leehappy1 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 so I have recently been talking to this girl online and we are getting on really well. we have planned to meet up in a few weeks... here is the problem... the last girl I was dating told me I was too clingy and so that broke down. I don't want to come across annoying or clingy to this new girl as we get on really well. any advice
d0nnivain Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Do not disclose everything about yourself on the 1st meet. Let her take the lead on contact. You limit yourself to once every other day. Keep a timer near you when you talk on the phone. Keep the conversation no longer than 20 minutes. Again you are saving it for when you are together in person. Have no more than 2-3 dates per week, of about 4 hours each. Ask Qs but do offer info about yourself. Have other things going on in your life. Make a point to see your friends 1-2x per week while you are dating. Don't ask for or accept last minute dates. Put some planning & forethought into it.
lurker74 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Do not disclose everything about yourself on the 1st meet. Let her take the lead on contact. You limit yourself to once every other day. Keep a timer near you when you talk on the phone. Keep the conversation no longer than 20 minutes. Again you are saving it for when you are together in person. Have no more than 2-3 dates per week, of about 4 hours each. Ask Qs but do offer info about yourself. Or how about none of this? Sure, don't be clingy and give her room to breathe but be yourself and wait until you meet the person who likes who you are. All the other stuff is the "games" that most people claim they hate to play or never play. Just remember...it will be much easier in the long run if she falls for YOU rather than who you are pretending to be.
preraph Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Don't be overly eager and decide you're ready to marry her on the first two dates. Anyone with sense will realize you're just in love with some ideal that you are hoping they'll live up to and that you're not mature, and won't keep going out with you. If you feel you have to know what they're doing all the time, that's your insecurity, not their problem, so you need to deal with that in therapy or it will continue to ruin every relationship you have. Don't text all the time. Do it when you want to ask her out or tell her good night or whatever. Working people don't have time for mindless texting and more importantly, it leaves you with zero to talk about on a real date because you've already told them everything. Be restrained about all that. Good luck.
coolheadal Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 (edited) so I have recently been talking to this girl online and we are getting on really well. we have planned to meet up in a few weeks... here is the problem... the last girl I was dating told me I was too clingy and so that broke down. I don't want to come across annoying or clingy to this new girl as we get on really well. any advice You need to be more confident, and know that you can have any women you want too. Stand-up and repeat after me in a mirror. I know I can do this I know I am stronger than ever before I know that I can be better than anyone I know that I do not have to be clingy any longer. I know if the woman wants me she'll be with me always. I know I can do this! Repeat this 10 times. 5 times out loud and 5 times silently. Now be yourself take a few deep breath and say the word relax after each one.! Be Positive okay! Good Luck! Edited February 9, 2017 by coolheadal
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