Kugle Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 Hi Loveshack, Last weekend I was out partying with some colleagues and it was all fun. Late in the morning me and this super cute girl from work pulls me aside. I've allways liked her alot as a friend, and we have been flirting friendly and teasing each other for quite some timer. However she has a boyfriend. Anyway she pulled aside and we sat there next to each other sharing a slice of pizza having a great moment, when she suddenly tells me, that she really likes me and asks if I like her more than just as a friend. She said that she felt we had something special together and that she felt i had feelings for her. Having feelings for her honestly never crossed my mind, as she's already in a relationship and have been living with her boyfriend for 2-3 years. I've even been taking care of their dog and met him on several occasion. She continues the conversation saying that she has talked alot about me to her friends, and told them that if she did not have her boyfriend, she would want be with me. She tells me that she has never been with anyone else besides him, and that i've made her think about if their relationship is the right thing for the rest of her life. Even though I was very surprised and overwhelmed, the conversation and moment we shared were very powerful and emotional. I told her that I considered our relationship very special and valuable and that I really like her, however I've not thought about her as a potential girlfriend, due to her having a boyfriend. I also told her that I did not want her to cheat on her boyfriend with me. I don't want to be that douchebag. After a bit more talking we went for a taxi and agreed that I should just drop her off at her apartment. As we arrive she changes her mind, and wants to sleep with me instead. I said ok, but that did not want to have sex with her. As we drive again she starts kissing me. I've had many good and emotional kisses in my life, but this french kiss was among the best. So intense, intimate and loving. After a few kisses she changes her mind again and wanted to head home to herself, which ofcourse was fine with me. The next day she calls me, and says that she was very drunk and cant remember much and that she wants our friendly relationship to stay the same without being awkward. She felt very bad for what she have done to her boyfriend and have even told him parts of the story. Notably us kissing. The past week at work has not really changed much. We still tease each other, talk about everything and occasionally have a little friendly flirt going on. Outside work we've been texting alot. So here I am one week later actually thinking that I have feelings for her. But there are so many things in the way of us having being together. Her boyfriend, us working together, the potential of ruining our friendship etc. Should I ask her out, tell her how I feel or should I just forget her and move as nothing has happened? Some advice would be much appreciated
PinkPampies Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 Why would you pursue her. She has a boyfriend. And been living together. Want drama? You're going to get it if you continue.
OnlyHonesty Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 You need to wise up. She has shown she is disloyal to her bf, there is no reason why she wouldn't do the same thing to you once she becomes bored (if you were foolish enough to get with her). As we arrive she changes her mind, and wants to sleep with me instead. I said ok Above is where you made a mistake. Your response should have been no. You have also opened yourself up to a false allegation as well. There have been cases where a woman has regretted cheating on a bf and tried to cover it up with a false allegation of some sort. Her mentioning not remembering anything is a red flag. I had a similar experience at a job recently and told the girl nothing would be happening because she has a bf. I believe in having self control, I won't enable another persons bad behavior. 1
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