MajorOak Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 I have met someone off a dating website, I deactivated my account after our second meeting. I wanted to show that I'm 100% committed to building something special with that person. A few meetings on I thought a special relationship was starting to develop. She is still active on the dating website however. I see her a few days a week only. Should I read anything into this cut my losses now, or should I again rely on "time" and see what happens? Maybe I missed read the signs and she isn't quite at the same point as me. i don't want to be a second time fool. Opinions please. Thank you
hercules22 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 looks like she wants to keep her options open if possible she prob wont tell u if she was dating multiple blokes but you would probably know if she becomes unavailable to often see what happens in time see if she puts most of her attention on you .
Shining One Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 I deactivate my profile when we're exclusive and I expect the same of the woman I'm with.
Lilyana76 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 2 dates is hardly time for exclusivity. I think you jumped the gun a little early. If she is still keeping her options open so should you. This shows me she is not really interested in being exclusive yet. Have you asked her how she feels, or if she wants a relationship?
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 OP you probably jumped the gun. Until you & the person you met had a talk about being exclusive, you can't assume anything. If you are a 1 at a time person that's wonderful for you but you can't fault somebody for keeping their options open. At this point, I'd disclose that you would like exclusivity & see what your partner says. You can't expect that person to read your mind.
Author MajorOak Posted February 2, 2017 Author Posted February 2, 2017 Thank you for the replays and advice. We have had around a dozen dates now, the last one we were interment. It's been two years since my long marriage broke up, so I'm a lilltle green on the dating front. I'll have the talk and decide from there.
Lord Humungus Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 (edited) The first thing only you can do is decide if you are happy with the idea that someone you are pursuing a relationship with is dating/sleeping around with other men. Personally I don't like sharing some things with multiple strangers, especially when they include fluid exchanges. If that doesn't phase you, great! carry on as you are. If it troubles you, then you already know you would be incompatible if this was the situation. Tell her the truth, make your choice and be shameless about it... Edited February 2, 2017 by Lord Humungus
Miss Peach Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 I've seen guys who deactivate their accounts early on and I don't know what to think of it. I really haven't found them any more serious than guys who leave their account on per se. I've seen some guys use it to try to speed up the relationship to get to sex. I've also seen guys who just aren't into multi-dating. If you've been on a dozen dates and there is sex in the picture, I think you have every right to initiate an exclusivity conversation. You'll find out all you need to know at that point. 1
dumbass2 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 Initiate the conversation about only seeing each other and ask her how things are going so far and get a feel for it. Assure her that you are not seeing or talking to anyone else and ask if her if you two are on the same page with that.
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