What are some recommended OLD websites?

[HandsomeAndLonely]

I have been using Zoosk and Match.com for the last four months.

 

ZERO success with Zoosk. I have sent plenty of messages to plenty of girls, only to find out that they're either read my message. Or, I did get response from girls, but that was just it, just chat back and forth about their hobbies, our lives, but did not lead to a coffee or a face-to-face meet up date.

 

What I also hate about Zoosk is that you have to buy extra coins in order to find out if the girl has read your message. I have paid another $100-$200 to purchase extra coins to find out if the girl has read my messages. I think that' bull$h-t.

 

Match.com, I had a little more success in terms of better quality people responding to my message.

 

However, the first two girls, were "wider" than what was shown in their profile picture. Hence, i didn't feel any romantic love towards the first two girls. Third girl was pretty, and it took some aggression on my part to finally get to meet up for a dinner date. After that dinner date, she kind of "ghosted" away. I still like her, but I don't know, whenever I see her profile pop up in the search result, and I see that she's online, I quickly log off! LOL!

 

There's another girl I've met recently face-to-face from Match.com. Very nice personality, but in terms of look, bleh, she's not that pretty. Kind of tubby too.

 

I have also tried Asianfriendfinder.com (since I'm of East Asian ancestry) for dating, but received a lot of messages from fake accounts, and one girl who ended up calling me after a few message chats, had a phone number from Nigeria! Yikes!

 

Anybody here tried Eharmony?

 

How about OK Cupid?

 

I don't know any other pertinent dating websites

[Larryville]

You know the best dating site to use? The one that helps you meet someone you may have not been able to meet in real life.

 

I will say the obligatory, what site you use is irrelevant, it nothing more than a tool.

 

If people paid more attention to their profiles, posting decent pictures, learning how to avoid flakes and being who they represent themselves to be. That is far more important that what site you use, heck you listed the main ones.

 

Oh one more thing, be someone somebody wants to be with!

[d0nnivain]

The best websites will vary from person to person.

 

 

Years ago when I tried it, I used e-harmony. I liked the fact that it was expensive & that questionnaire was a p.i.t.a. I figured only serious people would go through all that effort. You also have to go through a bunch of steps before you can actually have direct contact with the other. The other person could drop out anywhere along that path & you'd never know why The real problem was I think it just kept people in the data base even if they weren't active, then I'd get e message that I matched this person but they'd never respond because they were off the system. I figured that out when my 90 day membership expired; for about 6 months I kept getting messages that I had new matches all I had to do was rejoin & pay more money. So I figured there were men out there who thought I was awful or rejecting them when I didn't write back when the truth was I couldn't. The few people I did talk to at least checked many of my boxes on paper. However none of the 3 guys I met caused me to go on more than 1 date with them. Had I met them IRL I probably wouldn't have even gone on that first date. Just being honest. But then again you should know I can't even shop on line so for me I was kind of kidding myself thinking I could date OL.

 

 

As I said to you on your other thread, have you tried a niche site. I googled it & found www.KoreanCupid.com I know NOTHING about it but thought you might want to take a look.

[SevenCity]

I seem to have ebbs and flows with sites.

 

Bumble - met / banged one really hot chick but she's just too annoying for LTR. This site forces the women to reach out first. I've had mostly flakes where they reach out and never respond to your response. Met another chick from there and we didn't click at all.

 

POF - Met / banged 2 good looking chicks. Both certifiably insane. Haven't setup my profile since 2nd one requested I delete. May go back.

 

EHarmony- met one chick who used a skinny / old pic. No interest and mostly flakes. However, since the new year I've gotten a lot of hits for some reason. Going out with one this weekend and have a few others I'm chatting with.

 

Tinder - Met one chick who was cute but annoying so only one date. Others flaked out

 

Zoosk - haven't used as the reviews all say it's a scam. Hottest chicks in their emails but many fake profiles and zoosk employees posting as available so people say (aka "a zoosk member" username)

 

It's important to get good pics of yourself (mine sort of suck).

 

Location plays a big part in which is best people say. But if you are near a large city rather than in it (like I am) you will get fewer matches because people don't want to travel.

