mikeylo Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 How much truth is in that statement? While anyone can atttact anyone but I guess the shy women are more prone to manipulation and abusers. Why so ? Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 While many women say the opposite, the truth is unless a man is very good looking, or is quiet in a strong and resolute way, being shy and/or introverted aren't traits most women find attractive about men... So maybe they(shy girls), are just finding the same attractiveness in men that non shy girls do.....but are less capable of dealing with it? TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 I'm not so sure it's "shy" women. I think it's inexperienced women who don't set good boundaries. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
WaitingForBardot Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 What you are saying may well be true, but it doesn't necessarily follow. I don't see the connection myself. Shy is not the same thing as gullible or vulnerable or naive or ?? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
O'Malley Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 I think that it's far more nuanced than one character trait. I agree that it's more inexperience and vulnerability at that point in their life, and some abusers tend to test people in subtle ways to see whether they have strong or weaker boundaries. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mikeylo Posted February 3, 2017 Author Share Posted February 3, 2017 Shy girls are usually inexperienced and that makes them hard to first recognize the manipulation tricks and the subtle abuse. And to top it all, they don't know how to deal with it! No wonder there are much less shy women these days. It's something that is so pure but gets taken advantage of. The outgoing ones can handle men and even manipulate them. While it can be controversial and may stir up the feminists but nothing brings out the protective instinct in a genuine guy than a shy woman. Irony ! Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 How much truth is in that statement? While anyone can atttact anyone but I guess the shy women are more prone to manipulation and abusers. Why so ? Shyness and naivety/lack of having/establishing/enforcing boundaries are two different things . . . Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 Naive or weak women who don't walk away and keep putting up with even small slights and signs of disrespect attract all kinds of people who no one else will put up with. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mikeylo Posted February 3, 2017 Author Share Posted February 3, 2017 I dont think it's only the weak. Manipulators , passive aggressive tricks can suck even the strongest as the tactics are subtle. Anyway, it seems that shyness , especially in women, is not a trait that you get to see often these days even though it's very attractive and cute for many men ! Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 ^Shy women is a term I see on Loveshack a lot but never encountered in my 64 years of real life. I think it's wishful thinking on the part of fearful guys that they'll find someone more scared and inept than they are. I agree there are con artists who can con a wide variety of people and not just the weak. If it's too good to be true... But if it's any consolation, a woman doesn't have to be shy for a man to be able to make her blush... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SwordofFlame Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 ^Shy women is a term I see on Loveshack a lot but never encountered in my 64 years of real life. I think it's wishful thinking on the part of fearful guys that they'll find someone more scared and inept than they are. I agree there are con artists who can con a wide variety of people and not just the weak. If it's too good to be true... But if it's any consolation, a woman doesn't have to be shy for a man to be able to make her blush... My experience with shy women are that you have to be outgoing and social enough to offset that shyness. As an introvert, that's kind of the opposite of who I am. If anything, shy women are attracted to really outgoing guys who usually tend to have a lot of game to go with that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 Disagree. It is weak willed PEOPLE who attract manipulative people. Men and women who enjoy manipulating others will naturally be attracted to someone of the opposite sex who they can manipulate. An outgoing personality can be a cover for an insecure and unassertive person. An introverted person may simply prefer to be alone and not in a crowd. However, this does not mean he or she is going to be easily manipulated. Someone who needs the praises of other is more likely to be manipulated than someone who is secure in him or herself, no matter if the personality is that of a socialite or loner. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 My experience with shy women are that you have to be outgoing and social enough to offset that shyness. As an introvert, that's kind of the opposite of who I am. If anything, shy women are attracted to really outgoing guys who usually tend to have a lot of game to go with that. Yes. They want a leader. But I have to say that every woman I know like a guy to be outgoing enough to step up, you know. No one I know likes the ones who are hesitant. And I think most guys who are outgoing like a woman who is confident and at least a little outgoing and fun loving too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mikeylo Posted February 4, 2017 Author Share Posted February 4, 2017 [quote=JamesM;7214972 Someone who needs the praises of other is more likely to be manipulated than someone who is secure in him or herself, no matter if the personality is that of a socialite or loner. ^^^ This.100% true. The outgoing ones tend to believe that they can't and their superficial over confidence is magnet for manipulative people. I've seen this first hand in a guy who needs praises by women and they shower him with it and he is a putty in their hands ! He is so caught up in false appreciation that he can't see the true colors of those women. I guess , shyness is perceived as a weakness and that's why people tend to shy away from it ! Lol Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 It's not the shy girl. It's the coy girl, the one that immediately responds positively to attention, even though she represents herself as the unassuming one in the crowd. Meet one of those, and you know you're in for a very good time, even if they're a little hard to get rid of. