KC1980 Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 (edited) Me and my gf are 36 and she was actually my first love back in highschool. After a year her dad moved her to another state. 7 years ago I got Facebook and the first thing I did was look her up and she had moved back. We got back together. Not long after that, she cheated once. I forgave her because we had just got things going and she came clean about it right away and was genuinely sorry. We have lived together for 7 years. Well for the last 6 months or so she hasn't been nearly as affectionate or sexual and any affection like kissing or holding her had to be instigated by me. She stays on her phone playing games and Facebook and stuff constantly and there were several times lately when she went outside to talk on the phone. That was enough for me. I checked her fb messenger and saw her saying I "love you so much" and "I wish we could tell the world" I honestly think from what else I read that the other guy is oblivious about her being with me. Should I tell the other guy? If she did it to me, she'll do it to him. To be clear, I AM ending the relationship. Edited February 4, 2017 by KC1980
Gaeta Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 Should I tell the other guy? If she did it to me, she'll do it to him. To be clear, I AM ending the relationship. No, you should just move on and worry about yourself. Remember you forgave her for cheating at first? and you believed she was remorseful etc. She will do the same to this guy and he'll believe her and he'll forgive her. Let them live their life as they see fit and let them make their mistakes. As for you, you know better so move on. I am sorry this is happening, good luck. 3
d0nnivain Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 End it. Whether you tell him or not is up to you. It won't make her love you again. He either already knows or doesn't care. 1
kgcolonel Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 End it. Whether you tell him or not is up to you. It won't make her love you again. He either already knows or doesn't care. My bet is he already knows and any effort to alert him will only make you look week and needy....just tell her you know she's cheating and you're out....nothing more needs to be said. Well....if you want to watch her facial expression...Tell her "I know you can't wait to be with him, now you can".....sit and watch her reaction. Do not reveal how you came upon that wording. 2
OatsAndHall Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 Nah.. There's no point to it. Ending a relationship is hard enough without making it more complicated. 3
smackie9 Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 "I wish we could tell the world" tells me he knows this is an affair and he is probably cheating on his GF too. When it comes to cheating, don't give them the benefit of a doubt. 1
Purepony Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 Pack her stuff, have it ready, and kick her out Or pack your stuff and leave I would just ghost her like that .... I'd leave the her wondering what happened 3
mikeylo Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 Why waste your time on it ? Just dump her. If she asks why, then DONT tell her the real reason. Go cold turkey !
Erik30 Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 No just leave it. If he doesn't know, she'll probably flip it and try to make you look like the bad guy
E3ZY219 Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 If I was you, I would first tell the other guy so he knows that you and him are both being played, especially if he has developed genuine feelings for her. If he does not have genuine feelings for her and is just trying to have sex with her, then it won't really matter. So it is your call there. I would tell him if I was you, just in case. Then I would end it with her. Once a cheater, always a cheater and this is the second time.
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