mikel85 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 H guys, i often do internet dating and lately i had this strange thing happen to me 2-3 times which is unusual and i need ur input trying to figure out whats going on? On a first date...I often like meet them at a cafe or bar have a few drinks....then when im outside close to there cars i make out with them..then i ask them if they would like to come over they say yes....so in my mind they want S.E.X... so we go to my place i kinda see they dont wanna do that...so i chill with them...and try to push a little more to have sex...but dont insist too much... Like we kiss a lot...and everything is fine... Then the issue is that i never hear from them anymore?? like what happened?? i wonder what am i doing wrong?? like am i too fast? but they could have declined to come over...if i was? lol for what reason do u guys think....im not getting an answer back when they were all into me?? could it be connection wise....or they are like this guy just wanna sleep with me type thing...
Jj66 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 H guys, i often do internet dating and lately i had this strange thing happen to me 2-3 times which is unusual and i need ur input trying to figure out whats going on? On a first date...I often like meet them at a cafe or bar have a few drinks....then when im outside close to there cars i make out with them..then i ask them if they would like to come over they say yes....so in my mind they want S.E.X... so we go to my place i kinda see they dont wanna do that...so i chill with them...and try to push a little more to have sex...but dont insist too much... Like we kiss a lot...and everything is fine... Then the issue is that i never hear from them anymore?? like what happened?? i wonder what am i doing wrong?? like am i too fast? but they could have declined to come over...if i was? lol for what reason do u guys think....im not getting an answer back when they were all into me?? could it be connection wise....or they are like this guy just wanna sleep with me type thing... Maybe they are being turned off by something about your place... the location, the condition, the decor? Or maybe it's the resident? I dunno. Women are fickle sometimes
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 The fact that they agree to come over is my first surprise. But they do. Once you realize they are not going to have sex with you, what do you do besides pressure them? Do you offer them food or beverages? Do you walk them out of your home & to their cars? Do you follow up no later than the next day so they know you didn't just want them for sex? Next time try ending the date at the make out session in the parking lot & wait 3-4 dates to invite them home. 1
coolheadal Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 H guys, i often do internet dating and lately i had this strange thing happen to me 2-3 times which is unusual and i need ur input trying to figure out whats going on? On a first date...I often like meet them at a cafe or bar have a few drinks....then when im outside close to there cars i make out with them..then i ask them if they would like to come over they say yes....so in my mind they want S.E.X... so we go to my place i kinda see they dont wanna do that...so i chill with them...and try to push a little more to have sex...but dont insist too much... Like we kiss a lot...and everything is fine... Then the issue is that i never hear from them anymore?? like what happened?? i wonder what am i doing wrong?? like am i too fast? but they could have declined to come over...if i was? lol for what reason do u guys think....im not getting an answer back when they were all into me?? could it be connection wise....or they are like this guy just wanna sleep with me type thing... This strange, you should be okay. What are you doing exactly.. First dates mostly holding hands and kissing. So your actually getting sex from these women. Is your place neat? Better be neat most women won't like a man in a dirty house. I keep my neat and use irobots to keep it clean one for the tiles and rugs aka Jaws and the other one washing the floor aka Sally. Less to worry about. Did you offer these women anything to eat or drink. Make them feel like they're at home. Did you set the mood first?
Author mikel85 Posted February 8, 2017 Author Posted February 8, 2017 yeah my place is really neat and brand new they are impressed when they see it !! yeah i offer vodka or rhum and food if they want ! so its not that...the issue.... the only thing i can think is either...they think i just want sex...or by trying to have sex with them fast i come off as needy....or they feel no connection....really im confused....it happened like 2-3 times in the last month !!
ashy555 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 To be honest... As a girl, if a man invited me home on the first date I would think he is just after sex. This happened to me recently. I met up with a guy near my house. The date was pretty boring. It was like getting blood out of a stone but he was good looking. At the end he asks 'sooo wanna watch a movie or something?' I knew he meant come back to mine. So I invited him and ended up sleeping with him. It wasn't anything special but it had been over 8 months since I had slept with anyone and thought.. why not. We talked a little after that but I wasn't that keen and I assumed all he wanted from me was some fun. If you really like a girl don't ask her back to yours until date 3 at least. If she is serious about meeting someone, that may give her the wrong impression.
