Jj66 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Had a great few days with my girlfriend. We were sitting on the couch next to each other having an intimate conversation punctuated with occasional humor. The subject shifted to a meta-conversation about friendship. At some point, she said to me "sometimes I wish you were a girl". I made a joke of course and the conversation shifted to something else and we never got back to it. Now, sitting here at home, I'm wondering what she meant by that. I don't remember the preceding context but I know it wasn't a sexual thing. Any insight from the ladies here? Did you ever wish your boyfriend were a girl? If so, why?
Dis Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Oh the number of times I wished my exs had a female mentality are endless lol What she meant is that women can understand other women in a way that men cant...men's minds just work differently than ours Please dont worry about her comment though...its just something all women think from time to time As long as you're listening to her and connecting...you have nothing to be worried about
preraph Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Maybe so you'd like to go do girl things and watch girl movies or not watch sports.
Gaeta Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 What a funny thing to say. I don't remember ever wishing my BF (or any boyfriend) were a woman lol. The only circumstance I can think of where I'd say that would be I wish you were a woman for a moment and finally see for yourself how aggravating it can be to have big boobs ! 3
RecentChange Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Heh, I guess it's something *many* women might think. I have never thought that for a moment, but I usually understand men better than I do women, and share more common interests with men. So your GF threw you for a loop with that one.... I had a boyfriend ask "do you ever wish you were a man?" Which threw me for a loop! But - he clarified - not that he thought that I wished to be transexual or anything, just that I seemed to indentify with guys more.
Dis Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 What a funny thing to say. I don't remember ever wishing my BF (or any boyfriend) were a woman lol. The only circumstance I can think of where I'd say that would be I wish you were a woman for a moment and finally see for yourself how aggravating it can be to have big boobs ! Ugh...my back is in constant pain!
PogoStick Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Hey it's hard work lugging around this giant dick! A little empathy please. 2
mortensorchid Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 I have no idea what that was supposed to mean. Really. 1
Author Jj66 Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 Starting to remember some context and maybe relevant history. About two months ago, eight to nine months into the relationship we were talking. She teared up and said to me. "I don't want to lose you. Please don't ever leave me". She is such a strong, independent, successful woman that it kind of took me aback. This was her first overt expression of vulnerability (or is it insecurity?) that I remember and the only time she has started to cry in front of me. She's expressed "please don't leave me" a few more times since then, including this past weekend. A few years ago she had to move for work. She had to leave her closest girlfriend behind. She has lots of girlfriends here now but none of them are close like her BFF. She has told me I've become her best friend. We were talking about the closeness of our friendship before she said sometimes she wishes I were a girl. The tone was not at all one of frustration (that I didn't understand her). Hypothesis. I could be way off base but I will take a stab. Her comment as a compliment about the closeness of our friendship coupled with angst about the fragility of the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. She wouldn't be worried about losing my friendship if I were a woman-friend and not a boyfriend. Or maybe her recent insecurity is unrelated and it's as simple as we can talk about everything under the sun except "girl things" and she wishes we could talk about that stuff too. I'm less inclined to go with this one since she has lots of women she talks to about "girl things" already.
CaliforniaGirl Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Wow...I just don't know...she really does sound insecure, and honestly, the wishing you were a girl thing just sounds odd to me.
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