 

Edit - eHarmony changed the approach so now you can direct message instead of the stupid questions. Overall match is supposed to be the best but I haven't tried it yet.

Edited February 1, 2017 by SevenCity

[Jj66]

Meetup: (not really OLD but events are arranged online): 5 dating partners. 4 became multi month sexual relationships including one engagement that lasted 2.5 years.

 

OKcupid. Met about a dozen people. Decided to go on second dates with 5 of them which all went on for multiple months: a 13 month relationship, and 4 two to five month flings. The 5 month fling likely cheated on me..

 

Tinder: met 6 people. Had a six week fling with a substance abuser, a ONS with a crazy woman, a first date with no interest in her at all, a first date with a woman who ended up being the mother of one of my daughter's best friends.(ack!- run away fast), a two to three month fling with a hot european beauty and a 10 month and counting relationship with my current gf.

 

 

Never tried any of the others.

[SevenCity]

Meetup: (not really OLD but events are arranged online): 5 dating partners. 4 became multi month sexual relationships including one engagement that lasted 2.5 years.

 

OKcupid. Met about a dozen people. Decided to go on second dates with 5 of them which all went on for multiple months: a 13 month relationship, and 4 two to five month flings. The 5 month fling likely cheated on me..

 

Tinder: met 6 people. Had a six week fling with a substance abuser, a ONS with a crazy woman, a first date with no interest in her at all, a first date with a woman who ended up being the mother of one of my daughter's best friends.(ack!- run away fast), a two to three month fling with a hot european beauty and a 10 month and counting relationship with my current gf.

 

 

Never tried any of the others.

 

How long have you been on old? I've been on for about 4 months and I cringe having to go through what you did just to get one gf. Uhg.

[Erik30]

I think OKCupid is pretty good if you're an American. I live in Europe, but I noticed my profile was visited and liked by a lot of American girls.

 

Tinder used to work pretty well for me, but now it's pretty much useless. Ever since they introduced Tinder premium my number of matches started to drop, and now they have this new "boost" feature which made things even worse. Basically you have to be really patient if you don't want to pay.

 

Bumble/Happn: Nice idea for an app, but I got zero matches so a waste of time. (could be my location though)

[greymatter]

I seem to have ebbs and flows with sites.

 

Bumble - met / banged one really hot chick but she's just too annoying for LTR. This site forces the women to reach out first. I've had mostly flakes where they reach out and never respond to your response. Met another chick from there and we didn't click at all.

 

POF - Met / banged 2 good looking chicks. Both certifiably insane. Haven't setup my profile since 2nd one requested I delete. May go back.

 

EHarmony- met one chick who used a skinny / old pic. No interest and mostly flakes. However, since the new year I've gotten a lot of hits for some reason. Going out with one this weekend and have a few others I'm chatting with.

 

Tinder - Met one chick who was cute but annoying so only one date. Others flaked out

 

Zoosk - haven't used as the reviews all say it's a scam. Hottest chicks in their emails but many fake profiles and zoosk employees posting as available so people say (aka "a zoosk member" username)

 

It's important to get good pics of yourself (mine sort of suck).

 

Location plays a big part in which is best people say. But if you are near a large city rather than in it (like I am) you will get fewer matches because people don't want to travel.

 

Edit - eHarmony changed the approach so now you can direct message instead of the stupid questions. Overall match is supposed to be the best but I haven't tried it yet.

 

SevenCity, I find all of your references to "banging" women very offensive.

 

 

 

OP, I hated match and thought the quality of men to be low e.g. not appealing, and cancelled my subscription after two days.

 

I use OKC and Tinder and have met some of the nicest guys through Tinder. I've had dates with guys from OKC as well. I like both for different reasons. People who are looking for a relationship do use Tinder in my area.

[kendahke]

I recently had success on POF, but I also had to write an extensive PSA on my profile directed to scammers on what I would not be doing (going offline to email/text without first meeting them in person within 7 days). For the most part, this tack has worked out well for me.

