Springsummer Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Vday...terrible...It's like torturing people who are less fortunate in some aspects of life.
Vinny1951 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Valentine's Day is a holiday for lovers, much as Christmas is a holiday for Christians, Martin Luther King Day, Easter, Hanukkah, etc. There is no reason to hate a holiday because it is not one that you personally celebrate. The world does not revolve around us so we enjoy that things that apply to us and ignore the rest and let others enjoy them. 6
Fruitee Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I always spent vday with my bff. We go to a movie and eat cupcakes. Who needs a man to buy you chocolate when you have money to buy it for yourself? 1
Sweetfish Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Vday...terrible...It's like torturing people who are less fortunate in some aspects of life. $$$$$$$$$$$$ The end 3
losangelena Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Yes, it's mostly a commercial holiday. I happen to go to bar trivia every Tuesday, and this year, one of my old roommates, who is a consistent trivia teammate and I are going to have fancy platonic friends Valentine's Day dinner of filet mignon and lobster before heading to trivia. We're both in our mid- to late-30s and single, but are making the most of our situation. FWIW, I've been in relationships during v-day, and the amount of prodding and hinting I had to do to get my BF to make a dinner reservation that day was demoralizing. The day itself really shouldn't mean anything. I'm much rather looking forward to this year. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Yeah, its about money, but so what??? Its kinda like saying they shouldn't sell Mercedes Benz sedans because a lot of people can't afford them.. If you are miserable, you can't live your life crapping on the fact that other people are happy.. Valentine's Day is very special for a lot of people and they should be allowed to enjoy it, without all the moaning and groaning of the one's who feel slighted.. You are wasting energy even thinking about it.... TFY 8
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Use it as a day to love yourself. Treat yourself a bit more kindly that day. Spend the day with friends who are in the same boat. Even reach out to your parents & wish them well. If they hadn't fallen in love, you wouldn't be here. Do try to remember it's a made up holiday. Anybody who only celebrates their romance one day per year doesn't have much of a love life anyway.
Haydn Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I already spent a small fortune. (Well 20 quid....) Not just on my better half but my girls as well. I enjoy it! 2
Lilyana76 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 I'm not in a relationship, so no sappy love cards needed this year. Instead, like every year, I'm focusing it on my kids. Buy them some chocolates, give them little cards letting them know how much I love them. Valentines Day to me, is about love. Love for anyone, and everyone, not just a significant other. 2
Els Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 (edited) It's not even technically a "holiday" though... do you know anyone who gets a free day off on Valentine's day? I don't... There's a "day" for everything in this day and age - mothers, fathers, children, women, world peace, pi (I shyt you not!)... Just pick the ones you want to celebrate and ignore the ones you don't. Why does it bother you that other people are having fun? FWIW, you don't necessarily HAVE to be in a relationship to have fun on V day, assuming you want to celebrate it. I had heaps of fun with my female friends on the day, during the years when I was single. We'd go out shopping, to the arcade, etc. As a couple, the SO and I actually rarely have the dinner on the day itself, due to everything nice being booked up months in advance. Often we just pick another day. Edited February 8, 2017 by Elswyth
Redhead14 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Vday...terrible...It's like torturing people who are less fortunate in some aspects of life. Tortured? There are so many other more important things to expend emotional energy on than not having a "valentine" on Valentine's Day. If the "holiday" doesn't apply to you, it's just another day like any other day I wouldn't want to waste by being miserable about something I really have no control over. I don't fall apart on Arbor Day just because I'm not a tree 3
DarrenB Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Valentines Day? Don't think I've ever heard of such an event...
