Coffeemaniac Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Well, let's see... I ran into my high school sweetheart(HSSH) accidentally, on purpose.... it was great to see him! He seems happy and is doing well - married with three children... I told him about my husband and kids and let him know that life is very good for us and we are happy as well. We had so much to talk about and so many things to say that we didn't have time for. I feel strangely connected, but not necessarily attracted in any sexual way... At any rate, I am writing it out here because the one thing that I failed to do is tell my husband about the whole thing. I know that I will at some point, but for some reason I just couldn't spit out when I got home tonight... Is that weird???? I know that nothing weird will ever happen. I love my husband and children dearly and would never do anything to jeperdize our family. There was a sense of closure with my old HSSH, as well as a feeling of new friendship. We exchanged phone numbers as we said good-bye, cell numbers, which didn't even occure to me, until he said "Wait, do you want my home phone?... It's fine for you to call the house, okay?" and then I felt nervous and declined it. I don't really know why, except the thought of calling and talking to his wife kind of freaked me out. Is that weird??? Anyway, we agreed to plan a reunion with a few friends from the church that we attended during our high school years. I am looking forward to seeing all who show up. I do plan to tell my hubby, although I know he won't want to go with me. LOL. Anyone else out there with similar experiences? Or (I may regret this) any thoughts on the weird feelings about taking his home number? All opinions welcome. Thanks in advance
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 You should tell your husband but maybe wait a few days and be really nonchalant about it as in "Oh I ran into so'n'so a few days ago!" And just talk to him about it and recall all those terrible things that made it so right to end the relationship way back when! It's okay to reminisce and I hope your hubby doesn't feel any pangs of jealousy, after all, he has you. Toss the phone number and don't initiate any contact. If you run into him, it will always just be coincidence or not of your doing such as the church thing. I dated my hssh for 5 yrs and have seen him less than 5 times in the last 18 years. That shows how much we didn't have in commen, eh? When I found out his father passed away about 5 yrs ago, my parents were going to the funeral and I talked to my mom and she half heartedly agreed that it would be too weird if I went. Then she told me he was looking for me there, and I felt bad cuz he expected me to be there. I was close to his family while we were dating as everyone thought we'd get married. So I vowed to myself that I would attend his mother's funeral (I know, sounds kinda morbid). So a couple years later my mom called me up and said you're coming with me to a funeral tonight! So I went and yeah it was weird seeing him again. He told me to hang around cuz he wanted to talk, so I stayed until the end of the coffee thing afterward and we had a long chat, him and me and my mom and my mom's family friend who knew him way back when. He introduced me to his wife, and it was funny cuz she heard my name and then took a double take and said OHHHH nice to meet you - so I got the impression that he talked about me ALOT lol. He lives a long way away and we prob won't see each other again. I knew better than to ask for email or phone # cuz that would only cause problems.
Author Coffeemaniac Posted July 22, 2005 Author Posted July 22, 2005 Thanks so much for your reply. It's always so nice to know that one is not alone in the strangeness that life sometimes dishes out... I still haven't brought it up to my hubby, but this morning I was telling my mother about it over the phone and he walked through the room and gave me a wink and a smile, so I know he heard most of it. Hubby is so sweet. I know he'll just wait patiently until I'm ready to talk about it. He has such a nice way of reminding me of the many reasons I fell in love with him. I can't believe I was so nervous. He has never been a jealous man, or if he has, he has calmly kept it to himself. ***Afterthoughts on conversation with my HSSH*** I think that he sounded really happy with his life, which makes me feel happy - and we both took responsibility for a few things that happened way back when, which gave us both a sense of relief... Although I would really like to have a friendship with him, it may not be the ideal situation. However, I am glad that we had the opportunity to talk, even if we never meet again. Isn't it funny how someone can leave such a lasting mark on your heart?
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