Braytc Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 (edited) Went on a first date with a girl. We had a good time it felt like. Went to a movie and she kept cuddling up next to me the whole time. Just wondering if at the end of the date before she gets out of my car, she moves closer without me doing anything and we both just end up instantaneously having a long kiss.. There wasn't much pause or delay. As soon as i stopped the car, she looked at me, closed her eyes, and bam. Not much hesitating. Is it anything to be happy about or what does that usually mean? After a first date what should happen besides texting eachother like we are? Thanks Edited February 8, 2017 by Braytc
hercules22 Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 i wouldn't have to much expectations after one date. just keep with the flow for now ask to see her again
Miss Spider Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 ... After a first date what should happen besides texting eachother like we are? Thanks A second date?
Author Braytc Posted February 8, 2017 Author Posted February 8, 2017 A second date? Just hoping there was enough there and hinting to me she'll want another one. Just based on what i was saying just happened at our first one, are my chances in general good? Also would asking her tomorrow for a date thursday be okay or wait till the weekend?
TheTraveler Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Just hoping there was enough there and hinting to me she'll want another one. Just based on what i was saying just happened at our first one, are my chances in general good? Also would asking her tomorrow for a date thursday be okay or wait till the weekend? Sounds like a positive date to me so it's time to ask for a 2nd. I don't know anything about you or situation, but I'd wait until the weekend to see her again.
coolheadal Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Ah, young love.. Your very lucky you have a nice girl that's really into you already. First Date 100% Now ask her out again, and keep up the great work. Your doing everything right, don't change just be you! Good Luck!
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 The kiss is good. Continued communication is great. Asking for the 2nd date is the next step.
Miss Spider Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 yea, chances seem good from what you wrote! i'd definitely go for the weekend. tomorrow is a bit too short notice IMO
BaileyB Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Things are good! Kisses are good! Ask her out again - tell her you are free Thursday or you could do something on the weekend. Let her decide. Have fun! At are you going to suggest for your second date?
stillafool Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Just hoping there was enough there and hinting to me she'll want another one. Just based on what i was saying just happened at our first one, are my chances in general good? Also would asking her tomorrow for a date thursday be okay or wait till the weekend? Yes she definitely wanted to be close to you and wanted the kiss. Your chances are excellent.
Author Braytc Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 (edited) so just a little update from today. For some reason she doesn't seem AS nearly talkative or anything as she was before our date, still talking to me of course. She did seem shy/nervous even on our date and i couldn't tell what that ment. She seemed to open up a lot to me and telling me about her past life, family, why she's single etc. I'm just getting so many mixed signals or i'm just paranoid because i like her so much. She just seemed to not be super talkative like she was. But she did say okay to another date this friday or saturday . Edited February 9, 2017 by Braytc 1
ashy555 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 If she is initiated the kiss end of first date then yeah.. Its going well for you. Just keep going and see what happens. Hopefully a second date soon!!
