn out to be psychos after about week 3.

 

I cannot seem to find a woman I want to spend more than a month with.

 

I have another date tomorrow and I really hope it's not another failure but I'm sure it will be.

 

But as mentioned, my next gf isn't gonna come knocking on my door so I'll put in the leg work.

 

Thanks for the reality check Seven I think I was looking for problems...I hate that because I always told myself I wouldnt do that no matter how bad things got...I need to be realistic

 

I'm so sorry you havent had any luck I've never had a date misrepresent themselves before but I can imagine its pretty frustrating...I would be pretty unhappy if someone did that to me

 

I hope you can find the strength to keep going while trying to be as optimistic as possible. The right woman is out there....you're just going to have to go on a lot of dates before you find her

 

Good luck with your next date!! And try not to think it wont go well. If you go into the date with a negative mindset...nothing good will come of it. I hope it goes super well and she doesnt turn out to be a psycho lol

[Dis]

Ugh. I don't like this because it could delay the date another week.

 

That's another week of texting 2x per day which will get you hooked on his online persona or he might say something to upset you.

 

I purposely don't text a lot before a first date for those reasons. I will have no idea if I like a girl until I meet her in person. Too often people build up a fantasy in their head only to be disappointed when they meet.

 

Ya I know!! Ahh! I was so pissed when I saw another storm was coming because I really dont want to delay meeting but my car is really bad in the snow

 

Usually when OLD dates get postponed it doesnt end up turning out well....you kind of lose that momentum ya know???

 

I didnt tell him we'd def have to reschedule I just said we might have to depending on the weather...hopefully we can both stick it out and go anyway

[OatsAndHall]

Thanks for the response Oats

 

I've gone out with guys who werent my type and been attracted to them so I'm not too picky. I also dont have things on my profile like, 'Dont message me if XYZ' My profile is really upbeat and positive. I'm aware that many people have profiles that seem negative and jaded but mine isnt one of them

 

I know I could end up with a guy whos not my type at all...so I'm not ruling anyone out

 

Before this guy I had taken a break from OLD, but he caught my eye so I decided to go for it

 

As far as any preconcieved notions I have about him, I'm only saying that he sounds like a good guy. I've done OLD long enough to know that people arent always as they seem

 

Well, it's good to see that you're open minded about things. My experiences with OLD have been hit or miss due to many women who are wrapped up in features that I view as inconsequential. I understand having a "type" as I'm not attracted to over-weight women. I've done my best to "not judge a book by it's cover" and have been out with a few heavier-set gals but I just can't see myself being with them, physically. It's unfortunate as they were nice women but I felt bad as we'd go out, I'd be attracted to their personalities but there was little-no physical attraction.

 

And, I really don't but much stock into what people say when messaging unless they say something seriously strange.. I have found that my interaction with women while texting/messaging isn't a generally a good indication of who they are, face to face. I have been on a few dates with women who were very pleasant over text but were aggressive and borderline antagonistic when we dated. But, it does both ways. I don't really let my sarcasm flow when texting/messaging as there's no tone. But, they get a reasonable dose of it on the first date. Some are taken aback by it and some find it charming, it just depends. They know I'm a smart a-- as half of my profile is one long running joke with movie and book references but it really doesn't scratch the surface of how sarcastic I can be. I'm not rude, by any means, but I take pride in my sense of humor.

[Dis]

Ugh. I don't like this because it could delay the date another week.

 

That's another week of texting 2x per day which will get you hooked on his online persona or he might say something to upset you.

 

I purposely don't text a lot before a first date for those reasons. I will have no idea if I like a girl until I meet her in person. Too often people build up a fantasy in their head only to be disappointed when they meet.

 

The bold....really good points there...needed to hear that. I'll keep it in mind

[Dis]

Well, it's good to see that you're open minded about things. My experiences with OLD have been hit or miss due to many women who are wrapped up in features that I view as inconsequential. I understand having a "type" as I'm not attracted to over-weight women. I've done my best to "not judge a book by it's cover" and have been out with a few heavier-set gals but I just can't see myself being with them, physically. It's unfortunate as they were nice women but I felt bad as we'd go out, I'd be attracted to their personalities but there was little-no physical attraction.

