GeorgeWP93 Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I like typing because if I don't I will text me ex which I will regret, I've had enough, I have so much to offer, I'm not insecure, I'm supportive, I help people when they're down, I want to experience things in life's some people never do, I want to travel, I work hard, I'm there for people when they're down, I lean on people when I'm struggling to be the strong man I am, I arrange dates and fun things to do, I get rejected, I have a great family, I have great friends, I have a great social life, I have hobbies I want to love, I cook I clean I want to build a life with someone, I've been heartbroken, I live in a small town, I see the same faces, I meet people I never want to see again, I meet people who I could have a future with, I live in the real world, I love real conversations, I don't judge, I stand my ground, I do my best for people. I'm there for the ones that need me, I'm there for the ones that don't need me, I care about people who don't care for me, I'm sensitive, people take me for granted, I offer more than 90% of the people I known. I'm experienced, I'm funny, I'm loving, I can compromise, I can give advice, my life's not easy, I've struggled. I compliment, I criticise constructively. It's not enough, what more can I do? 2
Lostandconfused12 Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 What you can offer is loving yourself again. And one day you'll find someone who thinks you're 100%. Who would never hurt you. Sometimes it just doesn't work out things are out of our hands. 6
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 Funny thing is my last girlfriend who dumped me a couple weeks ago, liked and then unliked a picture I put on instagram, I know accidents happen but why does she even follow me, I unfollowed her straight after the break up.
alterest Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 (edited) Funny thing is my last girlfriend who dumped me a couple weeks ago, liked and then unliked a picture I put on instagram, I know accidents happen but why does she even follow me, I unfollowed her straight after the break up. Maybe just a little stalk... No one knows, but her. Don't overthink about it. Really! You are in a position where you can make significant changes in yourself, and overthink just put you in a loop of overthink about anything. And it is horrible, trust me. And I completly understand you, mine went full NC for about 2 months and then start to ask about how am I doing, about career and so on. She also liked posts from college members talking about me and even tagged me in some of those posts. Recently she sent me non-sense messages talking about nothing. She just looking for companion and someone to hangout and bang. Is she wrong? Not at all. She is single and it's her life. Do you know what those messages asking about my life means? Nothing. In a better perpective, just breadcrumbs. She wants just to keep me around but want to hang out with someone. She doesn't want to see me move on from her. It's selfish, just that. Edited February 5, 2017 by alterest
SevenCity Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Don't text bro. Nothing good will come out of it. Trust me.
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 Don't text bro. Nothing good will come out of it. Trust me. I know it's just having somebody else to talk to or I post on here LOL!
Bromeo Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Realize that with time the emotions will drain out and be covered up. I was there too, I did all the normal crazy boy stuff, call, text, email, show up, etc. I cringe at all that now. Patience and self love. I just got back from a 5 mile run and I feel great. No good will come of texting. Look at me as an example of what not to do. lol
preraph Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I know it's hard to resist temptation, but when we give in, it's usually just doubly humiliating. People seem to find it very hard not to just look in out of curiosity on people they broke up with. It's not great, but curiosity doesn't mean they want you back. It's just curiosity.
divegrl Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Hey OP. There is a thread over in the coping section where u can write what u want to text ur ex instead of actually texting them. It's pinned to the top of the section. You can also read what others have said; and know you're not alone in wanting to reach out. Peace to you my friend. 1
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 Hey OP. There is a thread over in the coping section where u can write what u want to text ur ex instead of actually texting them. It's pinned to the top of the section. You can also read what others have said; and know you're not alone in wanting to reach out. Peace to you my friend. Ahhh never saw that, thanks, that will help for sure. I don't want to text her, it just helps me to rant about the frustrations of life, dating, women and my ex to be honest. My friends are fed up of it.
jamili Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Don't ever initiate a call text or call to her. After time passes, I am betting she will contact you. Most people aren't used to the dumpee walking away after the dump - most chase. Gotta give her time to miss you man, how long has it been?
Marc878 Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 You're young maybe you should move to another geographic location. Read up "No More Mr Nice Guy" free PDF download
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 Don't ever initiate a call text or call to her. After time passes, I am betting she will contact you. Most people aren't used to the dumpee walking away after the dump - most chase. Gotta give her time to miss you man, how long has it been? Two weeks man, we were only together 6 months but as everyone says, we went through a lot. I helped her when she was in hospital, we spent a lot of evenings together even when we didn't go out, time with friends and family. Honestly as much as I want to hear from her again, what's the point? Unless it's a heartfelt apology, a mistake on her part, she regrets it and to go down there and talk to her. Even then is it worth it?