 

I had one guy stand me up (could have been a scammer, but I blocked him, so I'll never know for sure), and had a really great first meeting with the guy who is now my new boyfriend. Mind you, I'd been on there for about 3 months with hardly any interest and the only guys messaging me were scammers who thought I was playing with them. I've disabused them of that notion.

 

OKCupid--full of scammers

Match--full of scammers

Our Time--full of scammers and even worse because of the age range for this site

 

I never in a million years thought POF would pan out, but it did.

[greymatter]

I was going to add something but missed the window to edit:

 

I like that no one can tell when I'm online with Tinder. And I can look at someone's "profile" as much as I want on Tinder without them knowing. The profiles are super short but still, it's nice. On OKC, others can see when you are online and they can see when you visit their profile. That can be disabled but then you can't see who looks at your profile, so I leave that on. I have my way of getting around that anyway (not repeatedly viewing someone's profile if there is mutual interest).

[CloudyHead]

Match - No luck on match at all. I responded to emails but got no response back.

 

POF - I had the most luck on that site and met my current BF from that site. You can get whatever you want on that site - ONS, FWB or serious relationship. Yes, there are a lot of weirdos out there. You just have to weed through the profiles and people. I live in a rural area with the closest large city being an hour away.

[newheart]

I was going to add something but missed the window to edit:

 

I like that no one can tell when I'm online with Tinder. And I can look at someone's "profile" as much as I want on Tinder without them knowing. The profiles are super short but still, it's nice. On OKC, others can see when you are online and they can see when you visit their profile. That can be disabled but then you can't see who looks at your profile, so I leave that on. I have my way of getting around that anyway (not repeatedly viewing someone's profile if there is mutual interest).

 

Hmm ... interesting to know. I dislike that about OKC also. I guess I always thought Tinder was a hookup act for younger people - does anyone in their 40s have luck?

[Michelle ma Belle]

Having tried just about every dating site at one point or another, they ALL have their pros and cons and it just depends on each person individually.

 

 

For me, anyone dabbling on free sites or navigating as an unpaid member seems to say a lot about how serious they are.

 

On the flip side, many people have raved about eHarmony because of the investment of time (filling out that long personality assessment) and money which one would assume 'should' attract a pool of serious men and women looking for serious relationships. Unfortunately, that has never been the case for me both times I've done it. In fact, on both occasions, I found myself chatting with and/or on a date with men who were married or otherwise in a relationship so... :/

 

My least favorite sites, POF and Tinder although they were both highly entertaining if nothing else.

 

Good luck.

[kendahke]

I was going to add something but missed the window to edit:

 

I like that no one can tell when I'm online with Tinder. And I can look at someone's "profile" as much as I want on Tinder without them knowing. The profiles are super short but still, it's nice. On OKC, others can see when you are online and they can see when you visit their profile. That can be disabled but then you can't see who looks at your profile, so I leave that on. I have my way of getting around that anyway (not repeatedly viewing someone's profile if there is mutual interest).

 

OKC and POF do have the feature where you can look at profiles without them knowing but you have to pay for that service. I pay for it--it's just money and I'll make more, but I rather like them not being able to see if I've looked at them.

[greymatter]

OKC and POF do have the feature where you can look at profiles without them knowing but you have to pay for that service. I pay for it--it's just money and I'll make more, but I rather like them not being able to see if I've looked at them.

 

I know. I'm not a paying member and don't wish to be.

 

I think a lot of the users on Match have jumped over to OKC (which was acquired by the operators of Match some years ago) and that may be why I'm not liking the overall group of users I'm encountering. That being said I did have two dates in the last few weeks with someone who I really liked.

[greymatter]

Hmm ... interesting to know. I dislike that about OKC also. I guess I always thought Tinder was a hookup act for younger people - does anyone in their 40s have luck?

 

I tend to date younger and I'm having luck. I have two dates coming up next weekend, one a 1st date and one a 2nd, both with people I met on Tinder. As I've mentioned in other threads, I had a 14 month relationship with a guy who was three years younger, and met him on Tinder. The last five months of our relationship ended up being long distance and was hard to sustain. That was a painful breakup but I don't regret any of it, he added a lot to my life. I do a lot of left swiping on Tinder but like any other dating website, there are decent people on there.