petergarida Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 this girl rejected me saying that her relationship with the love of her life ended and she cant forget him and thats the best answer she could give for the time being now. I told her it is better not to talk to each other coz i need time to absorb what happened. she was understanding.we didnt talk for 5 months. I messaged her this yesterday " you came across my mind so I messaged you to check up on you , how r u ? she sent me this "you too you have been on my mind many times but i was sure you didnt want to talk to me" what does this mean guys ?
WaitingForBardot Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 this girl rejected me saying that her relationship with the love of her life ended and she cant forget him and thats the best answer she could give for the time being now. I told her it is better not to talk to each other coz i need time to absorb what happened. she was understanding.we didnt talk for 5 months. I messaged her this yesterday " you came across my mind so I messaged you to check up on you , how r u ? she sent me this "you too you have been on my mind many times but i was sure you didnt want to talk to me" what does this mean guys ? It means you were on her mind, many times. Call her, ask her out!
d0nnivain Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 The optimistic interpretation is that she's healing from the end of her other relationship & may be open to seeing what can happen with you. There is only one way to find out, ask her to meet you for coffee. Talk to her in person not via text & judge where her head is at. Understand she may have simply written that to be nice & she may not be fully healed. So don't get your hopes up 1
angel.eyes Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 ...or she may just want to be friends. You'll have to follow up with her directly to figure out what she means. 1
smackie9 Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 She knew you wanted nothing to do with her if she had no interest in dating you....that's why she said that....she still has no interest, so she didn't contact you. She missed the attention you gave her tho, that's why she thought of you. 2
coolheadal Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 If she contacted you then out would know if she really wanted you. These words she said to you just to confused you even more the games women say to men. Just say to her hey when you think you want to get together you let me know or why don't you come over and tell me in person! Bye 1
hercules22 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 yeah i wouldnt have high hopes could just be missing attention you provided . i would expected her to contact you first if she had some sort of interest .
Shining One Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 I'm not seeing any interest on her part. She'll accept attention if you're willing to provide it, but she doesn't appear to be interested in anything romantic. If you want clarity, ask her directly if she's interested in dating you.
salparadise Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 ...or she may just want to be friends. :laugh: You mean she may want him to woo and pursue while she holds him at arms length, soaks up the attention and feigns demure... yea, friends. 1
Pinhead Larry Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 this girl rejected me saying that her relationship with the love of her life ended and she cant forget him and thats the best answer she could give for the time being now. I told her it is better not to talk to each other coz i need time to absorb what happened. she was understanding.we didnt talk for 5 months. I messaged her this yesterday " you came across my mind so I messaged you to check up on you , how r u ? she sent me this "you too you have been on my mind many times but i was sure you didnt want to talk to me" what does this mean guys ? It means she's playing games with you
Lord Humungus Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 It means you are being primed for the lofty position of Beta Orbiter
Redhead14 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 this girl rejected me saying that her relationship with the love of her life ended and she cant forget him and thats the best answer she could give for the time being now. I told her it is better not to talk to each other coz i need time to absorb what happened. she was understanding.we didnt talk for 5 months. I messaged her this yesterday " you came across my mind so I messaged you to check up on you , how r u ? she sent me this "you too you have been on my mind many times but i was sure you didnt want to talk to me" what does this mean guys ? You told her that it was better that you two did not talk to each other -- so, she thought you didn't want to talk to her and respected the boundary YOU created!!! you too you have been on my mind -- So, what. Exs sometimes cross a persons mind just like lots of other experiences in life . . .
KBarletta Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 The truth is the only way you're going to get a direct answer to what she's thinking is to ask her out on an actual date and see what she says. Anything else is just guess work. She was just following the rules you two had laid down. I'd say call her up, tell her you want to try dating again and see what she says.
elaine567 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 you too you have been on my mind -- So, what. Exs sometimes cross a persons mind just like lots of other experiences in life . . . Yesterday a guy I went to school with crossed my mind, not because I was "interested" in him then nor now, but because he was the geekiy ugly kid with a limp and a bit of a weird personality who never had a gf and could never make any friends. He crossed my mind, not because I had a secret crush or held a torch for him, but because I simply saw a similar individual on the TV and it reminded me of him. If you still like this girl and would like a relationship with her ask her out, if she says yes then great (be aware she may still not be completely over her ex though) and if she says no or hems and haws then forget her. Either way you know where you stand. IF the answer IS still no, then do not waste any more time on her, 5 months is already too long. Remember "I am not over my ex", can be a simple put down used by people so as not to cause offence, when turning down a potential date. She may indeed have recently broken up but she may not in reality care a damn about her ex... If it is again a NO, DO NOT spend a moment longer on her,
dumbass2 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 Ask her is she wants to get together on a certain day soon and have something in mind to do. If she says yes, then great and if not and she doesn't offer an alternative day, then that should be the last time you contact her. DO NOT chase her.
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