Addison Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 My Aunt died last night. I think that this July has officially become the worst month of my life. I want to tell my ex that she died because I need him so much right now. I don't know how much more of this I can take. I haven't told him about her death though. I'm afraid that he wouldn't care and that would hurt me badly. Or knowing the person that he is, he would care greatly and that would only give me false hope. Making it these days is hard without him around... especially at a time like this. I guess that I'm just going to stick it out without telling him. The last thing that I need right now is more heartache from how he might react. (or a lack of reaction these days...)
butterfly29 Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 I am so sorry to hear about your aunt. But as hard as it is for you, don't call your ex. Your problems are not his anymore. He can't give you the support you need, that's why you're no longer together. Seek the support from people who are capable and willing to give it to you. That's all I could say.
katty Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 So sorry to hear about your aunt. I know it is a hard time for you but it might make you feel worse if you do tell him and you get no reaction. I know that when my uncle was viciously murdered I was dating a guy that I had been seeing for 6 years and he didn't attend the funeral with me. We were still together but he was always about as much support as a wireless bra and I am a natural 34D so you get the idea of how much support he was. I guess what I am saying is he probably won't be there to lean on even if he did know, and the knowing that he knows and not showing up etc. would just hurt you more. Did any of that make any sense? I am sorry you are going thru this but it will get better. Lean on your friends at times like this, thats what their there for. Kat
busylady Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 my grandmom died after my ex and i broke and it was horrible. i didnt ever tell him because whats the point he wasnt there for me, and what was he suppose to do at the time come over and give me hugs and kisses? nah we were broken up so i wwasnt going to get that except a "im sorry to hear about ur grandmom". i wouldnt call cause really whats the pointl? i guess i wanted to cause i wanted to maybe get attention from him. or maybe i just wanted to talk to him, although its a bad excuse to do so. i really think u should stick to ur friends and family and if he calls talk to him about it. but until then just keep him out of the picture in my opinion.
Rosalind Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 The truth is : he hasn't been there for you in the past - and nothing has changed. Forget about sharing parts of you your life with him - he's history.
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