aares Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Toms thread about alcohol made me think...and think...and think. The more I pondered, the more I realized that around 95% of the people I talk to about having cheated or being cheated on, tell me that alcohol was involved. WTF is going on here? I never thought about how many people told me this until now. I am 20 years old, and I have never been drunk. I drink wine about once a week and thats about it. How hard is it to control yourself while being drunk, as to not be more flirtatious or even not to have sex with someone else? Do you loose your basic memory and forget that you have a bf/gf? I had a gf once who would sit on other guys laps at parties while she was under the influence...while I was sitting right across the room. That girl was a major slut to begin with so Im not sure if that was the alcohol or the sluttyness coming out. I am starting to get nervous from the answers that I am going to get.
shamen Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 For most people, they lose their inhibitions when they get drunk, so they are a lot more likely to make stupid choices. You're not nearly as rational when drunk. It's not that people forget that they have a bf/gf, it's just that they don't necessarily care. I don't think that everyone that has ever gotten drunk has cheated on their SO, but I do think that the probability of it happening while drinking is higher than if sober. That is probably the person who just needs a reason to cheat and wouldn't do it while sober. Again, I'm not saying that I think that all people who get drunk cheat. I never cheated on my long term ex, not while drunk, not while sober (I loved him). But I did cheat on my last short term ex while drinking (did not love him). I had been planning on breaking up with him just as soon as he repaid me the money I loaned him (yeah, stupid, never again will I lend a man money), so I in my head had already broken up with him anyway. I broke up with him in real life a few days later as I knew the relationship wasn't going anywhere for me. Then again, lots of people cheat while sober too, so it's all just a matter of how much someone wants to cheat, isn't it? EDIT: I didn't take into consideration when I wrote this that sometimes people get taken advantage of while really drunk. This does happen and is not part of the discussion that I considered.
westnile Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 aares; I guess thats what that poster wanted people to do--really think about the effects of alcohol. basically, I saw no adequte response to Toms questions. other than taste, or "getting your jig on" or whatever, it just seems so superfluous when considered with the risks that one takes. I for one have never cheated on my SO--i am not the type and have always believed that trust is an earned thing, and not taken lightly. alcohol does indeed reduce peoples inhibitions, but i still think its just used as an excuse. that argument seems to me to make them dependant onit to express themselves, like liquid guts or something. its a crutch of society that is used by people who cant handle it responsibly. I guess some people use it to try to escape life and their problems, only to re-awaken with potentialy bigger problems, along with a hangover. i have a cocktail very infrequently, but I really dont know why. And in thinking about it, I really dont know if I will have another one. A few times I have had one because they are made for me, and I feel like I have to drink them as to not be impolite. Just look at a 30 minute segment of Cops--most calls are alcohol related. Airline pilots just sentenced yesterday for getting drunk and trying to fly--lost jobs, lost their freedom for 2.5 years and 5 years--lost thier families. What a waste-----but they were having a good time in that bar, before they believed they could take off with all those passengers. what about that girl in Aruba?? think alcohol might have had a connection there?? Think it might have made her irrational, and get into a situation she might otherwise might not have?? We had a bad car wreck that killed 2 here locally, a man and his wife, leaving 2 small kids. And the drunk got out and ran--2 previous convictions. And i thought about that post. Sure, stuff happens everyday, and alcohol comsumption isnt responsible for all of it. But it does its share, and in relationships or other aspects of life, it just seems that it hurts a lot more than it helps anyone. But its everywhere, and is the focal point of the party!!! But, like Tom said, not the same effort against it like cigarettes---I havent thought about it much but it seems true.
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