InLoveIdiot85 Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 I'm currently seeing a girl that I believe is entirely too cute for me, and we sort of have a long distance relationship. We're about 50 miles apart and we don't have cars. And a few days I revealed my little secret: I have a slight stuttering problem. Don't get me wrong, it's not the kind that causes me to go into facial seizures, but I just really, truly love her and if I lost her because of this, it would kill me. She says she's not shallow and it's no big deal, but she has been acting kind of differently since I told her. She's more quiet and not as lovey. She said it was from lack of sleep, but it's like she talks to me like I'm a friend now. Also on that night, her ex-boyfriend tried putting her down, saying we'd never see each other again. She used to be so excited to be with me, but not so much now. I've asked her many times and she said she wouldn't lead me on if she didn't want to be with me, but I don't know, maybe I'm just paranoid and clingy. Plus, the factor of us not being able to see each other much really does hurt. It may be a month or two before I get a car and am able to go see her. We have met once, last weekend, thanks to her sister in law driving her here, and since then, I've missed her so much it makes me sad. Okay, I'm just rambling at this point. I mean, if you loved someone and they revealed something like that, would you keep loving them?
Pendawn Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Even if I DIDN'T love them, it wouldn't make any difference. A stutter is not a negative quality (eg like admitting you have slept around/caheted on ex's/have a drug addiction etc etc) it is simply a little social difference - like people who blush excessively etc. i dont' see how it would affect your attractiveness to any mature person. If she is less keen on you because of it then you are best off without someone like that. Sounds to me though that she could be rethinking because of the long distance problem, if she is rethinking at all.
Marshbear Posted July 23, 2005 Posted July 23, 2005 My advise is to back off the "is there a problem" on her because if there isn't a problem now there will be if you continue this pitiful woe. No one wants to be badgered with " are we alright? Is everything ok?" retort. This is sure fire relationship killer. Just continue as you have and if there is something you will find out in due time.
rookie416 Posted July 23, 2005 Posted July 23, 2005 Just because you told her that you have a studdering problem shouldnt bother her. That shows that you are honest and feel comfortable enough to tell her so. When your in a relationship you take that person for eveything they have to offer...the good and bad. You accept them for what they are. If something like that bothers her enough to act different then maybe you need to rethink your relationship with her. I know thats easier said than done but...maybe there is a better girl that lives in your town that will accept you just the way you are. Hope everything works out!
laRubiaBonita Posted July 23, 2005 Posted July 23, 2005 Originally posted by InLoveIdiot85 I'm currently seeing a girl that I believe is entirely too cute for me........we don't have cars. And a few days I revealed my little secret: I have a slight stuttering problem. ? do you not talk with her ever???? how does she NOT know ? Originally posted by InLoveIdiot85 but she has been acting kind of differently since I told her. She's more quiet and not as lovey. She said it was from lack of sleep, but it's like she talks to me like I'm a friend now. Also on that night, her ex-boyfriend tried putting her down, saying we'd never see each other again. soo if he like you soo much, why is she still in contact with her ex? Originally posted by Marshbear My advise is to back off the "is there a problem" on her because if there isn't a problem now there will be if you continue this pitiful woe. No one wants to be badgered with " are we alright? Is everything ok?" retort. This is sure fire relationship killer. Just continue as you have and if there is something you will find out in due time. i second that!
Author InLoveIdiot85 Posted July 23, 2005 Author Posted July 23, 2005 Well, it isn't that bad, and I have talked to her alot. I just refrained from long sentences, stuff like that. But I figured it was gonna happen sooner or later, and I wanted to see if she really did love me for me.
tyrell babby Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 me and my girl was dating for 6 months and we were in love id go visit every weekend then i started losing feeling because her mother didnt approve of us then shed turn around and be cool with us dating then shed change her mind and i got tired of that. and we broke up so she ended up calling me a month later and we started talking agian and then we got back together. for a bout five months then we broke up agian cuz she met a guy at a party and said he was better off than me because he had a job and he was going to school and she said she was looking for something different because i wasnt doing anything with my life cause i had no job and i was failing to get back in school. then a month or three weeks passed and she had been telling her friend that she missed me and her friend told her to call me and weve been talking since but she said told me at the begining that she didnt want a commitment because he was talking bout marriage and i guess he turned her off from the dating scene because he was talking bout marriage and she didnt wanna feel tied down but its like were to gether we talk when we see each other its like were together we have a commitment that i cant talk to girls and she cant talk to boys like were dating. and the first three weeks she was so into me like we never sperated. then i went to visit her and i stayed three days and it was good then i left and she told me she was missing me and was depressed. and now since i left shes been trying to keep herself busy so she wont get depressed. and i had a chancew to go stay with her but she said no cuz she just got out of her depression and she didnt wanna go there again and since shes been trynna keep herself busy we dont talk much and i was just wonder is it me or is she just trynna wein herself from me to keep her from hurting but i guess ill have to let time tell how she really feels. when were on the phone she acts as if she can do with out me but when were in person and she she sees me its like she cant drive herself away from me
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