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 How much truth is in that statement? While anyone can atttact anyone but I guess the shy women are more prone to manipulation and abusers. Why so ? Hmmm. I believe the less shy a woman is the more they will be manipulated. Shy women have a huge wall to break down and it may take time to go thru this wall. Aggressive women will have a wall, but if the wall can be taken down quickly the manipulation will be far easier. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TheWoman Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 If by shy you mean timid and insecure, then yes of course they will attract manipulative people. They are easy prey. However if by shy you mean introverted, nah its the opposite. Introverts do not fall into relationships with people. All of our relationships have had a great deal of consideration prior to investing our valuable energy into them. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mikeylo Posted February 4, 2017 Author Share Posted February 4, 2017 Yeah, some women pretend to be shy , just to manipulate men ! Never thought of that. There are many other characteristics of shyness ! Thanks to LS Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 I can't help but notice that on Loveshack, a lot of guys think they've met shy girls. I never met a shy girl and I'm 64. I can't help thinking that what they are hoping is shy is simply the girl shutting down on them because they're not interested. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mikeylo Posted February 5, 2017 Author Share Posted February 5, 2017 I can't help but notice that on Loveshack, a lot of guys think they've met shy girls. I never met a shy girl and I'm 64. I can't help thinking that what they are hoping is shy is simply the girl shutting down on them because they're not interested. Shy girls are less these days. They are far and few but they still are there. Obviously they don't get noticed because they don't want to be noticed, lol ! Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 5, 2017 Share Posted February 5, 2017 Shy girls are less these days. They are far and few but they still are there. Obviously they don't get noticed because they don't want to be noticed, lol ! Well, if they don't want to be noticed, they also don't want a guy coming on to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted February 5, 2017 Share Posted February 5, 2017 Shy girls are less these days. They are far and few but they still are there. Obviously they don't get noticed because they don't want to be noticed, lol ! I believe many women wear a mask and it is confused with shy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mikeylo Posted February 5, 2017 Author Share Posted February 5, 2017 Well, if they don't want to be noticed, they also don't want a guy coming on to them. Lol ! Apparently you don't like shy girls ! Or don't believe they exist. A guy who like the shy girl, will hunt and chase her till she wants the guy herself. There is truth in that. You just need to be that guy ! Link to post Share on other sites
thecrucible Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 I'm an introverted woman and I've always found it really interesting the various opinions people might have of me. Firstly I don't consider myself shy. I'm happy to approach people. But certain situations take a bit of warming to (like public speaking). But still people think I might be shy. Sometimes they think I am more serious than I think I am or really restrained or something but really I am the opposite. I'd consider myself more experienced than some in relationships/sex. People want to think that because you're quieter and less attention seeking you must have not had any luck, for some reason. In a lot of ways I am pretty uninhibited but some guys think I must be straight laced or boring because maybe I don't show that side of me when I first meet them (I mean if I'm dating for romance, I won't do that). Then if they think I'm easily manipulated, they're not reading me well at all. I'm nice to people because it's a personal value of mine but don't cross me or think I'm not analysing everything that's happening. I actually had a guy get annoyed at me because I "analyse too much". I think I just got him busted. Some men don't like smart women. I'd like to meet a man one day who really gets me and see multifaceted sides of me rather than take me at face value. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cocorico Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 How much truth is in that statement? While anyone can atttact anyone but I guess the shy women are more prone to manipulation and abusers. Why so ? I'm shy, though I've learned to handle it. I've certainly not been "more prone" to manipulation and abusers for the simple reason that, because I'm shy, I spend way more time checking things and people out before I allow them to approach than would, say, someone who is less shy. Being shy means I'm more guarded, less trusting, more on my guard. I don't take anything at face value, unlike more outgoing people who are happy to bob along merrily on the surface. Link to post Share on other sites
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