Bromeo Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 (edited) Then sir, I applaud you. I couldn't take mine playing games any further. Her punishing texts at 4am were setting me back, and I had bottled up all the hurt for months. I calmly delineated my case, and never looked back. Although that may be the perception, I didn't intend to twist a knife. My call was for me. If the end result is mine down the road realizes what she has lost, more power to it. I needed it. As we are all different, finding inner peace takes many different roads. I am more confrontational, growing up this is how my family aired complaints. If denying her a response helps, then godspeed. Edited February 7, 2017 by Bromeo Typo, sheesh.
jamili Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 I've already met someone else actually. It's a case of co-existence. This has nothing to do with how I feel about myself. It's just a co-existing issue. Screw with moving-on. I just do what I have to do to have some level of fun now and the past will or will not take care of itself. Sounds like you are getting closer to indifference - the ultimate goal.
PhillyLibertyBelle Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Marky, I think you, I, and Jam are in different stages of the same process. Simply put, ruminating about texting an ex on his/her birthday is taking mental energy away from meeting someone who knocks your socks off. I have read your thread, good lord brother, that was tough going. For me, I simply couldn't do the games, the wondering, the ignoring, and the breadcrumbs. Cigars on my deck just weren't worth the trouble. After I told mine to never contact me again, I took a small amount of satisfaction in "dumping" her. Not the same of course, but I do smile at the thought, as I'm positive no other man has done the same. While I also do not adhere to the fantasy of them showing up at our doors, I do think a more substantial effort than crumbs in your case, and song links and quotes in my case are warranted. If you had a healthy relationship, there is no way you'd be worried about her response to you sending a birthday message. That itself is indicative that your thoughts, and most likely her actions are toxic. You will get there. As your self worth and confidence go up, you will not be overly concerned about these matters. Took me 38 years. Mark this is the one. If you feel unsure... reread this post.
Author marky00 Posted February 8, 2017 Author Posted February 8, 2017 Yeh, Didn't send anything. Actually I felt quite angry and irritated today. It's been odd coz I feel like I have gone backwards and yet I have remained NC. Maybe now she will realise I am not in anyway interested in relieving her guilt (if she has any). The way I felt today and I simply can't believe she sent me those lame sms messages a month ago. It's just so insulting after the way I have been treated so bad for so long, she would actually think I would bite on those messages.
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