All his exes were psychos?

[Courtland]

I started dating this guy. I have an ugly history with dating. I just seem to always fall for the players and jerks

 

I met this guy who Ive been seeing for about a month now and things seem to be going good. Hes a nice guy who actually seems like he's going to give me the love I know I deserve. I can be a bit superficial, but while he's not the "hottest" guy in my book, I love what he offers me. My goal is to settle down with a guy and that seems to be in his plans too. He seems like he genuinely cares about me. It's just...different from what I'm used to. Seems like a breath of fresh air. He has a a young daughter, by the way.

 

One thing rung a bell though. We were recently on a date and we were talking about our pasts and our past relationships. We were on the topic of exes, and he said about one of his exes (in passing) "yeah she came back and spray-painted my house." I said "what?" And he said, "Ahh.. I've had many psycho exes, i dont know how or why i always attracted them"

 

I thought it was weird and by the time I was about to interject, it was too late because he was already talking about something else. I just wanted to know, why? I still may ask him, but I would like advice from people on here if a statement like that is a red flag.

[VeveCakes]

Yes it is a red flag.

 

My ex bf told me every past gf he had cheated on him. My therapist said - it is never always the other persons fault. Sometimes its them, sometimes it's you. But it is never, ever that someone has never been the one to blame. If someone says that, they are full of it.

 

So if he is always dating psychos, it's not that he is always randomly meeting these women. He is either attracted to the way they are, or he is making them that way by something he has done to them.

 

I would try and dig a little more dirt. Maybe by asking him in a roundabout way or doing some googling.