JS17 Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 don't let some dumb shmuck darken your days. there's way too much to live for and he's soooooo not worth your time. he's a total d!ckhead s***face numbnuts loser. try doing that....you'll feel so much better
katty Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 don't let some dumb shmuck darken your days. there's way too much to live for and he's soooooo not worth your time. he's a total d!ckhead s***face numbnuts loser. try doing that....you'll feel so much better Ok JS17 I am going to try your therapy method. He is soooooo not worth my time. He is a total d---head sh--face numbnuts loser who obviously is still attached to his mommys hind tit. Ok I added a little but you are right. I said it out loud and that felt even better. He is just a pathetic, immature, scum sucking son of a b---- from he--. Yes JS17 I feel much better but now I am thinking I might need to go to anger management or at least wash my potty mouth out with soap. lol Thanks, I am really trying to survive, this is the longest we have ever went without talking. Oh well who cares, he is a stupid sob anyway. lol thanks JS17 for being so great.
JS17 Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 no problem. i have my own immature sh-tface numbnuts limpdick cheating lying son of a b-tch ex and i haven't wanted to speak to his sorry a$$ in 5 months cause he's a shmuck and his girlfriend is a tart wow, that felt good. i also have a journal where i write down my real feelings (i'm not really this angry ), letters that i've wanted to send to him, and such and i've found it to be a good release. also, make sure that you're doing fun stuff for yourself now that you're single again...woo hoo, margaritas! keep yellin it out katty
katty Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 JS17 How did you know martaritas are my favorite. I am trying to resist drinking because I have known from past rs in my past that I do great with no contact until I get drunk then the liquid courage takes over and I do the drunk dial routine, you know where you either, 1_Slur out profanity and tell them how much I hate them, etc. 2_Declare my undying love, ugh. 3_the weeping poor pitiful drunk talk, None of these are very appealing and it made me lose my own self respect, etc. so I am trying to be careful.....however.....I did go out with my gfs last Sat. night and got pretty drunk and I didn't do any of those, could it be that I am growing up, nah, just getting a little wiser, maybe. I just wish I lived in a better area bc this place is a ghost town. I am job searching in larger cities and plan on moving as soon as I get a new job in a larger town.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 Originally posted by katty Reluctant Romeo, so did you drag Juliet for that tattoo yet. Can't decide what to write yet... maybe something like "If you're close enough to read this, you're dating the wrong girl". Or "caution - may explode without warning in a dating context". Or something pharmaceutical, like "take in moderation - side-effects include nausea, confusion and sudden loneliness". Or just a poison sign with skull and cross-bones... the possibilities are endless. JS17,woggle,and Reluctant Romeo you have brightened my day. I was just about in tears again today, until I read your post. Thanks for making me smile. Kat Our pleasure. Romeo
JS17 Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 well i figured i'd try it here although i might be asking the wrong crowd. one of my guy friends told me last night that he thought i was bitter about men and should be more optimistic. any idea how to do that?
katty Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 I have heard that before, matter of fact, I have a friend that turned really bitter after her husband left her for a younger girl, I have had my share of a--holes but I am not giving them anymore than they have already taken, or deserve, I will not get bitter bc they would enjoy that to much. Just keep remembering how the one that caused you this pain would love it if it turned you bitter and just refuse to be that way. Does that make sense?
Pyro Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 well i figured i'd try it here although i might be asking the wrong crowd. one of my guy friends told me last night that he thought i was bitter about men and should be more optimistic. any idea how to do that? You just need to meet a great guy. Everyone will meet plenty of as$holes in there life before they meet a great guy/girl. I myself have some resentment toward girls just because of how my previous relationship ended, but I won't let it stop me from meeting a great girl. Best of luck to you all and I hope that your resentment toward us guys will fade away.
