Man I started dating claimed he has many crazy exes

[janetmcafee]

I met this guy who Ive been dating for about a month and a half. He seems like a sweet guy. And our kids get along. We're single parents in our late 20s.

 

I recently went looking through his facebook pictures (like Im sure many people do when they start dating somebody new) and I was just looking at pictures of him from over the years... Well I saw that he posted in May 2016 a picture of spray-paint on his car and he wrote "Here we have yet another psycho ex to add to my laundry list of them. God only knows why I attract them"

 

 

Should I take this as a red flag or no?

[d0nnivain]

Spray painting somebody's car is criminal behavior & it does take a special kind of snowflake to do something like that. So I'd agree with his assessment that perpetrator is unbalanced.

 

 

Whether this is a pattern only he knows.

 

 

I'd think of it as a caution flag. Keep your eyes & ears open. Bolt immediately if any of the . .. . "colorful" . . . EXs are still around.

[VeveCakes]

I'm pasting my reply to your other thread;

 

Yes it is a red flag.

 

My ex bf told me every past gf he had cheated on him. My therapist said - it is never always the other persons fault. Sometimes its them, sometimes it's you. But it is never, ever that someone has never been the one to blame. If someone says that, they are full of it.

 

So if he is always dating psychos, it's not that he is always randomly meeting these women. He is either attracted to the way they are, or he is making them that way by something he has done to them.

 

I would try and dig a little more dirt. Maybe by asking him in a roundabout way or doing some googling.

[Shanex]

When exes and especially crazy exes are still around, it is time to move away.

 

Wonder why a sweet guy like him attracted psychos in the past?

[E3ZY219]

I would be careful. He could possibly be telling you all these things to make himself look innocent, but in fact, he could very well be the one causing problems causing his exes to react in that fashion.

[preraph]

One of my serious ex-bfs married a real psycho and then at work took the side of another one. He has no insight whatever. These manipulative con artists could wrap him around their finger just by flattering him. It's pathetic!!

[elaine567]

I would be careful. He could possibly be telling you all these things to make himself look innocent, but in fact, he could very well be the one causing problems causing his exes to react in that fashion.

 

That is the big worry here.

They were not "psycho" until he started messing with their heads...

 

If he is really a "sweet guy", then cheating springs to mind.

I guess spray painting a cheater's car may not be that unusual along with slashing his tyres and cutting up his clothes...

[PegNosePete]

I wouldn't say this one pic/comment itself is a red flag. She may have been totally crazy to do that to someone's car, but then you don't know what he did to drive her to it. If it's just a one off event, despite his comment, then it could happen to anyone.

 

I'd only be concerned if it really is a pattern (ie. he has a long string of "crazy exes"). If that is the case then I would start to wonder what the common denominator is.... (him). You don't want to be labelled as "crazy ex #17" after all.

[mikeylo]

Having more than one or two psychos is a red flag.

[Larryville]

I saw that he posted in May 2016 a picture of spray-paint on his car and he wrote "Here we have yet another psycho ex to add to my laundry list of them. God only knows why I attract them"

 

Massive red flag and I will add something else, when dudes talk about and seemingly relish this behavior

 

spray-paint on his car

 

And shares this, on Facebook!? Seriously!?

 

Oh hell no!

 

Also dudes who typically call exes crazy are addicted to the drama in relationships and in addition they don’t respect women.

[mightycpa]

I saw that he posted in May 2016 a picture of spray-paint on his car and he wrote "Here we have yet another psycho ex to add to my laundry list of them. God only knows why I attract them"

Massive red flag and I will add something else, when dudes talk about and seemingly relish this behavior

 

 

 

And shares this, on Facebook!? Seriously!?

 

Oh hell no!

 

Also dudes who typically call exes crazy are addicted to the drama in relationships and in addition they don’t respect women.

Larry knows why he attracts them!

[O'Malley]

Unless it was a situation that involved abuse and/or stalking (and spray painting someone's vehicle could qualify as the latter), I'm leery of anyone who easily provides anecdotes about their supposedly "crazy" ex, especially if he has a laundry list of them as this guy is claiming. Plus he's comfortable posting all of this on a public site.

 

Just my take, but I avoided dating men who badmouthed their exes. The manner in which someone discusses his exes and his relationships with them is usually indicative of how he'll talk about you in the future.