katty Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Sorry guys but I really am. I am so aggravated right now and if I was confused yesterday about my ex bf and why he is calling I am not anymore, also I have decided I don't want to be his stinkin friend, I've had it. I am totally done with him bc there is no sense in another human being acting so stupid. As all of you may already know he broke up with me last Sat. and then called me on Sunday with a pathetic excuse about a rumor and then got mad bc I went on a date Sat. night. He then called on Wed. and then again on Thursday morning. He suggested that we go out tonight but we didn't make any plans, he said he would call later, well he finally called today around 4:30 all chipper and happy. He acted almost as if he had not even suggested our going out tnite, instead he talked about how he was suppose to go out of town but now he wasn't and that he and his sister were going to do something, but if he did anything fun he would give me a call. He said I'll call you later ok. OK I realize that I never gave him an answer about going out but it makes me mad that he is going back and forth bc his swaying is driving me insane. Don't I have a right to be angry? Am I making to much out of this? I guess I am just mad that I don't really have the upper hand like I thought I might have. I think I honestly thought he was regretting the breakup. I have been made a fool out of once again but I am thru waiting on him to make up his mind. From here on out when he calls me I am not going to pick up. It is so hard for me not to bc I have come to realize that I care very deeply from him even though he has turned out to be such a jerk. Why do guys have to act this way? Why do they decide they need to break up just when everything is going perfectly? Why do they do this, only to call you a few days later and f--- with your head some more? Sorry to be male bashing I am just really upset right now. Thanks for letting me vent.
SilentLucidity Posted July 24, 2005 Posted July 24, 2005 His mindgames are a bit silly. Really. I say to tell him to quit playing around and if he can't be straight forward and stick to the matters at hand or what he suggested then don't bother calling you. End of situation!
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by katty Why do guys have to act this way? Why do they decide they need to break up just when everything is going perfectly? Why do they do this, only to call you a few days later and f--- with your head some more? If it helps you any, my experience is of GIRLS doing this. I guess some people just behave badly. Whatever their gender. Sorry to be male bashing I am just really upset right now. Thanks for letting me vent. That's ok. It's tempting to start hating the opposite sex when you're hurt.
JS17 Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 i'm beginning to really hate men too so you're not alone
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 i'm beginning to really hate men too so you're not alone
Guest Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 i'm beginning to really hate men too so you're not alone I also hate women , so we are same
katty Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 wouldn't it be nice, since apparently, it isn't a male or female thing but just a particular type of person, it would be nice if that type of person came with a warning label stamped right across their forehead. That way we would know what to expect and woudn't fall into their trap. Still having a bad time coping. I hate that I am feeling this way right now because I should be feeling somewhat better now since he is no longer calling me but instead I feel worse. I wish I had never met him and that is really sad bc I really did think he was a pretty cool guy. I should have just stayed away from him and insisted on just being friends.
JS17 Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 yup, all totally normal things to be thinking. the good news is it doesn't get too much harder from here on out....things should only get easier
katty Posted July 26, 2005 Posted July 26, 2005 So today hasn't been any better. I hate how crazy my mind is lately, when he was calling it was giving me this small thrill that he was making contact only to make me feel worse later, however now that he hasn't called in 2 days I am severely depressed. Work has been lousy and I just can't get out of this depressed state no matter what I do. I just want these bad feelings to go away.
Candy Cane Posted July 26, 2005 Posted July 26, 2005 Yeah, I don't know why you answer the phone when he finally called. You should let him squirm for a bit over his actions and make him THINK. It's too bad that you are depressed. You should really try to get out of that slump and stop thinking about El-Jerko. Why don't you join a dating service or do something really fun? If your job sucks, why not look for a new one or maybe think about moving somewhere or taking a vacation...or something. Seriously...think about the dating service. Although you might not find a replacement to El-Jerko (because he does sound like one of a kind) at least you can maybe get your mind off of him. Getting positive male attention from someone else is really a ego boost. Ciao!!
katty Posted July 26, 2005 Posted July 26, 2005 CandyCane, Thanks for the advice. I own my own business and financially it just hasn't been that great and I am having to take a second job. As for the dating service, I have guys I can go out with I just don't want to fall into a rebound rs and I have a habit of doing that and really hurt an innocent guy a few years ago by doing so. He was there when I really needed someone and bc I had not had that type of attention from the ex I soaked it all up for a while, but soon realized that it just wasn't working for me and I really hurt him and I am trying my best not to hurt someone else on account of my own heartache. Besides I try to take healing time before dating too much. I have been on some dates but just don't feel up to it right now. I appreciate all of your great advice and I will try and do better. I know I should not have answered the phone, I should have been too busy for him, just as he has been for me but as much as I would like to say I won't answer the phone, when it rings and I see it is him on the other line, I swear my heart skips a beat. Arggghhh I hate these feelings. Thanks for everything and I will try to take your advice.
