coolheadal Posted February 10, 2017 Posted February 10, 2017 Man don't sell yourself short. I don't see nothing wrong with you should be okay. Think positive about yourself (self-esteem), be confident. Your still looking even if you find the right woman you still don't want to settle for anyone. I am also like yourself I met a woman at a party she's had seek me out I never exchanged phone numbers. This is most resent but I usually find women online but yes they tend to be unstable and I don't want to just settle for anyone. I find the even the one off the gird can also be no better than someone I met from online world. These women you met you just have to pay it by ear. Don't rush thing if you don't want to kiss them yet then do it. Experience online or offline just need to understand one thing, that all women are not going to be attractive to you there is just that one or two that will be. Just be yourself let it happen and don't rush things. Women today are not like the one of the past.
smackie9 Posted February 10, 2017 Posted February 10, 2017 Just me but OLD gives people false hope and high expectations....swipe, swipe, swipe, nope, swipe....... The only thing that has changed is technology/methods of meeting people BUT the issues are still the same.....nothing is any different than it was 30 years ago. Dating sucked back then too. All I can say is, if you keep getting a busy signal don't keep redialing. Call a different number.
smackie9 Posted February 11, 2017 Posted February 11, 2017 Viking you have a lot of things the majority of women are looking for...steady career, relationship experience, good work ethic, a social life, hobbies, etc. I feel pursuing someone is a two way street. No one person should do all the chasing, it should be mutual. Yes women do expect the guy to initiate the first few dates BUT when it comes to communication she should do some of the contacting too. Don't worry you will get there, usually when you least expect it. Are you a member of a gun club/firing range? You should volunteer on ladies nights....show some young damsel how to handle your, uh I mean, her gun lol. 2
vanhalenfan Posted February 11, 2017 Posted February 11, 2017 If that's your profile pic you look like an avg to below avg dude. Man, that was a little harsh!! 4
Author Viking Posted February 12, 2017 Author Posted February 12, 2017 Well if the roads were bad that's understandable. Just stay on her radar every other day or so, and see if you can make something happen next week. We'll see, I have been advised by co-workers who have been curious about the progress I've made from relationship to singlehood transition not to contact her for a few days. It's been three or so now. I may give it one more shot saying something to the effect of, "If you're interested in another date, let me know what works for you and if not, no worries." Man don't sell yourself short. I don't see nothing wrong with you should be okay. Think positive about yourself (self-esteem), be confident. Your still looking even if you find the right woman you still don't want to settle for anyone. I am also like yourself I met a woman at a party she's had seek me out I never exchanged phone numbers. This is most resent but I usually find women online but yes they tend to be unstable and I don't want to just settle for anyone. I find the even the one off the gird can also be no better than someone I met from online world. These women you met you just have to pay it by ear. Don't rush thing if you don't want to kiss them yet then do it. Experience online or offline just need to understand one thing, that all women are not going to be attractive to you there is just that one or two that will be. Just be yourself let it happen and don't rush things. Women today are not like the one of the past. I'm not in a rush, so thankfully I can be picky and adjust my aim as time goes by and I get more dating experience. I haven't had this much time being single in about 8 years...whew. I tend to go from one long-term relationship to another with a transition of a few months. Just me but OLD gives people false hope and high expectations....swipe, swipe, swipe, nope, swipe....... The only thing that has changed is technology/methods of meeting people BUT the issues are still the same.....nothing is any different than it was 30 years ago. Dating sucked back then too. All I can say is, if you keep getting a busy signal don't keep redialing. Call a different number. I like that, call a different number. The instant gratification of online dating is what makes it so superficial. Many of the women on there have a shopping list of expectations and if you don't have all the boxes checked off, no reply. Never mind the fact the woman has kids, or works a low end job, or has other baggage someone might overlook. Viking you have a lot of things the majority of women are looking for...steady career, relationship experience, good work ethic, a social life, hobbies, etc. I feel pursuing someone is a two way street. No one person should do all the chasing, it should be mutual. Yes women do expect the guy to initiate the first few dates BUT when it comes to communication she should do some of the contacting too. Don't worry you will get there, usually when you least expect it. Are you a member of a gun club/firing range? You should volunteer on ladies nights....show some young damsel how to handle your, uh I mean, her gun lol. I'm not a member as I just can't really pledge myself to consistent activities due to my work schedule. That would be a good idea though. I have plenty of formal training and could easily help out. As for having much of what women want, that comes into play later after you've reeled them in a little. After you have their interest, then they find out you've got a stable career, you're a smart and educated man, want a family and can afford one, have my own cars and a great credit score. Pursuing someone should be a two way street, and that was part of my frustration. This gal had ON HER PROFILE "I like when a man pursues". The only catch is it seems he has to be content with little return in exchange for planning, texting, calling, etc. I may give it another go as I'm feeling less investment and less interested. If something comes out of it, cool. What would be a good way to frame the text? Or should I call given she "likes" calls, even if she doesn't answer. I almost think she gets her ego filled by some of this. Man, that was a little harsh!! Yeah, not everyone is nice. It's the internet, so you're bound to find some people who are needing to find ways to make themselves feel better. I never claimed to be great looking, just not "bad". Also, some would likely think this gal isn't "pretty" because of different standards. I can overlook some imperfections if the personality and character is good.
mortensorchid Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 I don't like it when I encounter people who have "dealbreaker questions" or an MO like this woman did. That means if you do or don't like this certain thing they will think you are a flawed person and not good enough for them. I was with someone like that for a flash a few years ago, he asked all these questions of me. He asked me if I had nerdy interests, I said "I suppose so, yes." I wasn't sure what he was getting at with it, honestly. Did he want to hear that I played D & D or went to Star Trek conventions or something? What happened if I said yes or no to it? Another he asked was why my last serious relationship ended. I said it was because the guy was a horse's ass (which he was). He wanted to know more, I said that's all I was going to tell him about it at that point. He got all huffy and said we weren't compatible because of my not wanting to answer questions. I cut him off immediately after that, all he did was chip away at my self esteem, which this woman sounds like she was doing to you. Move on.
TheTraveler Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Just me but OLD gives people false hope and high expectations....swipe, swipe, swipe, nope, swipe....... The only thing that has changed is technology/methods of meeting people BUT the issues are still the same.....nothing is any different than it was 30 years ago. Dating sucked back then too. All I can say is, if you keep getting a busy signal don't keep redialing. Call a different number. It is if you focus on one person at a time. But, anyone who is experienced with online dating should know it's multiple women, multiple women at a time. I know there are people who do not want to multi-date, but if your route is online dating, it's a must. And you have to recognize that
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