dpquin028 Posted February 3, 2017 Posted February 3, 2017 I'm just over a month into a breakup with my girlfriend of nearly three years as she broke up with me on New Years Eve. We'd been doing long distance since May of 2016 as she had to move out of state, about 9 hours away for her first job in her career field. Things seemed to be going well up until the weekend before Thanksgiving when I visited her for the first time up there. It's a small country town, but we had a great visit, she showed me around and I liked how calm and peaceful it was, and soon after leaving I let her know I was going to begin to seriously look into getting out there to alleviate the difficulties of long distance. That's when things changed. When she broke up with me she let me know it was soon after this that she began wondering if she wanted us living together, or even getting married/having kids some day and decided she might not want that even though we had previously talked about it throughout the relationship no problem. That and she apparently said she just began to not feel the same way. I didn't handle it very well in the beginning, and tried to contact her too much. I got better at it as the month went on, having only spoken with her twice in three weeks now, but I'm a little less than a week in on committing to no contact period. Our last conversation was a good and civil one, and I'd like to leave it at that. From what our mutual friends have told me, "it breaks her heart knowing that she broke mine", although I'm not quite sure what that means. I'm devastated. She was like my best friend and I miss everything about her. I'm stuck between that place of wanting her back while knowing that there's literally nothing I can do to change anything right now and also knowing that it just might not happen. Anyone have any insight based off of what I've mentioned here? Or advice on anything? Either now or moving forward? Thanks so much.
LitTunnel Posted February 4, 2017 Posted February 4, 2017 Sorry for your loss bro, I feel your pain. I would seriously consider you to go NC all the way. It's going to be an incredibly tough journey ahead. You're going to have multiple setbacks but as long as you stay completely silent your chances of her coutasting you will grow more and more. I'm not trying to get your hopes up but just saying this since you both left off on a good note. Now it is a possibility that she might be seeing someone else but if that's the case then let her have her moment and it just might be a case of a rebound but under no circumstances should you reach out. In fact the only reason why you might talk to her I the future is because SHE contacted you, otherwise you're a ghost. Trust me, it'll get her thinking in a few months where you are. She might drop you breadcrumbs but don't fall for those under any circumstances. Trust me, I learned it the hard way. Good luck!
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