alpet Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 My 5-month LDR friend, with whom I've met 3-4 times, told me a few days ago that he likes me sexually but not so much emotionally - he says he need time..I, on the other hand, feel for him. Considering the situation, it's hard to remain friends..Should I continue contact with him, or cut it for some time, or for good? Thanks..
justwhoiam Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Should I continue contact with him, or cut it for some time, or for good? I wouldn't want a f buddy. Would you? If you wouldn't either, then just stop talking to him and fade out. You don't owe him anything. 1
Author alpet Posted February 6, 2017 Author Posted February 6, 2017 I wouldn't want a f buddy. Would you? If you wouldn't either, then just stop talking to him and fade out. You don't owe him anything. But shouldn't I wait a bit hoping his feeling will change?
justwhoiam Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 But shouldn't I wait a bit hoping his feeling will change? Up to you. I wouldn't wait around in the hopes he falls in love with me. That might be OK when you're not under someone's radar, when you didn't have a chance with him yet and you're waiting for one so that he gets to know you or to notice you... but this is a totally different case. You've been together and he has no feelings for you. To me that means it's time for you to start a new chapter of your life.
Author alpet Posted February 6, 2017 Author Posted February 6, 2017 Up to you. I wouldn't wait around in the hopes he falls in love with me. That might be OK when you're not under someone's radar, when you didn't have a chance with him yet and you're waiting for one so that he gets to know you or to notice you... but this is a totally different case. You've been together and he has no feelings for you. To me that means it's time for you to start a new chapter of your life. In fact, we had agreed at the very beginning that we could date others, as well - we're both males, by the way.
AlmostFamous Posted February 11, 2017 Posted February 11, 2017 If you want someone strictly for sex,then be there for that. If that is not what you want,time to cut him off and move on. He has told you what he wants from you,it is up to you to accept it or reject it. Good luck.
mightycpa Posted February 11, 2017 Posted February 11, 2017 we're both males, by the way.I'm just curious about something...is this relevant? Do you believe that because you're both male that the standard male-female advice does not apply?
Author alpet Posted February 12, 2017 Author Posted February 12, 2017 If you want someone strictly for sex,then be there for that. If that is not what you want,time to cut him off and move on. He has told you what he wants from you,it is up to you to accept it or reject it. Good luck. Except sex, he wants us to remain good friends, as well but he is against the idea of living together if I decided to move to his city..
NTV Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Well I think you were already aware this wasn't ever going to be a serious relationship if you both agreed to see other people from the get go. Sounds like he's building a f buddy list or a booty call harem or whatever you want to call it. You want to be a part of that or have your own then no worries. You want to be involved in a serious relationship it won't work with this guy. Best way to cure those feelings is likely your next question?
Author alpet Posted February 13, 2017 Author Posted February 13, 2017 Well I think you were already aware this wasn't ever going to be a serious relationship if you both agreed to see other people from the get go. Sounds like he's building a f buddy list or a booty call harem or whatever you want to call it. You want to be a part of that or have your own then no worries. You want to be involved in a serious relationship it won't work with this guy. Best way to cure those feelings is likely your next question? Yes, what do you suggest?
Author alpet Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Could you do no contact? You mean, even if writes me, I should not respond?
NTV Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 You mean, even if writes me, I should not respond? Pretty much. Out of sight out of mind. And all that.
Author alpet Posted February 16, 2017 Author Posted February 16, 2017 Pretty much. Out of sight out of mind. And all that. Maybe you're right. Thanks. 1
smackie9 Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 You have feelings for him, he does not have feelings for you...it's pretty simple, you both need to depart ways.
Life lessons Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 My 5-month LDR friend, with whom I've met 3-4 times, told me a few days ago that he likes me sexually but not so much emotionally - he says he need time..I, on the other hand, feel for him. Considering the situation, it's hard to remain friends..Should I continue contact with him, or cut it for some time, or for good? Thanks.. IMO I would cut him lose...especially with him saying there's no emotions involved! Stop the contact and see if he reaches out to you.
Author alpet Posted February 18, 2017 Author Posted February 18, 2017 IMO I would cut him lose...especially with him saying there's no emotions involved! Stop the contact and see if he reaches out to you. Yes, you're right..We haven't talked since Monday, when I initiated it on that day's morning..
Author alpet Posted February 20, 2017 Author Posted February 20, 2017 He reached out to me yesterday, and we talked mainly about work. I was pleased by that but today I feel somewhat anger toward him..So, love and hate (:
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