Is my relationship going to mean career suicide?

[istherehope00]

I need some feedback...

 

I was in a very volatile relationship for the past couple of years. It all began around the same time that I launched into a new career with a new employer.

 

Somehow I was able to continue my job and survive. However, my boss found out that my fiance was charged with domestic violence. He got off.. we reconciled and I started bringing him back around my work events.. it was very awkward. But, it went okay..

 

THEN - we broke up 4 months ago again. Except this time i was left locked out of the house and had to ask my employer to advance me a paycheck because he left me without much money, as well. He said find a new place to live.. and I had to have money for furniture and a lease payment etc. I was panicked!

 

He said he did that because he thought i called the police on him again during a fight...which I did not but said he was terrified of me and couldn't be around me. He told his whole family i am a nightmare and cut me out.

 

I have since flourished in my business and I am back on my feet. Well, 2 weeks.. he came back and begged me back. Said he loved me and couldn't live without me. said he made some very big changes in his life and he can't live without me.

 

We have been doing well and now he wants to attend work events with me again. I tend to think it would be career suicide. My co-workers rallied around me and really tried to help.

 

Now, if I bring him back.. I am worried.

 

My fiance says that I am being dramatic and that people make mistakes and have drama and he wouldn't see the problem with being introduced back into the picture.

 

I asked my therapist and she thinks it is a HUGE professional mistake. But she only hears my side of things.

 

What would you think if your employee did this?

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

He left you high and dry and your co-workers supported you.

 

They're going to think you're bat**** insane if you start bringing him around again.

 

Why on earth did you get back together.... Also HOW did you break up? Were you yelling and screaming at him or being crazy? Trying to understand why he would lock you out -- unless he was just being a douche.

 

I feel like we're not getting the whole story.