LookAtThisPOst Posted February 11, 2017 Posted February 11, 2017 You know Look, maybe we should just give up I think the best place to meet people is kind of friends-of-friends scenarios. Not really an option for me since due to my career, I have never lived in the same city for more than few years at the time. Makes it kind of hard to establish solid friendships that would branch off to introductions to a small % of single people at our age. You ever thought about going into a profession that doesn't require to move around so much? Just a typical drive to work, work 8 hrs, then come home to a husband/ boyfriend? Same for him? I knew of some women in careers like yourself on these sites that had admitted spending the first half of their lives embedded in their careers...then around 40-ish, they decided to kick it to the curb and find a place to plant roots.....ya know? I have a female friend, 50, never married no kids. She has quite a few friends that are retired already...and she says she never plans on retiring. I am like "Really?" Apparently, she doesn't plan on drawing a SS /retirement check when she reaches 62 1/2, and will continue to work. This kind of explains why she's been single for so long. The men kind of get fed up that she never has time for them and they move on to someone that does.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 11, 2017 Posted February 11, 2017 You know Logo, I think you just aren't taking the long view. Eventually, due to mortality differences, the women significantly outnumber the men and the dating pool gets larger. The nursing homes my Dad was in have all been predominantly women, some clearly on the prowl. So in your place I'd just bide my time. I figure by the time I hit 90 I'd be knee-deep in the..., well you know! ..lol.. *shoots herself* #nohope
SevenCity Posted February 11, 2017 Posted February 11, 2017 I can clearly see what your problem is straight off the bat! Your too aggressive and to nice all at the same time. If your interested in one of the girls you should NOT pull her away from her friends.. EVER. You need to stay and entertain all the girls. Introduce your self and be friendly to all of them.. get the girl you like her facebook. No one wants to give out numbers anymore. Now you have a way to get a telephone number later. that's because she is actively thinking about the guy who will get into her pants. She will constantly be on guard.. that's just life. stop asking for telephone numbers and just go for the Facebook. Then there are the women that I could be exchanging messages with for a few days and when I finally try to move things forward by asking for their number or to meet someplace public, they stop responding. So it's gotten to the point that I just don't send out messages and just wait to see if someone contacts me. Stop asking and start telling them. No no no. If a woman is interested in you she will have no issue giving a phone number. Hell, if she wants you to go away she will give a fake number or screen you out through voicemail. You want to work the group but it's not until you can separate her that she is showing true interest. Online, there are plenty of women looking for attention. They will message back and forth and then disappear once you bring up a phone conversation. That's a good thing. It shows she is wasting your time. I've run into many like this. What I do is message back and forth like 4 times then tell them I would like to speak on the phone to get to know them better. Some disappear, some take my number, others give me theirs. The ones that disappear are wasting my time and looking for attention. Goodbye. Ask any woman on here, if she is interested in a guy will she hesitate to give her number? Logo is running into the same struggles a lot of guys do. It's a numbers game. On average if you ask out 100 women, 10-15 will go out with you. Out of those 2-3 will sleep with you. Online is even worse due to the sheer volume of messages a girl gets. I agree you are better off waiting for them to come to you online but a lot of women will not. They still expect the guy to make the first move.
CptInsano Posted February 11, 2017 Posted February 11, 2017 OLD has made me realise that I'm in like 98th percentile of sanity and having my life together for my age (and I'm actually far from being that sane). The amount of men that were unemployed, broke, living with parents, emotionally broken from nasty divorces or just 40 year old frat boys that still went clubbing and heavy drinking on bi-weekly basis was astounding. The small % of men my age that seemed to have their life together (I'm in late 30s) only chased after 25 year old model look-alikes and then complained about horrible luck. And I'm talking here about average looking men with average jobs that just seemed kind of stable with no glaring red flags or horrible baggage. Not rich hotties by any stretch. I wonder to what degree that is a result of OLD. I'm a fairly extroverted guy, and between work, pubs, public transportation, waiting rooms, the gym, or even the wine bar at my local grocery store, I never saw the need to try OLD because I was meeting enough women IRL. You will most likely never meet guys like me with your current approach, and that may skew your overall perception.
4kad Posted February 11, 2017 Posted February 11, 2017 I can clearly see what your problem is straight off the bat! Your too aggressive and to nice all at the same time. If your interested in one of the girls you should NOT pull her away from her friends.. EVER. You need to stay and entertain all the girls. Introduce your self and be friendly to all of them.. get the girl you like her facebook. No one wants to give out numbers anymore. Now you have a way to get a telephone number later. that's because she is actively thinking about the guy who will get into her pants. She will constantly be on guard.. that's just life. stop asking for telephone numbers and just go for the Facebook. Then there are the women that I could be exchanging messages with for a few days and when I finally try to move things forward by asking for their number or to meet someplace public, they stop responding. So it's gotten to the point that I just don't send out messages and just wait to see if someone contacts me. Stop asking and start telling them. Im.not giving a woman online my.facebook 1
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