savvy2008 Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 I met a guy from online dating about a year ago. We had a quick Starbucks date, it went well, and he texted me immediately after saying he'd love to go out again. We texted back and forth foe weeks but it was always something, schedule conflicts, too busy, he had a family member pass away, etc. But once a week or so he'd invite me over to his house to watch a movie. I always de lined. Eventually he stopped trying. Fast forward to now, we've been talking for a month or two and so far we have not met up. He mentioned wanting to get together last see, for lunch. I agreed and then he says "well let me know when you want to". If it's his idea, why doesn't HE let ME know? And also..he sends a picture of himself with the start of every conversation. Just a regular selfie. Does he think he's super hot or does he want to make sure I remember what he looks like? I'm very confused by this.
VeveCakes Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 How old is he? This is the new norm with SnapChat.... its irritating as hell unless the guy is adorable
Author savvy2008 Posted February 1, 2017 Author Posted February 1, 2017 He's 34! I've always thought it was really strange and maybe one out of 10 times I'll send one back. It seems like he doesn't care if I send one in return because he continues to do it, knowing by now I don't typically send one back.
hippychick3 Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 Stop wasting your time with this self-absorbed dude. He wants an ego boost and is not looking for a relationship. Any second of energy spent on him is a second too much. Just say goodbye and delete. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 I can't explain the picture thing. As for the half baked plans, last time he suggested something -- coming to his house to watch a movie -- you declined, repeatedly. I don't blame you. I wouldn't have gone either. But now he's not picking something because he doesn't know how. If you would like to meet him, respond with Sure. How about [place] next Tuesday at 12:30?
ExpatInItaly Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 He's 34! I've always thought it was really strange and maybe one out of 10 times I'll send one back. It seems like he doesn't care if I send one in return because he continues to do it, knowing by now I don't typically send one back. Well, you need to change that. Send him back of photo of Nicholas Cage. Start every conversation with a new photo of Nicholas Cage, in fact. 5
smackie9 Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 This guy just wanted to bang you....why are you still playing text tag with this dude? He has no intention of dating you.
Michelle ma Belle Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 Yep, annoying as f*ck and for the record, this isn't reserved for just the young twenty-something's either which makes it even more annoying. I've come to deeply appreciate men who take initiative and follow thru. So rare these days. I know some guys who do this will say they're trying to be accommodating by letting the woman set the day and time but honestly, it's annoying and can be a turn off particularly if he does it all the time. You want to see me? Roll the dice and set the date. If it doesn't work, I'll let you know and suggest an alternative. Done. As for the selfies attached with every message, yep, another VERY annoying habit I don't quite understand. I mean, is he afraid I forgot who I was talking to in the last 30 minutes since his last picture/message? Ugh. I was chatting with a guy, mid forties and very attractive. I was excited to communicating with someone my own age for a change. Right from the very first text message, he'd attached a selfie and continued to blow.up.my.phone with pics! Every single message included a selfie in some corny pose. Sometimes he'd send them out of the blue with no message attached and sometimes he even included a naughty c*ck pic too. I can't tell you how quickly that got boring. I eventually asked him what was up with all the pics as I just couldn't keep quiet anymore. He laughed it off and said he doesn't usually send so many (bullsh*t) and reassured me it wasn't because he was vain or anything. Personally, I got the sense that he was actually much more insecure than he led on and needed constant validation on his looks. I'm all for affirmations and complimenting people but when someone works that hard to get attention, I tap out. Serious turn off. He still messages from time to time, out of the blue, and with a new selfie attached each time only there is often no message attached now. I'll toss him a "Handsome" to appease him but I'm no longer interested in him. A shame because he he pretty much ticks off many of my boxes physically speaking anyway. I will add that another reason some guys send so many selfies is because they are actually hoping the girl with reciprocate in kind. Men are visual creatures after all so by sending pics of themselves, they're trying to make the girl feel comfortable enough to share her own. And that includes naughty pics BTW.
coolheadal Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 I have to agree you need someone who's really into you spiritually instead of just sex only. 2
Lilyana76 Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 Maybe its just me, but I would start sending random pictures of random things... like my toilet, or the dirty dishes in my sink (before) and the after shot of them all in the dishwasher clean. Maybe I'm just a smart *ss..... 6
smackie9 Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 If this continues and things get a little flirty, more than likely you will be seeing pics of his penis...... 3
Author savvy2008 Posted February 1, 2017 Author Posted February 1, 2017 Thanks for the responses! We texted back and forth for a couple months a year ago, and a couple months now. Maybe 5 months total in texting. I think if I were going to get a dirty picture, I would have by now. I called him out on the inviting me over for a movie/a typical booty call. He denied that it was that, and said that he just misses regular relationship things and enjoys doing things like that. I don't know. I asked him why he contacted me again after us not talking for months and he said that he didn't think I would be interested in him. He has a good job, owns his home, is a dog lover like I am, doesn't mind that I have a child (almost 9year old), and seems perfect otherwise. Why is he so weird with the picture thing? I think it may be an ego boost thing, like someone mentioned. BUT I almost never say anything regarding the picture at all, typically I just respond to his actual text. So why keep sending them?
Author savvy2008 Posted February 1, 2017 Author Posted February 1, 2017 Also, he's sent me pictures of other things too. His animals, his motorcycle, his dinner. Is it possible he's just a guy who likes photographing his life? I think I will throw out a couple days to meet up again and if it doesn't happen, delete and move on. Is it possible he just wants emotional support, validation, and just wants someone to text whenever he needs?
Miss Spider Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 (edited) This guy is just looking for sex/ego fluffing. That's why you can't nail him down for another date, yet he'll invite you to come over for "movies" once a week. Missing "regular relationship things"?Yeah, like sex! Tell him people in relationships go out too. The pics are supposed to entice you. Make you think ' Oooh he's so hot' This is too obvious. Edited February 1, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
hippychick3 Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 If this continues and things get a little flirty, more than likely you will be seeing pics of his penis...... Then you can respond, "why are you sending me pics of mini sausages?" 1
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