inet93 Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 Relationship after relationship teaches you what love is not. That is easy to define. But what IS relationship love? What makes it right? I know that love is respect and committment but I mean deeper than that - respect and committment can apply to any relationship not just a relationship love? What do you think?
Craig Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 The worst thing about the English language is that it only has one four letter word that is used to describe many types of emotional responses that broadly catagorized we call love. Romantic love is an innate response mechanism that serves the purpose of survival of the species through procreation. Beyond that, the definition of romantic love is largely dependent upon the individual. There is not a "one-size-fits-all" definition of romantic love and that is why people have a hard time describing what romantic love is.
Rosalind Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Hmmm...makes me wonder if perhaps we utter the the words to our partner "I love "..way too soon, when in fact we have no idea what the f*ck REAL love is.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Love is a whole bag of MM's mmmmm I just love the green ones
l2hvn Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 love is when their happiness is just as important as yours. but i found this article (and i remember now from my psych classes back in college): According to John Lee, a sociologist, there are 6 types of relationships. You may be in one or any combination of these: Eros - love of beauty Ludus - playful love Storge - companionate love Mania - obsessive love Agape- altruistic love Pragma - practical love Eros. Erotic lovers delight in the tactile, the sensual, the immediate; they are attracted to beauty. Their love burns brightly but soon flickers and dies. Ludus. For ludic lovers, love is a game, something to play at rathen than to become deeply involved in. Love is for fun; encounters are casual, carefree, and often careless. "Nothing serious" is the motto of ludic lovers. Storge. Storge is the love between companions. Lee wrote, "love is without fever, tumult, or folly, a peaceful and enchanting affection." It begins usually as friendship and then gradually deepens into love. If the love ends, it also occurs gradually, and the couple often become friends once again. Of such love, Theophile Gautier wrote, "To love is to admire with the heart; to admire is to love with the mind." Mania. The word mania comes from the Greek word for madness. The Russian poet Mihail Lermontov aptly described a manic lover: He in his madness prays for storms And dreams that storms will bring him peace. For manic lovers, nights are marked by sleeplessness and days by pain and anxiety. The slightest sign of affection brings ecstasy for a short while, only to have it disappear. Manic love is roller-coaster love. Agape. Agape is love that is chaste, patient, selfless, and undemanding; it does not expect to be reciprocated. Agape emphasizes nurturing and caring as their own rewards. It is the love of monastics, missionaries, and saints more than that of worldly couples. Pragma. Pragmatic lovers are, first and foremost, logical in their approach toward looking for something who meets their needs. They look for a partner who has the background, education, personality, religion, and interests that are compatible with their own. If they meet a person who meets their criteria, erotic or manic feelings may develop. But as Samuel Butler warned, "Logic is like the sword --those who appeal to it shall perish by it." What type of relationship (or your last relationship) are you in ?
totallyconfused Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 love is reaching out with your eyes closed its scary to look back in my prior 4 year relationship - looking at the stages of love that he and i went thru. how we first met, and how innocent love was, which turned to tender love, to inescapable love, then to doubtful love, then to hurt love. its there and it travels within us, good or bad times, but never forgotten.
l2hvn Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 i just remember something when i tried to read out loud "what is love?" baby, don't hurt me don't hurt me no more and Will Ferrell and Chris Kattan from SNL shake their head on one side... too funny!
sadgirlRN Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 love is to will the good of the beloved. it is to be willing to lay one's life down for another. i think the bible says it best: Love is patient, love is kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. --1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
butterfly29 Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Love is just a lie Made to make you blue from a song by Nazareth. "love hurts" The worst thing about the English language is that it only has one four letter word that is used to describe many types of emotional responses Actually, English language has another four letter word that describes even a wider range of emotional responces. But to be serious, I think love is a gift that you have to learn how to use. And most people's problem is that they haven't learned how to love. Not only that, they are convinced that love is something that comes naturally and no work is needed. The only feeling, that even slightly resembles love that comes naturally is neediness.
Drivetildriven Posted July 23, 2005 Posted July 23, 2005 I think, more than a feeling, love is a choice.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 23, 2005 Posted July 23, 2005 Originally posted by Drivetildriven I think, more than a feeling, love is a choice. your right.. But all feelings are choices ..(or responses to choices we have made) Love is a feeling that we choose to feel.. So is hate
SoftDrink Posted July 23, 2005 Posted July 23, 2005 Love is... .....having someone to put your bracelet on for you.
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