inet93 Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Relationships are a reflection of you. In essence, relationships point out your own weaknesses. Regret is a reflection of what you should have done but did not have the courage, insight or emotional fortitude to do. The only way to get over a love, is to dig as deep as you can to find out the raw, unedited truth. Did you communicate your expections? Did you tolerate too much junk? What were the real reasons, fear? insecurity? lonliness? I know it is hard, but when you stop pointing fingers at him/her and on to yourself even though it still hurts like hell. You come out stronger because your own truth is clear and you now have been fortified with raw strength instead of superfiical "Im over you". My ex and I were trying to get back together. He treated me bad before but I still loved him. We started talking again over the telephone and the pasion between us was getting hot. We could not wait to be together again. Had not seen each other in 3 months and truthfully our relationship was only 6 months old anyway. I left him a voice mail telling him that I missed him sooo much. Call me back. He called me back 5 days later on July 1st of this year. When I asked him why he took so long to call me back, he said he was too busy. He asked what was I doing that night and I told him nothing. He asked if we could get togeter to be alone. I actually said "OK" and then he took me to a motel.....and well there was no pasion, nothing, just the fastest sex he was finished sooo fast. The rest of the time there we spent feeling uncomfortable with nothing to say. I never heard from him again. My point is yes he did me wrong and I can point fingers at him till tomorrow. But my truth lies in me. Why did I allow that to happen? I am 41 years old separated from a 15 year marriage and thought I learned a thing or two. How on Gods good earth did I get into that situation. Its ok to have your heart broken, but for someone to take away your self resepct, dignity along with it is even worse. That will never happen again!!!
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Why did I allow that to happen? Because its human nature, when it comes to sticky situations like love (or holding on to it futilely). Sometimes, at the time it happens - it feels better to have 50% of something as opposed to 100% of nothing. You just have to put this behind you now - don't analyze or question yourself any further. Just call it a 'moment of weakness' and move on. Cut this guy off now - no contact to or from him so that you don't find yourself in another moment of weakness.
butterfly29 Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Originally posted by inet93 Relationships are a reflection of you. In essence, relationships point out your own weaknesses. Regret is a reflection of what you should have done but did not have the courage, insight or emotional fortitude to do. The only way to get over a love, is to dig as deep as you can to find out the raw, unedited truth. Did you communicate your expections? Did you tolerate too much junk? What were the real reasons, fear? insecurity? lonliness? I know it is hard, but when you stop pointing fingers at him/her and on to yourself even though it still hurts like hell. You come out stronger because your own truth is clear and you now have been fortified with raw strength instead of superfiical "Im over you". Yes!!! I'm with you inet. It takes time, and maturity to really take responsibility for yourself. And of course, the desire to do so. Asking others for help is important, seeking advice from wise and experienced people. Yeah it's our nature to make mistakes and it can happen at 40 just as easily as it could at 20. Only the difference is the willingless to take responsibility for it.
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