soulseek Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 My boyfriend became upset after the better part of year spent seeing each other on weekends (Friday night, Saturday evening and into Sunday evenjng). He has now asked that we see each other more often. How often do people generally see their s/o?
Larryville Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Depends on how much couples are into each other. I live in a small city and have dated a few who literally lived right around the corner from me. One who worked in town we saw each other on her break at work for a walk, at lunch almost every day for yoga, two planned evenings, either Sat or Sun she had a teen daughter so some of our time included her and sometimes just us two. Two other women one a teacher, we only saw each other on weekends. Another who was very involved in the community and had lots of church activities sometimes a couple times a week. Most others who lived from 35min to an hour from me I saw weekends only and maybe 1 evening dinner date. Others go to their house on Friday eve and went back Monday. Woman I’m seeing now, she drives down (1 hr 20 min drive) to see me, and will drive down one evening during the week (her choice) Point is people will make the effort to see each other as much as possible IF they are seriously into someone. They figure it out. If no effort is made or if excuses are used to “limit” contact, not much of a relationship. One other point…. You said: “How often do you hang out?” If you are indeed in a relationship, you DON’T hang out! I imagine your bf senses that. 2
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I prefer to see my SO at least once during the week as schedules permit. Going 5 days without physical contact is a lot. If schedules only allow for weekend visits, they should be cherished.
courtneykay Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I have struggled to find what the appropriate amount of time is to spend with a significant other myself, but honestly it differs for everyone based on preference and your circumstances. When I'm in a relationship, I like to see my significant other at least twice on the weekend and once during the week. Whether it's spending Friday night and the day Saturday together, or just Friday and Saturday night, whatever works for our schedules. I get people are busy during the week, but to me it seems like a long time to wait an entire week between seeing each other. To each their own though.
coolheadal Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 My boyfriend became upset after the better part of year spent seeing each other on weekends (Friday night, Saturday evening and into Sunday evenjng). He has now asked that we see each other more often. How often do people generally see their s/o? Sounds like he wants to see you daily as much as you can. That's a good sign but are you clearly up for that now?
hercules22 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 im surprised he doesnt leave any days to hang out with his own mates i would at least prefer to see my friends aswell rather then spending all my time with a partner if i had one
todreaminblue Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 i think its an individual couple thing.....one where it is mutually satisfying to both with the amount of time spent together with me i am pretty easy going and if a guy wants to see me more i don't mind impromptu dates....i do differentiate though from hanging out to being dates though...i hang out with mates...not dates..... or a guy i am in a relationship with...even if i stay at home with a guy i am dating its still a date.... i have had relationships however where guys wont go home.....and it makes me feel bad to ask them to leave so i really do prefer defined dates....where they don't stay over....and i appreciate the guys who do go home at the end of a date...i would see them as often as they wanted to see me if i had no porevious plans or commitments...if i was serious about the relationship...deb
olivetree Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I live with my boyfriend so we see each other daily. But that's why we live together. Because we want to see each other every day!
coolheadal Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I live with my boyfriend so we see each other daily. But that's why we live together. Because we want to see each other every day! Nice! That's the way it should be! 1
Jj66 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 This is the single biggest issue in my relationship right now. She lives 75 minutes away and I have my teenage children 50% of the time. I decided seeing her on the weekends when I didn't have my kids was not nearly enough for me. It was unusual but we could sometimes go 2 weeks without seeing each other. Hell, I could go out and have fun with a woman two or three weekends a month without being in a relationship, so why be in one at all? In our January relationship "check in" I told her I wanted to see her more often. We came up with a plan to make that happen. We just finished spending 5 days together.
preraph Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I think you can be very into someone and still not want them around so often that you can't get your stuff done and have some relaxation time. some people cannot relax when someone is around, and I'm one of them. I need my down time, my alone time, and plenty of sleep. A friend of mine who is older, 64 or so, and doesn't feel well all the time but has a busy schedule working hard and is exhausted at the end of each day had a bf who wanted to be around all the time and then all weekend, and she just had to eventually tell him Fridays only. Once in awhile is she's rested up, she'll see him more, but she had to set a boundary. It was wearing her out, tearing down her health, and she had stuff to do on Sundays, yard work and the like. It was too much. It's very important to find someone who is similar to you in how much time they can take together.
Author soulseek Posted February 12, 2017 Author Posted February 12, 2017 I work a time consuming job, where he doesn't. Therefore he has a ton of social time with friends. Since I am so much busier, I rarely ever see friends nor have a chance to even develop some hobbies. He likes to be active and do activities for dates, but I am beat from my job during the week. He wants to see me throughout the week and during the weekend. Last week it was Monday/ Wednesday for a few hours, Friday evening, Saturday evening to Sunday evening. This week it's been every night but one time. I feel a bit pressure if I don't see him multiple times a week, he's unhappy. I am starting to feel stressed out because I don't know what a good balance is...
smackie9 Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Me as much as possible.....that's why I had dated guys that were not consumed with working long hours. You my dear have a compatibility issue. This relationship is on it's way out. 1
Author soulseek Posted February 12, 2017 Author Posted February 12, 2017 Me as much as possible.....that's why I had dated guys that were not consumed with working long hours. You my dear have a compatibility issue. This relationship is on it's way out. Yeah I think so too..ugh
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