Met a female friend of a guy that had potential - not sure what to make of it

[Lavendar]

There is a guy that I've been friends with, but had the potential for more. There was a time I knew he was interested in me, and we've spent some time together on lunches, lots of online chats, and a couple of evening outings. We had both been in long-term relationships in the past and neither of us are really "daters." Some of this activity had tapered off over the last few months, but we've continued to have lunch once every week or so.

 

Fast forward to the other day...after I picked up lunch, I walked past another restaurant and heard a knocking on the window from the inside, and it was him. He was having lunch with a woman and motioned for me to come in, which I did. He introduced me to her and they asked me to join them, but I declined -- partly because I wasn't sure I should, but I was also anxious to get back to the office -- but we talked for a while.

 

I'm trying to figure out how to interpret something...we started talking about food because I post a lot of food pics on Facebook, and she said that he tells her all the time about my food pictures. I'm not sure how to interpret that -- it sounds like they must spend a lot of time together if he tells her "all the time" about my pics, but also don't know what to make of him talking to her about me/my pics.

 

I know he has a lot of female friends (and I have a lot of male friends), and I couldn't tell by their actions whether they were friends or something more. When he and I have conversations, he never mentions other women, except his ex every now and then, although he does talk a lot about his family and other personal things. He's also just a very friendly person, so it's been hard for me to figure out his actions.

[d0nnivain]

Because he invited you in & because she was upfront that he talks to her about you, I would presume she is just his friend.

 

 

I don't see anything nefarious. For more proof look for her on his social media feed.

[mikeylo]

Put everything on hold and get your radar up.

[BluesPower]

Why not just talk...

 

Why is it so hard for people your age to just ask and talk about stuff.

 

At least you would know. You could ask him, "Listen do you fell like you and it should try to actually date romantically?" , and, "Do you think that you may or could have romantic/dating feeling for me?". And you can be honest as well that you think you may be interested in him that way.

 

If you did something like that, you could know and if all is positive you never know what might happen?

 

It is worth a shot.

 

I actually have to do this with a girl I know. She is super sweet to me and always goes out of her way to hug me or kiss me on the cheek. Now, it could be that she is just that friendly, however she is not like that with everyone.

 

For me, I am hoping that she does not want more, because she is such a beautiful, sexy, sweet woman, that I would be afraid of actually developing feeling for her. That is not where I am at, at this point of my life.

 

However, if she just wanted to have sex I might be interested and I would have to make sure I could keep my feelings in check.

 

So you never know...