mushroomlol Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 Went on two dates with someone 5 years older than me. Second date was fun but then he said he was tired and had to go home. I was a bit disappointed. I texted on Saturday and we talked a bit. Then he never texts again. It's been 2 days. Should I text him again? I also know that this is a silly question cuz if guy wants to see you he will initiate. I like him but not like super crazy. It will be nice if we can hangout again.
smackie9 Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 You texted him first the last time the ball is his court. IMO he's not that into you.
Author mushroomlol Posted February 7, 2017 Author Posted February 7, 2017 You texted him first the last time the ball is his court. IMO he's not that into you. Ok good. Just need a second opinion to stop me from doing something that seems too desperate. It's sad this is not gonna work out though.
coolheadal Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 Ok good. Just need a second opinion to stop me from doing something that seems too desperate. It's sad this is not gonna work out though. Do not text him again it shows weakness on your part. You do not want to come off as needy. If he doesn't contact you back then he's not interested. Nothing you can do about that can't force him. What happen prior to him saying he felt tired and wanted to go home?
Author mushroomlol Posted February 7, 2017 Author Posted February 7, 2017 Do not text him again it shows weakness on your part. You do not want to come off as needy. If he doesn't contact you back then he's not interested. Nothing you can do about that can't force him. What happen prior to him saying he felt tired and wanted to go home? Everything seemed fine we were just having dinner. He said he usually wouldn't be this tired. I also joked that maybe I can go and have another date since it's early... I feel like I made some bad jokes and prob was too cocky...
preraph Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 Yeah, you made him feel bad for being tired. I think he's over you. But it didn't seem like a match anyway.
Author mushroomlol Posted February 7, 2017 Author Posted February 7, 2017 Yeah, you made him feel bad for being tired. I think he's over you. But it didn't seem like a match anyway. He kept saying sorry that he was tired...well it is what it is. If I text him and ask him out, do you think it can work though?
Larryville Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 I haven't heard from him since (2 days) I feel like he hasn't put in efforts to see me?? We used to meet twice/3 times per week and now down to once per week? BF of 3 months went cold and one day said I can date other guys and he might start dating other people too. Some history... IMO he's not that into you. Another situation I see here too often, women who begin interacting and overthinking. I just find that women (particularly those younger, dealing with insecurities) when they like dudes start processing the future too soon. They process the thoughts in their heads rather than with the dude in front of them. Rather than trying to learn who he is and what he’s about, they look at a dudes behavior and the things “he says” as a means to measure how he feels about them and whether you’re getting closer or further away from your goal of having a relationship with him. Dudes can sense this and when a woman is reacting to them as an object rather than a person, when she is using him as a means to fill a void within herself a typical guy will retreat. "I'm tired" I might be wrong but hey... How do I know this, kinda happening to me now. Woman I’m kinda seeing trying so hard to be “relevant” in my life and trying so hard to be helpful, attentive, sexy, giving whatever… someone who generally would be cool to be with (without trying so hard) is actually kinda annoying me. Women dealing with these self-esteem issues that I see posting here who are seemingly and constantly getting into circumstances where things are good at the start and then things quickly fade, then dudes ghost. When a woman worries and needs constant reassurance, it comes from a feeling of, “I am not OK” and the feeling beneath that is fear. What makes it so destructive is that it’s not an overwhelming, gripping fear it is a vague feeling of unease, it’s subtle. When you meet a dude who makes you feel OK, your NEED for that feeling becomes overwhelming and you latch on forcefully. I’m not sure just a theory I’m throwing out, I don’t even know if it applies in this particular thread, I’m just seeing the issue posted here more and more recently. If I text him and ask him out, do you think it can work though? IMO he's not that into you. You can’t even see that he is NOT into you as Smack said, to me that is a much bigger issue than rather he will see you or is interested in you. 1
OnlyHonesty Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 I also joked that maybe I can go and have another date since it's early... I feel like I made some bad jokes and prob was too cocky... I don't think that was a joke, I see it as your ego slipping out and trying to communicate to him that you have other options. It was the egos response to him ''abandoning'' you. Using the term ''joke'' is often a way to avoid consequences of a passive aggressive comment like those disclaimers you see. This is the age of hookups and disposability , it's unwise to remind a guy about that...or to brag about it.
Author mushroomlol Posted February 7, 2017 Author Posted February 7, 2017 I don't think that was a joke, I see it as your ego slipping out and trying to communicate to him that you have other options. It was the egos response to him ''abandoning'' you. Using the term ''joke'' is often a way to avoid consequences of a passive aggressive comment like those disclaimers you see. This is the age of hookups and disposability , it's unwise to remind a guy about that...or to brag about it. Guess that's a lesson to learn. Now I really regret.
Author mushroomlol Posted February 7, 2017 Author Posted February 7, 2017 He asked me if he can see me next week after I made all those terrible jokes but I wasn't sure so I said we will see. He also kissed me when I got into the cab. Does that mean anything?
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