 

And, I really don't but much stock into what people say when messaging unless they say something seriously strange.. I have found that my interaction with women while texting/messaging isn't a generally a good indication of who they are, face to face. I have been on a few dates with women who were very pleasant over text but were aggressive and borderline antagonistic when we dated. But, it does both ways. I don't really let my sarcasm flow when texting/messaging as there's no tone. But, they get a reasonable dose of it on the first date. Some are taken aback by it and some find it charming, it just depends. They know I'm a smart a-- as half of my profile is one long running joke with movie and book references but it really doesn't scratch the surface of how sarcastic I can be. I'm not rude, by any means, but I take pride in my sense of humor.

 

LOVE sarcasm and a good sense of humor! You're dates are lucky! Nothing better than a funny guy. Some women have been agressive? Thats strange. Doesnt sound fun. Even though I'm a little worn thin from dating, I've always been a great date. I'm outgoing, friendly and warm.

 

I'm trying to look back and think whether or not my texting/messaging with guys was an accurate representation of how they are in real life. I can say that people def dont let their flaws show over messaging/texting (of course) those take time to come out

 

I think overall, my messages and texts with guys before meeting were pretty close to how they are in real life, except for one...he was so talkative over text but in person he was a dud

 

At the end of the day I do agree that meeting up is the only way to tell if theres attraction and chemistry there

[SevenCity]

 

Thanks for the reality check Seven I think I was looking for problems...I hate that because I always told myself I wouldnt do that no matter how bad things got...I need to be realistic

 

I'm so sorry you havent had any luck I've never had a date misrepresent themselves before but I can imagine its pretty frustrating...I would be pretty unhappy if someone did that to me

 

I hope you can find the strength to keep going while trying to be as optimistic as possible. The right woman is out there....you're just going to have to go on a lot of dates before you find her

 

Good luck with your next date!! And try not to think it wont go well. If you go into the date with a negative mindset...nothing good will come of it. I hope it goes super well and she doesnt turn out to be a psycho lol

 

You're right but my negative attitude is hard to curb. The last girl I dated was great on the first and second date but I ignored some red flags as I didn't want to purposely ruin things. I had the nagging feeling that the other shoe would drop so to speak. Sure enough by date 3 it came down like a hammer.

 

So I started out being very optimistic but 4 months of this and it has taken its toll. The misrepresentation kills the date right off the bat. It's happened 3 times so far and I'm sure last night won't be the last.

 

I'll try to at least be neutral for today's date. On paper we are a great match (more than any of the others) but if she doesn't look like her pics it will kill it.

[Imajerk17]

Hi guys!

 

I have a date with a new guy this Sunday that I met on match. He seems complimentary, intelligent, sweet, inquiring and respectful. He has a great job. He works in the technological side of health care and I'm a student nurse. He's my type physically. If he didnt seem so great....I wouldnt have ventured back into dating

 

I've had some really bad luck with OLD and just dating in general. I always told myself I'd never give up the hope that the right guy is out there but now??? I kind of feel apathy or hesitance towards that idea....I dont know what happened to me....

 

I dont know much about this guy. He messages me everyday, quality messages.... but only once or twice a day....so...I'm trying to figure out whats wrong with him??? Hahahaha He's very attractive so I'm wondering if he's really cocky or a player but I KNOW I cant judge him because of that

 

I'm just so used to things going wrong...I dont know how they can go right at this point

 

How do I remain hopeful and brush off the feeling of being jaded and preparing for disappointment???

 

Thanks guys!!!

 

Look at it this way....everyone out there who has been looking for the one yet is still single is also all too used to "things going wrong" as well--otherwise they'd be in a relationship themselves already. This includes the guy you are talking to.

 

Enjoy your date!

[BlueRidgeMT]

I agree with this... I think you're strongly over-reacting to the situation given that you haven't even met. All of your interactions have been via the internet yet you've already established a strong opinion about this guy and expectations for him. Folks need to ditch the idea that OLD sites actually have something to do with dating when they don't, in reality. They allow you to meet someone, set up a date and go from there. Any pre-conceived notions you have about someone before you actually meet them are contorted by technological space.

