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Is it true that those who care the least are the ones with the most power?

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CaliforniaGirl Established Member

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I'm not saying it makes her weak just saying that from my point of view it seems like because I didn't get triggered from her insult she realized she didn't have power over me. That's all. She said herself, "I can't keep holding grudges anymore." Just a little weird is all. Again it's just an observation I'm making. Not saying I want it to be that way it just seems that way just from the way she behaved.

 

I actually took your response to be very emotional and triggered, with the whole all-caps "really????" thing.

 

She for sure got under your skin.

 

You're not over her.

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ZayKayWill Established Member

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I actually took your response to be very emotional and triggered, with the whole all-caps "really????" thing.

 

She for sure got under your skin.

 

You're not over her.

 

Just because I'm over somebody doesn't mean I don't still care. This happened years ago

 

And just FYI me and her are still friends and I was friends with her boyfriend as well (who is her ex now). Yeah, I'm definitely not over her yet, right? Lmao whatever. Getting really tired of people assuming they know who I am and what MY OWN feelings are.

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Redhead14 Established Member

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This subject is not about who cares the least . . . it's about not having a stranglehold on a partner and allowing/giving freedom and trust and respect to the other person so that they don't feel smothered and want to be with that person and not want do anything to destroy that. It makes them want to keep that person in their lives.

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Not caring doesn't give you power. Setting boundaries gives you the power to walk away from bad behavior and refuse to be drawn into an argument (like on FB with your ex). Your feelings do tie in with it, as it's easier to say "no" or "screw you" to someone you don't really care about. But you don't NEED to not care about someone to do that.

CaliforniaGirl Established Member

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Just because I'm over somebody doesn't mean I don't still care. This happened years ago

 

And just FYI me and her are still friends and I was friends with her boyfriend as well (who is her ex now). Yeah, I'm definitely not over her yet, right? Lmao whatever. Getting really tired of people assuming they know who I am and what MY OWN feelings are.

 

Can I be frank? We're not assuming; we're going off what you're telling us, and showing us. What you're showing us is an all-caps, emotional response on FB, plus enough vested feeling in this that you've approached thousands of strangers on a forum about it even though, if it were just a super-quick spat, it should have been over and done with in a minute or two and then forgotten.

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dragonfire13 Established Member

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Yup sounds about right; the person who cares less will obviously feel less of the hurt once a romantic situation ends. But interestingly, like you said the tables can always turn. Once you yourself start to move on and care less...guess who's back? :-P

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ZayKayWill Established Member

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Yup sounds about right; the person who cares less will obviously feel less of the hurt once a romantic situation ends. But interestingly, like you said the tables can always turn. Once you yourself start to move on and care less...guess who's back? :-P

 

Mhm exactly.

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