J dub Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Ok say you initially invited a guy/girl you were interested in to come with you on a group event VERY last minute (a couple hours before hand), and s/he ended up coming and you hit it off really well. You talk a whole bunch thru the week and had plans for weds night but they fell thru. Guy/girl doesnt offer up a "raincheck" right away, and come friday they still havent asked you out again. Are they just taking it slow, or should this be a sign that he's not going to pursue you? Would you accept an invitation for a date the same day from them, seeing as they did it for you?
Author J dub Posted July 22, 2005 Author Posted July 22, 2005 I guess my question really is, how long is too long before they ask you out for a date (when the first one slipped)? He works in my building and I see him and we've talked since then.
fudgit Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 It seems too soon to assume you're getting the brush off. Guy/Girl could actually have other things going on in his/her life. If you're still interested, ask again but this time make a real plan and give plenty notice. If all else fails, you could try up front honesty. "I'd really like to see you again. Would you be interested? Let me know when you've got time and I'll set up something fun for us to do." This puts the ball in their court and if they don't ever come around to letting you know when they've got time, then you know you're getting the brush off. P.S. I'm personally insulted when guys ask me out at the last minute. First, it seems like they didn't put a lot of thought into it. Second, it seems that they assume I don't have anything better to do. Good luck! -Fudgey
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 I'd say it's toast.. Has he given ANY reason to believe he is interested ? Guys would normally ask for a date in your situation, Unless he thought you were blowing him off because the plans fell through then he would be history
Author J dub Posted July 22, 2005 Author Posted July 22, 2005 Ok, I had someone invite him out with us last friday. He went, we hit it off, he got my number and tried to kiss me but I gave him the cheek because I am recently out of a LTR. He called me 10 mins after we parted, and then that sunday, and a bunch more thru the week (him calling me 90% of the time) He asked for a date on weds, but he ended up having to go to the doctor and so we didnt go out. We have talked since then, and now its the next friday (a week since we first "met") and he hasnt mentioned a date
fudgit Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Ugh... are you sure you want to go out with a guy who tries to kiss you so soon? He might just be in it for the physical. BUT.... if you feel confident that he's someone you want to hang out with, JUST ASK HIM! He did try to kiss you afterall.... sounds to me like he's interested. Just ask him and end your misery. The worst he can say is "No." and that's no worse than what you're going through right now.
Author J dub Posted July 22, 2005 Author Posted July 22, 2005 AND he has told me 30492312 times how pretty/sexy/beautiful he thinks I am, how he's glad we met, how he never associates himself with people outside of work (until he met me), etc. Yesterday he told me I was adorable...I dont know what to think?
Cecelius Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t67332/ Is it this guy?
Author J dub Posted July 22, 2005 Author Posted July 22, 2005 Originally posted by Cecelius http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t67332/ Is it this guy? Yes. The day after our date fell thru, he had left me a voicemail on my work phone when I came in that said he had a dream about me and he wanted to chat. I didnt get it til hours later and by then he was calling me again, to talk. So we do, and then at lunch we sit for an hour in the lunchroom just shootin-the-sh*t...but got cut real short because I had to run off. And now here I am, the next day.
alphamale Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Originally posted by J dub I guess my question really is, how long is too long before they ask you out for a date (when the first one slipped)? 10 to 14 days
Author J dub Posted July 22, 2005 Author Posted July 22, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale 10 to 14 days Even when you see/talk to eachother daily @ work? To me it seems he should pounce before its too late. Hes going on vacation for a week and a half on weds, so I thought he'd have something up his sleeve for the weekend. He made mention to me about not having any plans this weekend, and all I could get myself to say was "oh really?" but I dont ask guys out!! I wouldnt even know what to say, and moreso I think it might be a turnoff for him. Hes one of those guys that LOOOOVES a challenge.
JS17 Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 uch I HATE challenge guys!!! as soon as they succeed and get you hooked they take off. let this guy take a hike
alphamale Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 uch I HATE challenge guys!!! as soon as they succeed and get you hooked they take off. yep.....that about sums me up. its soooo much fun to watch them fall for you and the noises they make during sex thinking you'll be around for the long term.....heh heh heh....little do they know....
JS17 Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale yep.....that about sums me up. its soooo much fun to watch them fall for you and the noises they make during sex thinking you'll be around for the long term.....heh heh heh....little do they know.... GRRRRRR
clynn Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale yep.....that about sums me up. its soooo much fun to watch them fall for you and the noises they make during sex thinking you'll be around for the long term.....heh heh heh....little do they know.... That's just ****in' nasty! mean. nasty. stupid. immature.
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