joseb Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 (edited) Yeah it's a bit of a nonsense hallmark event. I'm actually loving the fact I'm single for this one. No pressure to impress anyone, buy overpriced flowers or pay extra or inferior resturant service. Edited February 8, 2017 by joseb 1
SevenCity Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Yeah it's a bit of a nonsense hallmark event. I'm actually loving the fact I'm single for this one. No pressure to impress anyone, buy overpriced flowers or pay extra or inferior resturant service. I feel exactly the same way. I've been in a RL for most of them and I curse Hallmark for making it up. I stopped celebrating it with several of my exes. Getting raped on the cost of flowers and having to plan something. Women who are single dread this holiday. I would say most single men are happy about it. 1
Jj66 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 One of the best times I ever had for Valentine's Day was going to an anti-Valentine's party with 30-40 of my closest divorced friends. You could feel the love wafting through the room. My gf and I are are having our first V-day this year. We are going to a semi-formal dinner dance (and tango lesson). She bought the tickets already after asking me if I was interested in going. We agreed to split the cost since they were expensive. She didn't know that I had already bought her a gift certificate for a massage at a local spa. Turning out to be more than a Hallmark holiday this year.
madjac74 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Here's an idea...send your loved one flowers on ground hogs day. If they still expect flowers on valentines day then they are a shallow c-word
basil67 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Tortured?? If having no Valentine is the worst thing in a person's world, they should think themselves lucky. #firstworldproblem
madjac74 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 My gf and I are are having our first V-day this year. We are going to a semi-formal dinner dance (and tango lesson). She bought the tickets already after asking me if I was interested in going. We agreed to split the cost since they were expensive. She didn't know that I had already bought her a gift certificate for a massage at a local spa. Turning out to be more than a Hallmark holiday this year. Is it? Then why did you need a certain day in February to do all that for each other? I'm not trying to be rude and it is great that you are having a good day together but.... you don't actually make a case for it being more than a Hallmark holiday. You actually make a case for it being a Hallmark holiday The problem I have with V-day or "vagina" day is that it is to flaunt ..."send over-priced flowers to my office so I can show how rich my man is while betty in the desk next to me gets nothing!" It makes people feel bad. It is a horrible holiday.
PrettyEmily77 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 I was asked by a friend's 6 yo son to be his Valentine, which I happily and gratefully accepted - apart from a couple of missing front teeth, he's one of the cutest Valentine's I've ever had. His mum said he is insistent on making his card himself; this young man will go far - he already knows that getting a little personalised something will be more appreciated than a ready-made generic thing. 1
Author Springsummer Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 Tortured?? If having no Valentine is the worst thing in a person's world, they should think themselves lucky. #firstworldproblem Thanks for putting me back into perspective.
Author Springsummer Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 Tortured? There are so many other more important things to expend emotional energy on than not having a "valentine" on Valentine's Day. If the "holiday" doesn't apply to you, it's just another day like any other day I wouldn't want to waste by being miserable about something I really have no control over. I don't fall apart on Arbor Day just because I'm not a tree yes...but if you have someone in mind and you see him constantly on fb, but there is nothing I could do about it. It's like perpetually like this for me, how much longer can I pretend? damn, I wish I can go back in time... it seemed I wasn't an unattractive girl, how come I end up like this?
Author Springsummer Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 Valentines Day? Don't think I've ever heard of such an event... hahaha...great answer! I used to pretend it doesn't exist. but it's getting on my nerve now. I just have to keep pretending, I guess.
Popsicle Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 One day you will have a Valentine too. Try to be patient.
MrDuck Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Why's it any different to Mothers day / Fathers day? Its the same kind of thing... (I have a great gf and son, so these days valentines day and fathers day do mean something to me!) But I never had a mum or a decent dad growing up, at school they like force you to make mothers and fathers day cards at school, i just used to make them and chuck them in the bin when i left....... yeah it's in your face but i survived! It is what it is! That's life right! Not having a valentine isnt going to kill you, same as not getting a xmas present or birthday card, theres bigger things in life to worry about! 1
MrDuck Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 I don't fall apart on Arbor Day just because I'm not a tree Preach it!!!! :lmao:
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