yume Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I finally worked up the courage to ask my crush out. I sent him a message basically saying if he ever wanted to go out sometime to let me know, and if not no hard feelings. He responded and said that it would be great (!!!), and asked me about my upcoming schedule. He basically said he would have get back to me about when we could meet as he was in the middle of trying to re-arrange his schedule over the upcoming week to try and accommodate a trip with his friends. This happened on Sunday. I haven't heard from him since we established he would get back to me about it. I know it's only been three days, and I really do not want to be the one to initiate again, but how long should I expect to wait to hear from him? Should I just wait it out? I would prefer to wait to hear from him so that if/when he does get back to me I'll know he's actually interested. Or should I send him a message asking if he's worked anything out yet? I feel like a little kid again. Lol. Trying to stay calm and sane!!!!!!! Any thoughts are much appreciated
preraph Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 No, do NOT contact him again. He will either contact you to make plans or he won't. Probably he will. But you might have caught him by surprise and he might have said 'great' because he was caught offguard and then made an excuse. So do not contact him again. He knows where to find you. good luck. 1
Jj66 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I usually poo poo the so called rules but not this time. He knows you are very interested. A woman doesn't risk rejection and ask a man out if she isn't. You served it up nice and easy. Wait for him to return service. If he doesn't then either he isn't interested or he's the wishy-washy type of man most women I know would not want to date anyway. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Wait. The time of year may have him dragging his feet so give him until the end of next week. If you don't hear from him by 2/17 write him off. 3
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 He knows you're interested, if he's also interested, and a guy worthy of you, he will take things from here. He'll have to put on his big boy pants and ask you out.
Author yume Posted February 8, 2017 Author Posted February 8, 2017 No, do NOT contact him again. He will either contact you to make plans or he won't. Probably he will. But you might have caught him by surprise and he might have said 'great' because he was caught offguard and then made an excuse. So do not contact him again. He knows where to find you. good luck. Right. I mean if he didn't want to go out with me I would hope he would have just said no to me, rather than being like "Great!!" and then doing a fade. You are right though. I have to sit back and let him come to me now. I usually poo poo the so called rules but not this time. He knows you are very interested. A woman doesn't risk rejection and ask a man out if she isn't. You served it up nice and easy. Wait for him to return service. If he doesn't then either he isn't interested or he's the wishy-washy type of man most women I know would not want to date anyway. Thank you! You are right. I've never put myself out there like this before so I'd rather end up with someone who wants to and will 'return service' lol Wait. The time of year may have him dragging his feet so give him until the end of next week. If you don't hear from him by 2/17 write him off. For a minute I was like "Winter time? Huh?" and then I realised you're referring to Valentines day. It's a fair point. I don't care about V day much and particularly not this one as I'm starting a new job that day and will be more focused on that mentally anyways. He knows you're interested, if he's also interested, and a guy worthy of you, he will take things from here. He'll have to put on his big boy pants and ask you out. Hope so. Thanks all for your responses. Patience really is a virtue...
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