Author Braytc Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 If she is initiated the kiss end of first date then yeah.. Its going well for you. Just keep going and see what happens. Hopefully a second date soon!! Thank you! Read my update comment
dumbass2 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Don't over analyze things. Learn to just chill and go with the flow. Don't get too into a girl too soon. Don't try to force things. Don't have expectations other than manners. Have other interests that you're doing. Don't stop seeing friends and that kind of stuff. Show interest but don't go overboard and be needy. Keep the romance going on the second date. 1
Author Braytc Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 Don't over analyze things. Learn to just chill and go with the flow. Don't get too into a girl too soon. Don't try to force things. Don't have expectations other than manners. Have other interests that you're doing. Don't stop seeing friends and that kind of stuff. Show interest but don't go overboard and be needy. Keep the romance going on the second date. Appreciate it. Maybe i'm just too paranoid or afraid or something. Can i just ask, do girls straight up tell you their feelings or how they feel about you? Maybe i'm just expecting her to tell me she loves me or something. I just got that vibe the way she texted me before our first day like she would do that right off the bat. What usually happens when you call it a committed official relationship? lol
Jj66 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Friday OR Saturday? You need to pick one and make plans. Personally for a second date, I'd shoot for something Saturday during the day. Maybe mid afternoon for a few hours. Not a movie. You need to be able to talk and get to know each other. With my gf, we had a first date on Wednesday at a BOGO sushi place after I got off work. Afterward we ended up at a wine bar that I knew about just around the corner. For the second date we went to a minor league baseball game on Saturday afternoon. (she picked it but it wa a good choice). After the game, because things were going well I took her to a Cuban restaurant that I knew about very near the stadium. Notice a theme? If things are going well, extend the date if you can. It communicates your interest unequivocally. If things are still going well after extending it and the time seems right you might even extend it back to your place or hers. Just play it by feel. I personally wouldn't recommend second date sex unless you are both experienced and ok with it just being casual. So maybe find something Saturday afternoon and if you still like her after a few hours together, suggest she join you for dinner at this place you know (scope it out ahead of time).
madjac74 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 I've gotten BJ's/ sex on a first date and sometimes never seen them again. Don't read too much in to it or give them too much credit either. It is likely your first kiss that is why you are stressing about it.
Author Braytc Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 Friday OR Saturday? You need to pick one and make plans. Personally for a second date, I'd shoot for something Saturday during the day. Maybe mid afternoon for a few hours. Not a movie. You need to be able to talk and get to know each other. With my gf, we had a first date on Wednesday at a BOGO sushi place after I got off work. Afterward we ended up at a wine bar that I knew about just around the corner. For the second date we went to a minor league baseball game on Saturday afternoon. (she picked it but it wa a good choice). After the game, because things were going well I took her to a Cuban restaurant that I knew about very near the stadium. Notice a theme? If things are going well, extend the date if you can. It communicates your interest unequivocally. If things are still going well after extending it and the time seems right you might even extend it back to your place or hers. Just play it by feel. I personally wouldn't recommend second date sex unless you are both experienced and ok with it just being casual. So maybe find something Saturday afternoon and if you still like her after a few hours together, suggest she join you for dinner at this place you know (scope it out ahead of time). She just texted me, "i miss you" Maybe i'm just too quick, depending on what it is, i can be impatient i guess. And i think that's what it is. I expect something to happen right away. People go on that many dates until then? That seems so ridiculous haha. I'm going to take your advice, hopefully all goes well this weekend. Appreciate you helping. I've been on a couple GOOD dates the past year that didn't really turn into anything, so that's why i get nervous about something not coming of it.
madjac74 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 She just texted me, "i miss you" Maybe i'm just too quick, depending on what it is, i can be impatient i guess. And i think that's what it is. I expect something to happen right away. People go on that many dates until then? That seems so ridiculous haha. I'm going to take your advice, hopefully all goes well this weekend. Appreciate you helping. I've been on a couple GOOD dates the past year that didn't really turn into anything, so that's why i get nervous about something not coming of it. 1 date and a "I miss you"? I'd tell you to tread carefully but something tells me you will tell her "I love you" on the second date. 1
Author Braytc Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 1 date and a "I miss you"? I'd tell you to tread carefully but something tells me you will tell her "I love you" on the second date. I'm not. But i'm just saying that's what she randomly texted 1
d0nnivain Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 I agree to tread lightly. You both seem to move to fast. You are admittedly impatient. She's already texting that she misses you. What starts too fast will burn out just as quickly. For now though, strike while the iron is hot. Ask her out for the 2nd date already
Author Braytc Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 I agree to tread lightly. You both seem to move to fast. You are admittedly impatient. She's already texting that she misses you. What starts too fast will burn out just as quickly. For now though, strike while the iron is hot. Ask her out for the 2nd date already So i should be worried about something or is there something im supposed to do? We're going out tomorrow night
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