joemesina Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 Hello Everyone, I wrote 2 month ago, when I got dumped by my GF of 7 Years. I wanted to share this new experience, so I met this new girl on tinder on january 23 she is 18 year old and I am 31, we texted that day, and on that same day I invited her to go out on a date, also she added me on facebook. The next day I met her for the date, she was very beautifull, great looks and a hot body. I took her to a restaurant by the sea, she loved it, and everthing went great, we had a lot in common, she was very mature for her age, she comes from a good and loving family, there was a lot of eye contact, I was interested in what she had to say and so she was interested on what I had to say. After the restaurant we went to walk for a bit, and when the time came I kissed her, she was kind of surprised, she didnt expected it but I think she liked it, I was the whole date confident and secure, tried to apply a lot of Corey Wayne teachings. After that date ended I took her to her home and we kissed goodbye. The fallowing day, we texted alot she said she missed me, we sheduled another date for thursday, this is all on the same week. So on thursday we went out again, she started to tell me more personal things about her and her family I assumed I was on the right direction, It seemed she was opening her feelings gradually, everthing went great again, we hold hands on the restaurant, and when the date ended, on my car she let me touch her legs and we kissed more, we arranged to meet the next week to go to the movies, she seemed very interested to go out with me. I knew she wasnt experienced because when we kissed, she didnt use her tongue. On friday things started to get awkward, the day started well, she texted me on the morning, then we texted for a bit and at mid day I replied a text from her, she left me on seen (this is all in whatsapp) then later on the day I texted her, she replied that she has been ocuppied and was preparing to go the movies that day, I thought it was kind of awkward because she was supposed to go out with me the next week to the movies. I replied one last message from her and she again left me on seen, this was on the afternoon. Later that night I found out without any reason at all she blocked me and eliminated me from facebook. The fallowing morning she replied my text saying that she had met her EX and things happened, and she was very sorry for everthing and wanted to stop seeing me to not hurt me anymore, she said that I was a great guy and that she was confused, also said the she would have liked for things to work. I want to add that she previously told me she had an EX, she ended the relation because this guy was very immature and a mommas boy, and this relation lasted only a couple of months, what I dont recall when this ended. Finally on monday I texted her to say goodbye, she told I was an incredible person and that she was going out of the country with her sister for a couple of weeks, I dont know what thing are true or not, I am now very confused, what I know she hasnt blocked me from whatsapp. Was I a rebound, or maybe I went to fast and got her scared, because on the two dates and our texts everthing went very well, I didnt see any red flags, I dont know exactly happened, this all happened in less than a week.
Jimmyjackson Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 If I had to guess It's more likely her ex dumped her, despite what she told you - or she was a 'forced' dumper. You were just a bit of 'fun' while she waited for her ex, she probably expected to rekindle with him. She went on Tinder for a bit of validation and matched you. Also, she is 18 and you're 31, no offence but that's a huge gap...she has a lot of dating years ahead of her and should be dating a guy around her age as she's basically a kid still...you're an adult. Telling you she misses you a lot the day after a first date is slightly strange, sounds like she came on quite strong which again is probably due to her age. Why was it awkward that she went to the movies a week before she was supposed to go with you? Can she not go more than once? Or have I misread that? She probably stopped responding because she was communicating with her ex, then you will have came across needy by texting her more. I understand you're hurt but you shouldn't be confused, you guys had two dates, you barely know each other. She obviously had a brief split with her ex and they got back in touch. He is probably a lot younger than you and near her age. From what you've written it's quite obvious what has happened. She likely blocked you on Facebook so her ex doesn't find out. You didn't even know this girl a week ago, you'll be fine in no time. Maybe next time date girls your own age.
LitTunnel Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 Bro, all this was was a short fling. There is big difference in age AND she was still strongly connected to her ex. If I was you I would scratch this as a very short fun experience and leave it at that. Who knows maybe down the line she'll call you again and you guys can hook up but I wouldn't pursue her any further. In fact, I would forget her. At least she came into your life and gave you some confidence boost. Now go out and meet another more compatible cause you're on a roll now dude!
Grathblagg Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 She's 18, and your judgement of her "maturity" is flawed. If you don't want 18 year-old drama, don't date 18 year-olds. If you want 18 year-old booty, then expect that you're going to have to deal with the 18 year-old drama.
Jimmyjackson Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 Also, I have kissed many girls and most of them didn't use their tongue; I don't think it has anything to do with experience.
Purepony Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 Here are your problems 1. Your 31 and on Facebook or snap chat (get a real hobby and stop wasting time on social media) 2. She's 18 and probably a moron (no offense but every 18 year old thinks they have it all figured out) 3. Take some time off because it sounds like your not over your 7 year relationship (get theraphy) 4. Get off social media its a cancer! Get real friends you can do stuff with (watching your friend in Japan have tea won't help) 5. Take some time to yourself and then you will really see who you are and what you want in a relationship 6. Update us when this has been completed! 7. Remember... it's a new year don't blow it
Author joemesina Posted February 2, 2017 Author Posted February 2, 2017 Thanks all for your comments, I consider this experience a complete success, it boosted my confidence alot and showed me that I could go out again and have fun. Even Though this was short fling I consider it was a very good learning experience, I definitely won't contact her again. I only did left the door open if she contacts me again. I think she wasn't that honest regarding her EX, I think when she lied about going to the movies, she might have been talking to him or something else. I forgot to mention he is 26, not that young also. Ill try to date girls a bit older next time.
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