bbanner Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 I was unknowingly involved with a woman who got married after we were together for 3 years, and she kept seeing me 4 months after she got married. She said she got married so her 16 yo daughter could have a roof over her head and she could have security herself, since she is 49. she wasnt sure where we were headed. She didnt even ask me. The guy she married was an on and off relationship for 8 years that went in every direction. she said she was going to make it work for her daughters sake. She ended it with me after her daughter and husband saw our texts. She promised her daughter she would end it with me before she got married. She never did. I still love her. Can their marriage survive?
Marc878 Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Not with you in it. Do the right thing and Ho zero contact with this woman. You have no future with someone like this anyway. 2
BaileyB Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Why does it matter if their marriage will survive? This is a train wreck. You would be wise to walk away and find someone more stable who makes better choices in life. This situation is much too complicated... 3
Mr. Lucky Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 She said she got married so her 16 yo daughter could have a roof over her head and she could have security herself, since she is 49. Looks like the role of "sucker working to pay her bills so she can be free to see other men" is taken. Consider yourself lucky... Mr. Lucky 2
Author bbanner Posted February 6, 2017 Author Posted February 6, 2017 S2B, I'm not curently seeing her, nor did I know she was seeing anyone else while we dated for the 4 years. Looking back, I see missed some red flags. Thanks for the replies everyone. Needed to hear what i was already thinking.
mikeylo Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 The marriage will survive. Simply because she wants to. You couldn't give her any stability at that time , nor can you now. You can choose to stay as her side piece.
Hopefuleddie Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 I would encourage you to let her go; you deserve an faithful woman, and her husband deserves a wife committed to her marriage. She is also hurting a those who love her with her actions. Please focus on find another person who you can commit and be faithful to. All the best.
dichotomy Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 Who knows ? If she got married mainly for her daughters sake - she is 16, and in 2-5 years that wont be an issue. Unless your gal stays for her own financial security from then on. But by then she is what ? 54 ?
Author bbanner Posted February 7, 2017 Author Posted February 7, 2017 Thanks for the responses. This really helps.
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