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hey all,

 

I've been seeing this girl now for a couple of weeks and have been on 3 dates. Everything was going well. We had fun, she always told me what a good night she had and how she was looking forward to the next time. Just recently I was out with some friends and ran into her as I was leaving a bar, she was jist entering. We hugged and she told me she was there for a friend's birthday and I told her I was doing the same but going to a different bar. Later around 1235 I got a call from her but was already in bed so I missed it. Then i texted her saying I was in bed whats up? She said they were bar hopping and was wondering where I was at. A good sign she's interested.

 

The next day I asked her to go to a super bowl party with me later that day. She said she can't because she had plans to attend one herself. I asked her if she wanted to get brunch before hand but she said she can't because she's getting brunch with the same people and then told me she can't wait to hear about my party. I told her Ill tell her all about it and to have fun.

 

On Monday I texted her congratulating her the Patriots won, she's. a Pats fan and she responded and laughed. I then asked her if she would like to come to my place sometime this week to make food and watch a show we've been talking about seeing and I get no response. I don't text again because I've now asked her to hang out twice in a row.

 

Last night she added me on snapchat and went through my story but still no response. I feel like the ball is definitely in her court now. We are both 27 and I'm always the one to initiate conversation but her responses are usually long and she continues the conversation. Should I text her again or wait? Also she admitted she is a bad texter. Sometimes it would take hours for her to respond but she would always respond. this is the first time she hasn't responded.

 

Thanks! Im a long time lurker and first time poster. I've read great advice in the past from this site!

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I wouldn't text her again. Terrible texted or not, if someone you're interested in want to see you, you're going to remember that. She may have waited to respond until she checked her work schedule, or checked to see if she had made any plans already. Is it possible she's seeing anyone else? She could have been talking to a guy and was waiting to see when they were going to go out. Really it could be anything but the bottom line is that is she's interested, you'll hear from her.

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It shows weakness on your part that your insecure. Let her text you back after you sent a text message. Give her some lack and space. To smother her to death.

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I'm not sure if she is seeing another guy but i don't think so because when we would make plans and I'd ask her when she's free, she woukd always say she's free all week/weekend and could meet up any day. Bummer I was starting to really like her too.

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yeah figured texting her again was the wrong move soI wont be doing it. You're right if she's interested she will reach out

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that why i prefer phone call get a response instantly especially if i have been seeing the same girl for a few weeks i always end up asking through phone call

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I'm going to go against conventional wisdom here.

 

 

You texted her. Although she didn't respond, she did add you on snapchat. Because of that I think it would be OK to call her again. Stop with the texting. Actually use your voice.

 

 

She did not blow you off. She had plans. She explained that to you. She didn't leave you guessing.

 

 

If you don't reach out one more time you risk that she will conclude you are not interested.

 

 

One caveat: if you get no response to your call then you should conclude she's not interested & leave her alone.

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She doesn't sound interested..sorry. I hope I'm wrong.

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Do whatever you want to do. Text her.

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I think I'll just call her tonight and see what happens. If nothing no harm no foul I'll just move on. Only reason I haven't moved on yet is because she did call me Saturday night to meet up and then she did add me on snapchat last night so let's just see what happens.

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I feel like you're kind of inundating her a little. Can you be patient and wait a few days to see if she responds?

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I agree with d0nnivain, I also think you should call her.

 

She may not be ready to come over to your place (which for some people is code for let's have sex) but is unsure how to say not yet.

 

She added you on snapchat which isn't exactly ghosting you, so if you like her, give it one last shot.

 

Talk to her.

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I'd also suggest a phone call. It's been a couple days since you texted her so I think one phone call to put the offer out there again is okay. Maybe suggest a different plan in case she's not ready for dinner at your place.

 

Expect your call will go to voicemail even if she's interested and let her know you are checking in because you hadn't heard from her and the offer still stands.

 

Then the ball is solidly in her court and you don't contact her again until she contacts you.

 

Since she added you on snapchat, I'd say her interest is there.

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I am the type of girl that likes a guy to lead, and even I think that you should not call her.

 

You have asked her to hang out twice now and she has declined as she had plans.

 

If I were really interested, I would have offered an alternative date.

 

Give it a little time and see if she contacts you AND initiates making plans.

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Frack the "rules." Do what you want. Text her. Call her. Ignore her and date others. If you're ok being without her there's no point in giving a damn about what she thinks. You either get what you want or you don't. Then you go from there.

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I think she sounds somewhat interested. Maybe not ready to go back to your place for a date yet though? Try re establish communication and ask her out again.

 

Otherwise a call is good too like another poster said

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so thing with her is I've been dating for a year now with different types of women and she is the first one I've really taken a strong liking to which is why I came here to get some advice to not screw it up and thanks all for the advice. I might have been too aggressive asking her two days in a row to hang out and the only reason I suggested she come over is she was really interested in binge watching Westworld and I waited until we got to know each other to invite her back to watch. I will wait until tomorrow maybe to call and see how the convo goes and perhaps suggest something different if she is uncomfortable coming over.

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Do suggest something other than coming to your house when you call her.

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Pick up the phone and ask her out on a real date.

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hey all,

 

I've been seeing this girl now for a couple of weeks and have been on 3 dates. Everything was going well. We had fun, she always told me what a good night she had and how she was looking forward to the next time. Just recently I was out with some friends and ran into her as I was leaving a bar, she was jist entering. We hugged and she told me she was there for a friend's birthday and I told her I was doing the same but going to a different bar. Later around 1235 I got a call from her but was already in bed so I missed it. Then i texted her saying I was in bed whats up? She said they were bar hopping and was wondering where I was at. A good sign she's interested.

 

The next day I asked her to go to a super bowl party with me later that day. She said she can't because she had plans to attend one herself. I asked her if she wanted to get brunch before hand but she said she can't because she's getting brunch with the same people and then told me she can't wait to hear about my party. I told her Ill tell her all about it and to have fun.

 

On Monday I texted her congratulating her the Patriots won, she's. a Pats fan and she responded and laughed. I then asked her if she would like to come to my place sometime this week to make food and watch a show we've been talking about seeing and I get no response. I don't text again because I've now asked her to hang out twice in a row.

 

Last night she added me on snapchat and went through my story but still no response. I feel like the ball is definitely in her court now. We are both 27 and I'm always the one to initiate conversation but her responses are usually long and she continues the conversation. Should I text her again or wait? Also she admitted she is a bad texter. Sometimes it would take hours for her to respond but she would always respond. this is the first time she hasn't responded.

 

Thanks! Im a long time lurker and first time poster. I've read great advice in the past from this site!

Call her. Texting ain't cute.

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