ms. biz Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Can relate to everything you said. I feel like I need a shrink or something. I'm obsessing. It really really really really really really blows. I'm too old, smart and pretty to STAY so "hung up". I've been "dating" (ok one date) and it just made me compare. Situations like this of which we speak, really make me want to go lesbo, exchange my brain for a man's brain, hate men, think I'm defective beyond repair, drink alot, want to have a one night stand everynight of the week, sink to a low level of behavior and last but not least....NEVER FALL IN LOVE AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!(as if I could help it)
Candy Cane Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by ms. biz Can relate to everything you said. I feel like I need a shrink or something. I'm obsessing. It really really really really really really blows. I'm too old, smart and pretty to STAY so "hung up". I've been "dating" (ok one date) and it just made me compare. Situations like this of which we speak, really make me want to go lesbo, exchange my brain for a man's brain, hate men, think I'm defective beyond repair, drink alot, want to have a one night stand everynight of the week, sink to a low level of behavior and last but not least....NEVER FALL IN LOVE AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!(as if I could help it) Maybe all you girls need a good cry.
katty Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 ms.biz, I laughed when I read your post bc I said the same things to my mom the other day. This really does suck but I know we will make it and unfortunately we will not be able to help ourselves from loving again. Thanks ms.biz
katty Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 ms.biz, I laughed when I read your post bc I said the same things to my mom the other day. This really does suck but I know we will make it and unfortunately we will not be able to help ourselves from loving again. Thanks ms.biz
ms. biz Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Hey. Thank you for the lollie link. Not a cure but does offer concrete suggestions. Also, to candycane....all cried out and still crying. Hey but thanks for the advice (unless you were being ironic since we are "crying" so much online )
Candy Cane Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by ms. biz Hey. Thank you for the lollie link. Not a cure but does offer concrete suggestions. Also, to candycane....all cried out and still crying. Hey but thanks for the advice (unless you were being ironic since we are "crying" so much online ) Nope. Not being ironic or sarcastic. I think crying is very healthy in these situations.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by katty wouldn't it be nice, since apparently, it isn't a male or female thing but just a particular type of person, it would be nice if that type of person came with a warning label stamped right across their forehead. That way we would know what to expect and woudn't fall into their trap. Good idea! I'm off to tattoo something on Juliet's forehead right away...
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by Woggle I hate women. Now how long did that take... wondered when *you*'d be along to join this particular party
Woggle Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Now how long did that take... wondered when *you*'d be along to join this particular party At least I'm honest about it. I look in the mirror every morning and shout I hate women at the top of my lungs 50 times. It makes my teeth whiter. I am a proud misogynist.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by Woggle At least I'm honest about it. True. You're past the denial stage of break-up... although I'm guessing you're no stranger to the anger stage. Personally, I'm in the humour stage. Bear with me on this I look in the mirror every morning and shout I hate women at the top of my lungs 50 times. It makes my teeth whiter. Glad I don't get to see this particular ritual
JS17 Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by Woggle At least I'm honest about it. I look in the mirror every morning and shout I hate women at the top of my lungs 50 times. It makes my teeth whiter. I am a proud misogynist. s***. is that what i'm doing wrong? every morning from now on i'm going to get up and scream i hate men at the top of my lungs. maybe it will even make my boobs shrink.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 maybe it will even make my boobs shrink. Otherwise I could come round and help you with some special massaging...
katty Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 woggle, I am going to try your method and it even seems even more enticing if I could get my boobs to shrink, definitely don't need my teeth any whiter but wouldn't mind the boobs being smaller. OK that settles it tomorrow morning I am going to get up and scream I hate men in the mirror, the only problem is that makes me a liar because I do hate the things men do but damn I still love men. See how confused I am. Reluctant Romeo, Good idea! I'm off to tattoo something on Juliet's forehead right away... so did you drag Juliet for that tattoo yet. JS17,woggle,and Reluctant Romeo you have brightened my day. I was just about in tears again today, until I read your post. Thanks for making me smile. Kat
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