katty Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 well, I guess it really is totally over, he dumped me and then called me every other day but now he has stopped contacting me, Early Sunday morning he called and that has been the last of the calls. I guess I should be relieved but to be honest I miss him like crazy, I am dying to hear from him, don't worry I will not break the no contact, I have too much pride for that. I am just really sad that a rs that was going so well could go down hill so fast. I hate that I miss him, I hate that I want to hear from him, I hate that I miss waking up with him, I hate that he has obviously moved on without giving me a second thought. I am pathetic for feeling this way, OK who am I kidding I hate myself. I know without anyone lecturing me that I shouldn't care or miss the a--hole but I do, I just can't help it. I really want to talk to him. I am so close to calling him even though I know it will make me feel worse, and yes he will get too much satisfaction out of it. God I hate these urges to hear from him, well at least when he was calling me I felt I had the upper hand now I am actually thinking about giving him the upper hand. AARRGGGHHH somebody just shoot me please.
JS17 Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 do everything you possibly can to not call him. put post its all over your house and phone if you have to. you know it's only going to make you feel worse if you do it. i say don't waste any of your precious time on him but if you have to, instead of calling him write a letter then rip it up. i saved some of mine and now i look back on them and i just think, "holy crap, i'm so glad i didn't send that". you're not going to stop missing him yet and you're not a loser for missing him, you know everyone goes through this and you're totally normal. it's just gonna take some time.
katty Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 JS17, I know you are right, and I know I shouldn't but I really want to. I think the reason it is bothering me so much today is bc it is stormy outside and my little monthly monster is visiting and I know I am alot more emotional right before (PMS) and during. I have never went this long without talking to him. Do you think he even thinks about how long it has been since he last called or do you think this is a sign that he is now totally over me and our rs? I know I shouldn't even care but I still love him, if our breakup had gotten ugly, or during his phone calls if I could have finally gotten mad and angry maybe I would get over him. I hate this bulls---.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 Originally posted by katty Do you think he even thinks about how long it has been since he last called or do you think this is a sign that he is now totally over me and our rs? He probably thinks about you sometimes, even if he's over you. I know I shouldn't even care but I still love him, if our breakup had gotten ugly, or during his phone calls if I could have finally gotten mad and angry maybe I would get over him. I hate this bulls---. In some ways, this is the most difficult type of breakup to bear. You don't have anything to hang it on
totallyconfused Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 katty i completely understand what your going through. i miss my ex so much, well at least the ex that had truly loved me. our breakup was like the worst of the worsts - completely blown up b/c i had caught him cheating on me red handed and confronted the 2 girls about it. not physically cheating on me, it was like with little online girls 8-10 years younger than him. it was disgusting. so it is a teeny weenie bit easier for me to get over him b/c of anger and disgust. but i still feel for ya, when u say that u miss him and u hate missing him. he stopped calling me a week ago, but then he called to ask me for sympathy/condolence b/c his stepdad is dying any time now. but right after he calls me for comfort, what does this a$$ do? he goes and puts his little pre-pubescent pic of his new gf up on his website. today is the first day that i didnt look at that crap site, im not even gonna look at his website anymore. he is deliberately and intentionally trying to hurt me, so fekk it. still i miss the old him, we hadnt been like arguing right before the break up, it didnt go sour or anything, it went BAD once i found out the cheating, and i dont put up with shlt like that. i tell myself that the one who loved me died, and this guy is a complete selfish stranger to me now. its hard, i dont have anyone to say i love you and goodnight anymore. but i realized that i have a million more friends and even had the nerve to finally ask this coworker out to lunch. it was 4 years of trust shattered, and it wud never be the same. it feels better to start fresh w/o all that crappy baggage. unlike his new gf, whom he cheated on multiple times. cant start a good relationship when that happens ya kno? look at singledom optimistically - its time to have fun with the girls and time to check out all those cute men out there and go meat shopping. lol just dont do anything too sexual until u find a good one.
katty Posted July 29, 2005 Posted July 29, 2005 I know everyone is right and I need to embrace single life and just enjoy it, however I am too old to start hanging out at the bars and stuff again, besides all of my friends are married with children and I feel like an outsider looking in. I know this pain will end but right now it just sucks. Thank you everyone for being so sweet and patient with me and for all of the nice replies. I don't think I could get thru this right now without the LoveShack forum.
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