Becka123 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 I am a 24 year old female and I've been taking a class at a gym (don't want to mention specifics) for about 3 months or so. During this time, one of the assistants who works in the class has been flirting with me since day 1. He helps me in the class a lot, but we get along really well on a casual level as well. I began to really like him as time has gone on. He would help me to my car when I didn't need any help, compliment my hair and clothing (not in a creepy way at all), and just basically always makes eye contact with me and goes out of his way to talk to me and gives me a hug when I leave. The class ends for good in about two weeks. I was going to give him my number once we no longer had a professional relationship anymore and didn't want to make him uncomfortable at his work if he wasn't interested. However, two weeks ago we were talking about outdoor activities we both enjoyed, he basically said that we should go together sometime and that he had my number from me signing up for the class (it's a small family owned kinda place). He asked me this in front of his coworker, so I felt a bit awkward and just told him that would be fun and to let me know when he'd want to go. So that was two weeks ago and he never contacted me. I saw him two days ago for another class and he mentioned that he'd been busy but never indicated anything else relating to our potential plans to hang out. He acted normal and flirty and nothing seemed unusual, but I'm unclear as to why we would basically ask me out and not contact me. Is it possible he's just waiting for this class to end? Should I make any moves? Sincerely, Confused
ThisisIt606 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 If he asked you to hang out in front of a co-worker this could have backfired on him and he could have been told his job was in jeopardy as instructors should not date gym clients ( this could have even more weight as it's a small family owed gym) He prob likes you, but not enough to potentially lose a job.
lurker74 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 I'm a man but I believe while heartedly in equality of the sexes. But I also believe that most of the time, the man should pursue especially when he breaks the ice. Let him come to you. 3
smackie9 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 Whatever the reason don't take it personally.....move on.
Author Becka123 Posted February 2, 2017 Author Posted February 2, 2017 If he asked you to hang out in front of a co-worker this could have backfired on him and he could have been told his job was in jeopardy as instructors should not date gym clients ( this could have even more weight as it's a small family owed gym) He prob likes you, but not enough to potentially lose a job. This is what I thought too. However, his manager met his wife who was a client so I think they're pretty open. I thought maybe he would just wait until I was no longer a client and that would take care of the issue of him being my instructor or whatever. Should I mention it or just let it go?
Author Becka123 Posted February 2, 2017 Author Posted February 2, 2017 Whatever the reason don't take it personally.....move on. Not taking it personally. I'm just curious if I'm supposed to make some sort of move now or not.
freebird31 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 I have been a similar situation. I'm also 24. I waited on the guy to make the next move. Thought maybe he was too shy to do it. So I made the move. Boy do I regret that. After that I told myself I wouldn't make any more moves. But rather give the guy I'm interested in very obvious hints that I'm interested in him (i.e. Smiling, flirting). If he's interested, he can ask me out. I am just speaking out of my own experience. But everyone is different. If someone were to have given me advice and say don't make the move, I think I would have still done it anyway. Only because I genuinely believed at that time (or wanted to believe) that he really was too shy to do it.
Miss Peach Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 (edited) IME with my guy friends, when they don't make a move they usually have a reason for it. About half the time it has nothing to do with the woman. Edited February 2, 2017 by Miss Peach 1
smackie9 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 Not taking it personally. I'm just curious if I'm supposed to make some sort of move now or not. IMO you are not that important to him if he is "Too busy". You were just an option and possibly he found someone that interested him more. Some people tell white lies to avoid getting called out on their promises...he was pacifying you with an excuse. If you value yourself you will just forget about it, and find someone that will put his best foot forward and arranges for a date asap.
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