 

I will add one final thing. I have read many women comment about how a guy is or isn't their "physical type" on this site while expressing frustration over dating. By doing this, you're hacking potential quality dates down significantly. If you state that a dark haired guy isn't your "type" then you've cut the dating pool down by half half. If you state that you won't date anyone with facial hair, well, you've just cut it down further. If you take it another step further and are fussy about their hair length, then you've just whittled the dating pool down to less than 25% of the available men out there. Oh, let's not forget those women that are solely looking for the "athletic" body type. Now, tie in other factors: whether or not they want kids, their employment/education level, hobbies, (etc) and you've pigeon holed yourself significantly. You can whittle a dating pool down from 100 guys to 5 in a hurry.. And, these are generally the same women who's profile includes something about being jaded or "having their hearts broken".

 

Now, I'm not typing this out of frustration: it's just a reality. I'm a reasonably good looking guy who's active, works out and takes care of himself. But, I can't help but laugh when my blond hair, goatee (or any other physical trait) become deal breakers for them. These are the same women that I run across on OLD sites, even after taking 6+ month long breaks from them.

 

So, my suggestion to the OP is this: ditch SOME parameters of your "physical type" and you'll probably have more luck with dating. To be blunt, if you just can't imagine yourself on a date with (insert physical trait) then you need to reevaluate your priorities.

 

 

 

 

Uhh..okay. EVERY SINGLE THING you said could be turned around and said by a WOMAN regarding MEN. Please! Men are HUGE on what a woman looks like. OMG. HUGE. Pfft! You would have been better off just saying PEOPLE in general may need to ease up on strict expectations, etc.

[OatsAndHall]

LOVE sarcasm and a good sense of humor! You're dates are lucky! Nothing better than a funny guy. Some women have been agressive? Thats strange. Doesnt sound fun. Even though I'm a little worn thin from dating, I've always been a great date. I'm outgoing, friendly and warm.

 

I'm trying to look back and think whether or not my texting/messaging with guys was an accurate representation of how they are in real life. I can say that people def dont let their flaws show over messaging/texting (of course) those take time to come out

 

I think overall, my messages and texts with guys before meeting were pretty close to how they are in real life, except for one...he was so talkative over text but in person he was a dud

 

At the end of the day I do agree that meeting up is the only way to tell if theres attraction and chemistry there

 

Thank you. I use my borderline ludicrous profile weed out women that wouldn't enjoy my sense of humor. Some of them think I'm just trolling the sites with it but I don't care.

 

Yes, I've been out on three dates with women who felt they needed to establish some level of "dominance" which is obviously a serious turn-off. One woman asked me if I was an "alpha male" and told her that I treated people with the same respect they treated me with. She didn't care for that answer and claimed she was an "alpha female". And then proceeded to be abrasive and weird through out the date. It was weird. I've never understood it as I don't give off an air of machismo or arrogance during a date. I'm just relaxed, laid back and just try to engage in fun conversation. My hobbies (lifting, Highland Games, etc..) can give women the impression that I'm a macho gorilla but I never come across the way in conversation.

 

I avoid drawn out texting/messaging conversations via OLD sites as much as I can. I used to but I got tired of it. I chat for a few days and then ask them out. Some women feel that it's "pushy" but I let them know that I'm interested in them, that I want to meet them face-face and that I don't care for texting/messaging much. Most are okay with it but some (particularly millenials) think that messaging me for a week is "getting to know me". Nope and nope.

[Dis]

Hi guys!

 

So I was on the way to the mall to get a new outfit for the date and I got hit directly in my drivers side door by a snow plow truck

 

I was taken to the hospital and got 6 stiches in my lip, I have a concussion, my jaw is a little displaced and I have a chip facture in one of my knuckles.... but it couldve been so much worse

 

Apparently some cute fire fighters were looking after me on the scene of the accident but I was too concussed to remember (of course) )...I think I'll bake them some cookies and bring them down to the station in a dew days

 

So, the date will have to be postponed as I am a hot mess lol

[Sweetfish]

Hi guys!

 

So I was on the way to the mall to get a new outfit for the date and I got hit directly in my drivers side door by a snow plow truck

 

I was taken to the hospital and got 6 stiches in my lip, I have a concussion, my jaw is a little displaced and I have a chip facture in one of my knuckles.... but it couldve been so much worse

 

Apparently some cute fire fighters were looking after me on the scene of the accident but I was too concussed to remember (of course) )...I think I'll bake them some cookies and bring them down to the station in a dew days

 

So, the date will have to be postponed as I am a hot mess lol

 

Hope you ok with the accident...I know they can be a real shock.

Sounds like the dating gods are working hard to keep you two separated