Author mikel85 Posted February 8, 2017 Author Posted February 8, 2017 so u think even if she liked me...she stopped seeing me cause she thinks i was only after sex??????
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 so u think even if she liked me...she stopped seeing me cause she thinks i was only after sex?????? It's more probable than not which is why I asked you about your behaviors as she was leaving your place and what, if any, follow up you offered the next day.
rushed Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Possible reasons: *You're terrible in bed. (Did they all seem satisfied?) *You smell. (Self explanatory.) *Your attitude afterwards. (Were you obnoxious or cold afterwards?)
Author mikel85 Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 you guys have to understand that i didnt **** them !! lolll they came we had a few drinks talked...laugh...kissed and i tried to go further without being pushy.. and then they dont call me back... like when they leave my place i follow them to the door kiss them..... then texted them 48hrs after !!
d0nnivain Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 you guys have to understand that i didnt **** them !! lolll they came we had a few drinks talked...laugh...kissed and i tried to go further without being pushy.. and then they dont call me back... like when they leave my place i follow them to the door kiss them..... then texted them 48hrs after !! Try walking them all the way out to their cars. Call within 24 hours & ask for a second public date during that call. Stop with the texting. 1
Author mikel85 Posted March 3, 2017 Author Posted March 3, 2017 Hi guys, i am starting to feeling depressed lately cause i been going on so many dates like 2-3date every week and i cant get a 2nd date i dont understand whats going on? I understand its internet dating and there is always a lower chance it works but like im starting to feel that there is something wrong with me.... Like i read lot of books about dating...im confident....im smart...i know how to flirt and all that ... and im also good looking..i dress really well...like i swear i cant find what is wrong.....why are girls not interested in me....to see me again is beyond me..... Like i been dating for years on internet and im wasting sooo much time cause i barely ever get 2nd dates...i would say i get a 5 to 10% 2nd dates which is almost a miracle when it happens.... Since i went on so many dates i feel like i developed lot of pratice and i even feel im good with women...like when im with them i feel confy and im interesting talking lot of subjects....im funny Like im here to ask what should i do? what should i work on? how can i know what im doing wrong? like im at this point not sure what to think or to do...i waste so much money and time its unbelievable !!
basil67 Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 I looked at your previous thread on this.... I suspect you're being too pushy for sex.
PogoStick Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 Like im here to ask what should i do? what should i work on? how can i know what im doing wrong? like im at this point not sure what to think or to do...i waste so much money and time its unbelievable !! You say you're great with women, but your results speak otherwise. How can we possibly know what went wrong? Contact all of those women and ask them to honestly answer why they didn't want to go on another date.
Author mikel85 Posted March 3, 2017 Author Posted March 3, 2017 I looked at your previous thread on this.... I suspect you're being too pushy for sex. bro the other subject was something else completely another story... now for this i go in a bar with them...and i dont try to go for sex at all so its really not that !!
Author mikel85 Posted March 3, 2017 Author Posted March 3, 2017 You say you're great with women, but your results speak otherwise. How can we possibly know what went wrong? Contact all of those women and ask them to honestly answer why they didn't want to go on another date. I did try to ask them what was wrong and stuff and always get the generic anwser of there was no connection....which totally means NOTHING like at this point im a stranger for them...girls dont really care to tell me what happened...
Author mikel85 Posted March 3, 2017 Author Posted March 3, 2017 no help over here?? why did u link them they are unrelated !!
angel.eyes Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 You're getting first dates. So unless your photos are misleading, it's not looks. Since you aren't getting to second dates, it's likely either hygiene or something about the way you interact with these women.
CollegeKid101 Posted March 3, 2017 Posted March 3, 2017 Why are you asking a girl to come back to your place the first night you meet? Additionally, why would you want a LTR with a woman who sleeps with you the first night...doesn't seem like you're actually into looking for more dates, just sex. Please don't try to explain to us otherwise, I saw your last thread on how you try to push a little then when they say no, you back off and then later try again..what's your deal? Enjoy the date and stop trying to have sex with everyone you land a date with right away..
Author mikel85 Posted March 3, 2017 Author Posted March 3, 2017 I have very good hygiene so it must be the way i interact with them that is causing this issue of not seeing them again !! at this point i dont know what to do.... i dont understand why he linked both subject now this is stupid i been going on dates and trying to go for love now....and i cant even get it...
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