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 You're young maybe you should move to another geographic location. Read up "No More Mr Nice Guy" free PDF download I'm not a Mr Nice Guy as such, I just want a relationship you support each other in. I didn't bend over backwards for her or any women now I've grown up, maybe I'm ridiculous but I want to live in a world where the people who are close to me I can help and support as well as have life experiences and fun with. Maybe I'm living in a dream world. 1
DarrenB Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I'm not a Mr Nice Guy as such, I just want a relationship you support each other in. I didn't bend over backwards for her or any women now I've grown up, maybe I'm ridiculous but I want to live in a world where the people who are close to me I can help and support as well as have life experiences and fun with. Maybe I'm living in a dream world. Unfortunately, you just learn to acknowledge and accept the fact that a lot of people around you choose and decide their own demise. They neglect your help, guidance and support... and once they're in a predicament, that's when they attempt to reconcile with us. I'm with you on the supporting from both parties in the relationship side of things. Unrequited love and care is something I'm way too familiar with. Maybe one day, hey?
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 Unfortunately, you just learn to acknowledge and accept the fact that a lot of people around you choose and decide their own demise. They neglect your help, guidance and support... and once they're in a predicament, that's when they attempt to reconcile with us. I'm with you on the supporting from both parties in the relationship side of things. Unrequited love and care is something I'm way too familiar with. Maybe one day, hey? I have a mad theory that all these women are still with their first love so unless you snap them up first, they no longer exist, especially with a heartbreak it ruins them. . I understand this is what life is like but why do we actually meet people, who stand out of the crowd to us, who ticks all the boxes, makes us laugh, gives us butterfly's and we fall in love with, only to fall out of love with no good reason, not fundamental differences, no huge arguments, just... no longer feeling it. I've never experienced a sudden falling out of love.
SevenCity Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Realize that with time the emotions will drain out and be covered up. I was there too, I did all the normal crazy boy stuff, call, text, email, show up, etc. I cringe at all that now. Patience and self love. I just got back from a 5 mile run and I feel great. No good will come of texting. Look at me as an example of what not to do. lol Although I've been through bad heartache before and know it will eventually end, I can't help but feel like mine will be forever. It's been 5 months and seems to be getting worse rather than better. The lack of a solid reason to ending a 7 year RL makes getting over it much harder.
jamili Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Two weeks man, we were only together 6 months but as everyone says, we went through a lot. I helped her when she was in hospital, we spent a lot of evenings together even when we didn't go out, time with friends and family. Honestly as much as I want to hear from her again, what's the point? Unless it's a heartfelt apology, a mistake on her part, she regrets it and to go down there and talk to her. Even then is it worth it? Pretty standard there. But man, 2 weeks.... she hasn't even begun to feel any sort of loss of you. Wayyyyyy too soon. She's probably feeling liberated and relieved right now. She probably won't tap into her emotions surrounding the breakup for months... at least 6 months seems to be the "norm". You have a long way to go. She will probably contact you for something random, or logistics (like mine did), months down the line. If you never contact her it will sort of blow her mind. Try a little experiment and ask all of your female friends and family how many times a guy they dumped just disappeared and never contacted them again. I have a large amount of female friends and family, and every single one of them gave me the same answer - ZERO. Be the one guy in her life to walk away, and NEVER contact her again. She won't forget about you (and will respect you for it). I find it very, very hard to believe that she will never contact you again - unless you really did something terrible to her like physical abuse her or something. Not saying she's going to come "crawling back" or whatever, but that she will most likely break NC.
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 Although I've been through bad heartache before and know it will eventually end, I can't help but feel like mine will be forever. It's been 5 months and seems to be getting worse rather than better. The lack of a solid reason to ending a 7 year RL makes getting over it much harder. I can't begin to imagine the pain you're in, it's a large section of your life, someone you love and they've gone when you think all is good. People will tell you it will get better with time which never helps me. What does help briefly is you're in control of your happiness, you're deciding to let yourself feel bad and not move on. Honestly, I never get over people who I have loved until I meet the next one who makes me realise the last one was just a practice run... and then they break my heart and we start all over again.
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 Pretty standard there. But man, 2 weeks.... she hasn't even begun to feel any sort of loss of you. Wayyyyyy too soon. She's probably feeling liberated and relieved right now. She probably won't tap into her emotions surrounding the breakup for months... at least 6 months seems to be the "norm". You have a long way to go. She will probably contact you for something random, or logistics (like mine did), months down the line. If you never contact her it will sort of blow her mind. Try a little experiment and ask all of your female friends and family how many times a guy they dumped just disappeared and never contacted them again. I have a large amount of female friends and family, and every single one of them gave me the same answer - ZERO. Be the one guy in her life to walk away, and NEVER contact her again. She won't forget about you (and will respect you for it). I find it very, very hard to believe that she will never contact you again - unless you really did something terrible to her like physical abuse her or something. Not saying she's going to come "crawling back" or whatever, but that she will most likely break NC. Thanks so much I know it's true, I've tried to text ex girlfriends before to make them feel guilty, texting them hoping they will realise what they're missing, never works. One girl I got back in touch with and actually had another date with but that was probably a year or two after a very brief relationship, and we had grown and were different, maybe I could have had another date but I didn't really want it. I was always good to her, it was always a fun relationship with plenty of things to do and lots of plans and no arguments, no jealousy, no neediness. Her gay friend told me she used to text him all the time telling him she couldn't believe how nice I was and the things I did for her. (Things that to me are pretty basic but it was just her ex never done them) I hope she texts me one day, maybe when I'm feeling less raw, it ended for the wrong reasons, I know we are compatible and it would be good to try get back to that.
