crunchyautumn Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 I've been dating someone for just over two months. We go out on dates, usually text each other every day (max two days, but this has usually only been the case when we've been out of town) and have been having a good time. I initiated our last date (First time doing this. Also it was something that he said he'd be happy to do next time when it randomly came up in a conversation the week prior to our last date). At the date everything seemed normal, and we said goodbye in the morning with some kisses and hugs. After this I then didn't hear from him for nearly two days so I decided to text him and we had a very brief convo which eventually ended after he didn't respond to my last comment. I then again didn't hear from him for nearly two days, but eventually decided to message him to ask if he wanted to meet up before he goes away on a trip this coming week (we've both been away on trips quite a lot since knowing each other but always made sure to see each other beforehand. He was usually the one to ask to see me). He messaged that he'd like to but was busy with XYZ each day until he leaves. I then responded that I understand, but that it's a shame as I would have liked to have seen him before he left. He then sent a brief reply nearly a day later saying that he's sorry and he knows that I would have liked to see him - nothing else... As of now, I haven't responded and don't know if I should as I am starting to feel that I am chasing him, but at the same time I also don't know if I am exaggerating and my anxiety is getting the better of me?
Ronnys93 Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Take a step back. Definitely slow down on initiating the dates/texts all the time. See if he's really interested in you. You've done your part, now let him do his. Wait until after the trip to see if he has done any kind of follow up with you. Its only been two months and you both have gone on a few dates so it's not like he's completely ghosted on you. But yes, it's now time to start sitting back and letting him come to you.
Larryville Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 See if he's really interested in you. You already have your answer… dating someone for just over two months. After this I then didn't hear from him for nearly two days He messaged that he'd like to but was busy with XYZ each day until he leaves. starting to feel that I am chasing him, Yup Ladies IDK if some of you who post here are lurkers and don’t read similar threads, or have self-esteem issues, social anxiety whatever, but guys will chase if interested, it is not more complicated than that. Just like a thread a week or so ago some women wondered why she never got second dates, if after date one YOU have to initiate dates and conversations, dudes are NOT interested and pondering and wondering why will never help or solve your issues. Choose people who will indeed chase you!
2005tahoe Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Just went through this recently, Texted her Saturday morning, "Good morning! I hope you are feeling well!" All l I got was a thank you, no, "how are you?" or anything, so I went quiet the next few days. This Morning, I did the same, but asked her how she was feeling, she said good, thank you, nothing else. Then I finally asked her what was up, why the lack of texting when we would keep in touch several times a day. Then she tells me that she is on the fence about some things and that she isn't in a good place for a relationship right now, that her family is going through some thing and that she needs to focus on that and that she doesn't want to rush into anything right now. I just told her that I understood and to keep in touch, to me it sounds like a slow fade out but who knows. She said that she did want to keep in touch, so we will see what happens. It just sucks that people are all up front about being in a relationship then a month later this happens.
hippychick3 Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Interested people act interested. This guy seems to be no longer interested. Pull back and stop initiating contact. Let him contact you and make plans to see you. If he doesn't, you'll know for sure he's not interested and you can move on. 1
2005tahoe Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Take a step back. Definitely slow down on initiating the dates/texts all the time. See if he's really interested in you. You've done your part, now let him do his. Wait until after the trip to see if he has done any kind of follow up with you. Its only been two months and you both have gone on a few dates so it's not like he's completely ghosted on you. But yes, it's now time to start sitting back and letting him come to you. Interested people act interested. This guy seems to be no longer interested. Pull back and stop initiating contact. Let him contact you and make plans to see you. If he doesn't, you'll know for sure he's not interested and you can move on. I am going to imply this myself too with my situation
d0nnivain Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 the best way to catch a guy is to let him chase you. Back off. Let him go on this trip. See if he contacts you while he's gone or at least when he gets home. If yes, you are good to go. If not, well, you have your answer.
GeorgeWP93 Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Sounds like something gave him cold feet, you'll probably never know, maybe he just decided you weren't the one for him, maybe his ex came back, I wouldn't take it personally. It would be nice if he explained to you why but at least he didn't do it once you had fallen for him. You've tried to initiate and organise stuff so just let him make some effort now, if he doesn't, oh well, wasn't meant to be.
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