kumar123 Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 I'm 28 and have been dating. For the past year, primarily guys younger than me have been wanting to go out with me. A guy a year younger has never been an issue for me. I have gone out with guys older than me as well, but the large majority of guys who want to go out with me are in the 24-26 age range. I have no idea why as I felt younger guys did not approach me much a couple of years ago. Do note I'm very fit, petite and look young. Most random people think I'm 21-26 and I go out a ton with friends. I'm not looking to get married and don't think I will be ready for at least 3 years and do not want children for at least 3-5 years so I'm not the type of woman wanting to settle down and have kids anytime soon. I travel a ton, am focusing on changing my career in the next year and have a couple of goals that require me to live overseas again for a few months so settling down in the next few years would go against what I want. Although I'm not looking for marriage, I am looking for a long-term relationship (even if it only lasts for a couple of years). For the first time I dated and got in a relationship with a guy 4 and a half years younger than me. It didn't work out cause he wanted to be single and I got pretty hurt by it. I've been going on a few dates with a guy who is 2-3 years younger and basically have my guard up as a result, even though he seems very mature (moreso than the last guy I dated). I don't want to sabotage something based on how my last experience went down but my guard is up. Any thoughts on dating a guy a few years younger? I realize the age gap means nothing as I get older, but twenties are a bit of an odd stage. Also note I'm avoiding guys 4 years younger now, I'm just concerned about the men 2-3 years younger.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 If you're going to be moving around so much, a stable relationship probably isn't going to work all that great. Why not just casually date and have fun if you're not looking to settle down for 3-5 years? Younger guys should be fine for that. Sounds like you don't know what you want. 2
Miss Spider Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 no!!! don't discount guys just because they are a few years younger. You could be missing out on some awesome, very interested guys. Have to look at their overall interest, compatibility, and maturity just like you would look at any other man. My dad is 8 years younger than my mother and they've been happily married for almost 40 years. 2
Author kumar123 Posted February 6, 2017 Author Posted February 6, 2017 (edited) I will not be moving for at least 2 years and it would be temporary. I'm not making any permanent oversea movies. These are more long term career goals within my company and the move would only be for 3 months at a time (if that). So I'd be happy meeting someone now, having a long-term relationship and dealing with 3 months long distance likely wouldn't be a dealbreaker if I met someone in the next year or so. You are right cookiesanddough. I was just recently burned by that younger guy and just because he was not ready for a relationship, so I'm a bit worried that most guys several years younger will be in a similar position and will just want to play the field some more. I'm looking for something meaningful and serious, so am not interested in casual dating or strictly short term relationships. Really looking for something long-term as before I met my ex, I was enjoying the single life for several years and would like to just find the right guy for a long term relationship. Edited February 6, 2017 by kumar123
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Well in that case ,age is just a number. That being said I think older guys would handle Long Distance better. 1
gaius Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Guys younger than you are a lot like guys older than you. Some want to date around and others want the right woman. It's weird to me how people sometimes automatically assume it was because he was younger if they breakup. Like it always worked out with people your own age? I'm dating a woman who's older than me and I wouldn't trade my life with her for anything. There's nothing I want more than her in my bed every night. To fall asleep next to her and see her beautiful self in the morning. To talk with her about everything that's on our minds and to taste her lips. To share a life together. But that's just me. 3
TheAntiHero Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 So, tell me: you walk around, you see someone who you're attracted to, and you think in your head "how old is he?". 1
d0nnivain Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 My husband is 5 years younger than me & my dad was 5 years younger than my mom. If you otherwise like the guy, go out with him. 1
JustGettingBy Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 I'd say a 28 YO woman and a 24 YO man together is socially acceptable. 1
rubia73 Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 if you like a guy and he likes you, and you have fun when you're spending time together, don't worry about the age. obviously don't date someone underage.. lol. but i've found some guys that are 21 have been more mature then guys my age. it all depends on the specific person. i'm in a serious relationship and my boyfriend is 7 years younger than me, and truly he is sometimes more mature than me in terms of jealousy and overall craziness just go with your gut feeling- if you're into someone, go for it. don't let a number stop you. 1
coolheadal Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 To worried about the age factor, not thinking straight on where you want to be. These younger guys are learning as well. If you looking for long-term relationship not going to find with these guys. Might have to look older like a guy in his 30s. Depends on what you want and who you want. Not everyone going to be attracted to you and that works both sides of the fence too. Take your time, find the right guy and you'll know it when it happens. 1
RecentChange Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 I am two years older than my husband. We met in our early 20's. Don't disregard huge groups of guys due to the experience with one. Guys don't live as long as women, and heck, like you I look young for my age - and old cooter told my husband "you robbed the cradle with that one" - I gave the old man a wink and said I am older than he is. Nothing wrong with going with a bit younger! 1
thefooloftheyear Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 If you were a 42 year old woman looking for a 35 year old guy, id say great,,,,As immature as 20 something guys are seemingly these days, a sub 25 year old boy probably hasn't dropped his nuts yet,,, TFY 1
smackie9 Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 I dated 5 years younger, and it was a mixed bag of expectations. Some wanted temporary some wanted serious. That's why we date...to see if they will fulfill our expectations. I met my husband when he just turned 20, and I was 3 months shy of turning 26. We had a ton in common including friends, so it worked out great. 1
Author kumar123 Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 Thanks everyone. I'll just not focus on the age right now and just analyze his maturity levels more. Our third date is Saturday so I'll take it slow and not get sexual until I've spent more time with him. You are right, this is what is dating about. Win some and lose some.
CaliforniaGirl Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 I never liked a big difference but a couple of years wouldn't have been a big deal (and never was). About five years was my limit...it just felt odd after that...I don't know why. I don't think three years younger should be a big deal for you. Now if you were 15 and he was 12, THEN you'd have a problem. To be more realistic and less facetious, you might even see some problems, depending upon the maturity level of each of you, if, say, he was 17 and you were 21. But mid-20s and up...things start to level out with slight age differences, IMO.
preraph Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Those guys aren't that much younger to make any difference. It's fine. 1
ashy555 Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Well if you're not looking to settle down then go for it. Younger guys are good at that. I'm 26 and looking to settle down. Trying to steer clear of anyone under 27 as I usually find those that are NOT looking to settle. I am aiming for 30-33 but even some men that age don't know how to treat a woman. I guess everyone is different but if your only looking to have fun then why not go out with the younger guys.
CaliforniaGirl Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Well if you're not looking to settle down then go for it. Younger guys are good at that. I'm 26 and looking to settle down. Trying to steer clear of anyone under 27 as I usually find those that are NOT looking to settle. I am aiming for 30-33 but even some men that age don't know how to treat a woman. I guess everyone is different but if your only looking to have fun then why not go out with the younger guys. Yes and no. The average age for a man in the U.S. for a first marriage is still only 29, I think...which, adding in a few years of dating and an engagement beforehand for the couple, puts him at mid-20s when he is finding that woman he wants to settle down with. So it's not as rare as you might think.
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