bradt93 Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 What do women really look for in a man as far as personality,looks,etc? I mean do they want a nice guy with an average body type or a mean guy who has abs? because it seems women go for the second choice which makes no sense to me:rolleyes:
WomenWubber Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Why? Most people would agree that muscles look good, both on women and men. Also sure thing nice guys are good at doing what they are told to, but the mean ones are challenging and exiting according to most women in my exp. There's no absolute answer to this question because it's a matter of taste, but Imho you can almost never go wrong with a six pack and softball-sized biceps.
anduina Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 My boyfriend's very thin with no serious muscle definition but he picks me up without any effort. His biggest muscle is his beautiful brain. I love him the way he is. 2
d0nnivain Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Different women want different things. It depends on the woman. What you are asking is like trying to get us to tell you which is better chocolate or vanilla ice cream. We're telling you some people like cake & pie, & are lactose intolerant. You need to be yourself. . . you best self -- the polite guy, who is clean. Some woman out there will think you are the best but that doesn't mean every woman will. For example a lot of women think Brad Pitt and Justin Beiber are amazing. I think they are both awful. My opinion doesn't make them awful; it's just my opinion which matters to no one except me. 2
bebe23 Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I'm a woman and I want someone to let me do the things I like to do, in peace. And someone who is trustworthy. And buys me donuts. Those bumpy ab muscles are not that attractive to me. I like when men have soft cuddly bellies. I make a lot of pizza for my guy. 1
Author bradt93 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 Different women want different things. It depends on the woman. What you are asking is like trying to get us to tell you which is better chocolate or vanilla ice cream. We're telling you some people like cake & pie, & are lactose intolerant. You need to be yourself. . . you best self -- the polite guy, who is clean. Some woman out there will think you are the best but that doesn't mean every woman will. For example a lot of women think Brad Pitt and Justin Beiber are amazing. I think they are both awful. My opinion doesn't make them awful; it's just my opinion which matters to no one except me. Well, being myself means I'm quiet and reserved. I don't like to party or go to clubs. I like being home doing things.
Sweetfish Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Well, being myself means I'm quiet and reserved. I don't like to party or go to clubs. I like being home doing things. Well... unless you have an abundance of women at your house... seems like your in a pretty bad position. 1
alphamale Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 What do women really look for in a man as far as personality,looks,etc? I mean do they want a nice guy with an average body type or a mean guy who has abs? because it seems women go for the second choice which makes no sense to me:rolleyes: women want a little bit of everything all rolled up in one man 1
d0nnivain Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Well, being myself means I'm quiet and reserved. I don't like to party or go to clubs. I like being home doing things. So be that. There are lots of women who think that is awesome. They don't want a party boy any more than you want to be one. To meet a woman you may have to come a bit out of your shell. You will have to be able to say hello & hold a conversation but that doesn't have to happen at a party or nightclub. You will have to leave your house but you can go places that interest you where you are comfortable. 2
TheWoman Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I like a good sense of humour, its a real weak point for me. I have unconsciously overlooked some very poor behaviour from men who can make me laugh at lot.. Muscles, meh. Too much can actually be off putting. Fitness is attractive though. If someone intellectually and emotionally hits the right notes in conversation with me, there is a very wide range in what I will find physically attractive.
elaine567 Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 What do women really look for in a man as far as personality,looks,etc? I mean do they want a nice guy with an average body type or a mean guy who has abs? because it seems women go for the second choice which makes no sense to me:rolleyes: Ok, but nice guys can have abs and mean guys can have average body type too. 1
central Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I'm pretty quiet, not a party person, and prefer activities that don't involve large groups. It can help if you like a variety of activities - not just sitting at home - such as hiking, beach trips, dancing, wine tastings, or whatever can be fun and done with a date. I had tremendous dating success using online dating - you don't have to leave home to find someone, but you do have to meet to develop a relationship, by going out and doing things together. You do have to be able to communicate and hold one-on-one conversations, and have something interesting to talk about that a date can relate to. And you do have to be true to yourself - because the right person will relate to who you are, and being anything else would be discovered and be cause for rejection. 1
anuba Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 There's no single thing that all women look for in a man. I think it's a mistake to have a bunch of expectations from someone you haven't met, yet. So having this internal checklist for a potential partner seems like a waste of time. You can't predict who might make a good match for you, you just have to get out there and find out.
Tribble Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Everybody likes different things, everyone has their own preferences. I was just saying to a friend the other day, I saw a picture of my ex on fb and couldn't understand why everyone didn't think he was ah-mazing. I know he is not to everyones taste. He's probably not considered attractive to most people but to me he really was! But that's his personality that I got to see and made him attractive to me. Not all girls go for mean and muscled (and they don't even go hand in hand those two). All variety of people are in relationships - look around! Couples are not universally attractive. If only very attractive men got gfs we'd be extinct or a very attractive species. 1
SwordofFlame Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Op, women can vary greatly on what they want in a man, whereas men are more or less close to 100% agreement on what makes a woman attractive. Stop trying to figure out what women want and focus on finding one that finds what you have attractive. (Easier said than done of course.)
mightycpa Posted February 6, 2017 Posted February 6, 2017 Women like a man who packs 14 inches in his pants, and to be a keeper, at least 7 inches of that had better be the cash in his wallet! I'm just kidding, although if you have that, you'll do pretty well. Seriously. Women are attracted to all sorts of things at first. Other than the one above, there's no real winning formula. It's a big world and it takes all kinds.
Sweetfish Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 Op, women can vary greatly on what they want in a man, whereas men are more or less close to 100% agreement on what makes a woman attractive. Stop trying to figure out what women want and focus on finding one that finds what you have attractive. (Easier said than done of course.) So what is it men are %100 close agreement as far as attraction?
rushed Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 What do women really look for in a man as far as personality,looks,etc? I mean do they want a nice guy with an average body type or a mean guy who has abs? because it seems women go for the second choice which makes no sense to me:rolleyes: Generalizing, I'm thinking that in this situation the mean guy with the abs probably seems to attract more women because he has the confidence. Confidence goes a long way, and it can be missing from a lot of these so-called "nice guys" with average bodies. That being said, personally I love nice guys. I won't tolerate mean guys. But there has to be some kind of attraction.
normal person Posted February 8, 2017 Posted February 8, 2017 Well, being myself means I'm quiet and reserved. I don't like to party or go to clubs. I like being home doing things. Expecting a woman to like you because you're quiet and reserved is sort of like expecting them to like a movie because nothing happens in it. At some point, if you want someone's time, attention, and consideration, you need to do things that shape their opinions of you. If you don't say or do anything notable; if you just fade into the background, women don't have any reason to think anything about you. That's not good or bad necessarily, it's just not really "anything." If you want a woman's consideration, you have to engage her with some level of emotional connection or pique her interest somehow. And you generally don't do that by being quiet and reserved. There are exceptions of course, but they aren't the rule. So what is it men are %100 close agreement as far as attraction? I read an article within the last year that suggested 90+% of men could agree on what women were attractive, but only ~40% of women could agree on what men were attractive. Womens' taste are much more variable and selective.
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