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Girlfriend I feel like doesn't like to kiss me or do anything with me

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18 and 17, we dated before, broke up and now we are back together. We are approaching our one month together and are suppose to do a lot of fun things that day eat dinner, games, and watch two movies.

 

I recently asked asked her to a restaurant and come back and "hang out" at my place. (Back then that was our code for making out etc.) and she said "I'll be too tired by the end of this week from homework. Granted she also has a lot of work to do every night

 

I've also noticed that when we started dating again we really would only kiss each other goodbye and that was like 3 times maybe and it's almost as if she didn't want to kiss me. Now I don't even get the chance to because she hugs me for quite a while and doesn't even look up to kiss me and sets out to head back to her house

 

What am I doing wrong? I believe she still likes me because she's planned all this stuff out for us in near future but she doesn't want to do anything? Is this wrong of me to think anything? Is this a bad sign?

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Yes, it's a bad sign.

 

Just as you want to kiss girls you like, so we ladies want to kiss boys we like.

 

I think she's not into you anymore, sorry to say. Why did you two initially break up, and why did you get back together?

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Yes, it's a bad sign.

 

Just as you want to kiss girls you like, so we ladies want to kiss boys we like.

 

I think she's not into you anymore, sorry to say. Why did you two initially break up, and why did you get back together?

 

We first broke up because all we were doing was fighting. We had done stuff before but it wasn't that much and she was always the one to kind of initiate it. We had recently gotten back together because she would keep texting me after we broke up for a while (About a whole year I'd get texts periodically) and finally I didn't dead her or shoot her down and finally I just gave in and we were just suppose to be friends but just started talking again then began dating.

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Welcome to the friend zone.

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It just doesn't feel like the friendzone... I know for sure I have been friend zoned before and this doesn't feel the same... or it didn't anyway

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You broke-up then are back together. But what you had has changed. You have to work on this relationship as your both are very young. I don't believe your in the friend zone just yet. But your not in the same zone you were in prior to the break-up. Pay close attention to her and her body language then you will find out the interest level with you. Do not ever ask her how she sees things with you and her. Never going to get the answer you want. Just makes you look weak and insecure.

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Doing fun things together, eating dinner, games, watching movies. With no kisses or affection. That is the very definition of "friends".

 

These are all things I do with my friends.

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You broke-up then are back together. But what you had has changed. You have to work on this relationship as your both are very young. I don't believe your in the friend zone just yet. But your not in the same zone you were in prior to the break-up. Pay close attention to her and her body language then you will find out the interest level with you. Do not ever ask her how she sees things with you and her. Never going to get the answer you want. Just makes you look weak and insecure.

 

So should I try and not show any affection until I'm sure of what's going on

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You said WE broke up but who actually brought the subject up?

Who was the actual dumper?

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So should I try and not show any affection until I'm sure of what's going on
She broke up with me, but then wouldn't stop texting me trying to get me back into her life.
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She broke up with me, but then wouldn't stop texting me trying to get me back into her life.

 

I guess this was a "forced" dumping up in that she didn't want to break up with you but because things didn't improve she felt forced to end it.

Would that be fair?

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Girlfriend I feel like doesn't like to kiss me or do anything with me

 

Your title is misleading, is NOT your girlfriend.

 

unless i'm missing something...

 

Dude move on! You are too young to engage in this self-torture thing.

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She broke up with me, but then wouldn't stop texting me trying to get me back into her life.

 

Oh I C, this is something I have tried, but the results are mixed. But sometimes you need to let go because what your doing was to bring back something that was over and done with. Now you have the end result. Got someone that might not into you 100%. Ask her out on a date see how that goes with the interaction if it more cold than hot then you need to decide to let go and move on. Let us know how you make out or would she go out with you on a date today?

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It's possible she doesn't trust this enough to invest in taking things to the next level. You are on probation.

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18 and 17, we dated before, broke up and now we are back together. We are approaching our one month together and are suppose to do a lot of fun things that day eat dinner, games, and watch two movies.

 

I recently asked asked her to a restaurant and come back and "hang out" at my place. (Back then that was our code for making out etc.) and she said "I'll be too tired by the end of this week from homework. Granted she also has a lot of work to do every night

 

I've also noticed that when we started dating again we really would only kiss each other goodbye and that was like 3 times maybe and it's almost as if she didn't want to kiss me. Now I don't even get the chance to because she hugs me for quite a while and doesn't even look up to kiss me and sets out to head back to her house

 

What am I doing wrong? I believe she still likes me because she's planned all this stuff out for us in near future but she doesn't want to do anything? Is this wrong of me to think anything? Is this a bad sign?

What you are doing wrong is staying with this girl. Tell her that she's been the best girlfriend you ever had, but now you have to break up and find an even better one who likes to kiss you.
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Last time it took us almost 6 months to actually do stuff it was our first relationship and we were both very very nervous... should I wait it out a little longer?

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It's possible she doesn't trust this enough to invest in taking things to the next level. You are on probation.

 

I agree.

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Alright I think I'm going to just show as little affection as possible without making it obvious, hugs at the very least. And I'll study as to how things will go over

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Alright I think I'm going to just show as little affection as possible without making it obvious, hugs at the very least. And I'll study as to how things will go over

 

Hugs and kiss always works well. You have to play this one by ear, meaning watch, listen and learn. See what she does how she reacts with each jester you make towards her. Don't forget to report back here and lets us all know what's happening on your end. Good Luck!

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I think she doesn't want the physical aspects of a romantic relationship. I can't tell you why. For that you have to ask her.

 

 

I don't think it's unreasonable to expect a healthy make out session & some petting at this stage. If she's not into that you may want to seek another GF who is more in tune with your desires.

 

 

Do not pressure her or make her feel back. But do talk to her. Then make your decision.

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Remember everyone we dated for about 7 months last time... now we've only been dating for three weeks as of Thursday.

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You're not necessarily doing anything wrong. She's just not that attracted to you. She may have been at first but come to feel more sisterly toward you or something at this point. Because you are young and in school, she probably wants to have "a boyfriend" to fit in and everything, but she's not really feeling it as far as physical attraction. I'm sorry. I know that's hard to hear. You can probably find someone who is. Good luck.

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