jamili Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 Thanks so much I know it's true, I've tried to text ex girlfriends before to make them feel guilty, texting them hoping they will realise what they're missing, never works. One girl I got back in touch with and actually had another date with but that was probably a year or two after a very brief relationship, and we had grown and were different, maybe I could have had another date but I didn't really want it. I was always good to her, it was always a fun relationship with plenty of things to do and lots of plans and no arguments, no jealousy, no neediness. Her gay friend told me she used to text him all the time telling him she couldn't believe how nice I was and the things I did for her. (Things that to me are pretty basic but it was just her ex never done them) I hope she texts me one day, maybe when I'm feeling less raw, it ended for the wrong reasons, I know we are compatible and it would be good to try get back to that. If you treated her well, behaved like a man, were liked by her friends and family, and never initiate contact after the breakup - chances are probably decent that someday, maybe years later, she will remember the good things and miss them. The prerequisite for this kind of awakening is she needs to(1) grow, and (2) date some other guys. I mean, nothing in the future is certain. You never know what might happen. 10 years down the line you guys could reunite. That's a good thing though man. Because you don't want her coming back anytime soon. If you want a real reconciliation, you don't. If she comes back in a week, the relationship is probably going to fail again, and quickly. The only possible way it will ever work out is if you both grow, change, evolve as people, and then come back after all that. Which, will take time. But if she comes back after all that and you're still hung up on her - she will sense it immediately and you will repel her and have zero chance. That's why it's important to move on. People don't just say move on so you can let the person go and live your life, you also need to move on if you seriously want any type of real reconciliation. Trust in the universe - if it's gonna happen, it'll happen. If not, it won't. Just live.
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 If you treated her well, behaved like a man, were liked by her friends and family, and never initiate contact after the breakup - chances are probably decent that someday, maybe years later, she will remember the good things and miss them. The prerequisite for this kind of awakening is she needs to(1) grow, and (2) date some other guys. I mean, nothing in the future is certain. You never know what might happen. 10 years down the line you guys could reunite. That's a good thing though man. Because you don't want her coming back anytime soon. If you want a real reconciliation, you don't. If she comes back in a week, the relationship is probably going to fail again, and quickly. The only possible way it will ever work out is if you both grow, change, evolve as people, and then come back after all that. Which, will take time. But if she comes back after all that and you're still hung up on her - she will sense it immediately and you will repel her and have zero chance. That's why it's important to move on. People don't just say move on so you can let the person go and live your life, you also need to move on if you seriously want any type of real reconciliation. Trust in the universe - if it's gonna happen, it'll happen. If not, it won't. Just live. I mean her friends probably don't like me cos one has blocked me on instagram after I liked a picture and the other who I had given plenty of advice to I added on Snapchat and her and my ex obviously took it as trying it on with her when I only wanted advice and went mad at me. Me and my ex had a few words to exchange, I got some things off my chest and wished her all the best and haven't spoken to her since. Weird how last night she liked and unliked my post, I don't even follow her now but she still follows me... I mean women have a short memory, they don't remember the good stuff you done, they just turn to hating you, that's how they initially deal with it. 1
DarrenB Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I've never experienced a sudden falling out of love. And I hope you never do, fella.
Author GeorgeWP93 Posted February 5, 2017 Author Posted February 5, 2017 Just realised I had a missed call from a withheld number at 2 in the morning, 10 minutes before she liked my instagram post. Why wouldn't she just leave me alone? 1
jamili Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I mean women have a short memory, they don't remember the good stuff you done, they just turn to hating you, that's how they initially deal with it. This isn't true, not sure where you are getting this. It is human nature to start looking at the past (especially past relationships) with rose tinted glasses. It's the way the brain works. She will likely remember the good things and the negative stuff with fade in time. You have this backwards. And I don't agree that women have a short memory. I don't think memory capacity is gender specific. Some men and women have bad memories, but you can't generalize it by sex. I will say however that women are more likely to bury those memories for longer... but they will reemerge eventually...
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