I think I did the right thing but.....

[conzboneeus]

I'm 59 male, IT pro. Met 54 bank manager on Tinder. Yes I know Tinder is supposed to be hookup site but seems being used by mature folks to actually meet people for relationships.

 

She was real pretty, smart, and we just clicked. 30 min into date she asked me if I wanted to see photos of her in lingerie. I said no, that real gentleman don't want that, just guys that want eye candy to do whatever with. I meant it.

 

But I have been hearing "a woman's body is her's to do what she wants with" so wondering if I am out of touch with the nude pics video thing? For me sending nudes, including nude videos of her dressing up and doing pretty explicit things, to men she had never met except online, (I found this out later) is not girl I am going to marry or have serious realtionship with.

 

I took her to Brooklyn ro show her where I grew up and while there she asked me if Iwanted to go see a motorcycle that one of her video text buddies was shwoing in NY. WHat? I should have left then but I was smitten.

My brother wanted to kill me for not leaving immediately.

 

Turns out as late as early Nov she was still sending nudes to guys, albeit it another guy she met only online. I met here mid November. Anyway afte countless lies about delteing these guys only to find she hadn't, and that even after Brooklyn, a few days after we had gotten back from a Florida trip she was still texting this guy. To her credit she told me.

 

Look for whatever reason I loved this girl but I got to the point where I didn't trust her and dumped her yesterday. We did have good times together, she introduced me to rock climbing, we did crossword pouzzles in morning, I met her mom and sisters. She is diagnosed as depressed and bi polar and took a lot of meds.

 

And even though I finally had enough pride in myself to let her go, I am still wondering if I did the right thing. I know in my heart I did that it wouldn't stop she has self esteem issues, but damnit hurts!

 

I guess just venting, and not getting on women who send nudes I do read and have read often its done for freedom and such and not judging. But for me in my generation its considered bad girl behavior for lack of a better term.

 

I dunno but glad Igot this out hoping for feedback from men and women right now just hurting real bad but not gonna go back moving ahead.

 

Thanks

[preraph]

Write it off for what it was. She was just an attention seeker. It's even possible she was working up to trying to sell herself at her age or has done so when she was younger and knows no other life style.

 

I'd say her behavior was not normal by anyone's standards except someone wanting a lot of attention or a prostitute or ex-prostitute.

 

You did the right thing. There will be others because you are dating age appropriately and there are SO many lonely women in your age group. Good luck.

[d0nnivain]

You two have different moral standards. Those differences were going to rip you apart eventually. Better sooner than later.