xyz12345 Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 So, I met this guy on a online dating site and we've been chatting for about 2 weeks.. Was going great. He says he wasnt chatting with anyone else and I wasn't either. The idea was to get to know one another and then meet up.. Last week we were chatting and he said he was not feeling well. He went to the doctors that day and was glad for the weekend to rest.....That was the last I heard from him... Am I over thinking? I'm split on how to feel, I am concerned that something bad happened and on the flip side I'm thinking he quit. But literally nothing was going on, we were cool. And he has not been on the dating site. If something was up, why not say, right? I did message saying hope he feels better and hope he's ok for few days after...Not sure what to make of this. Its just so bizarre to me..
Larryville Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 he wasnt chatting with anyone else and I wasn't either. First no, and second don’t believe that crap from any dude! Exactly why you should not put all of your eggs in one basket as they say. Keep conversing with other people and things will eventually shake out. You don’t owe him/anyone exclusivity in early stages. 3
d0nnivain Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 He may legitimately not be feeling well You sent a get well message & that is enough. Ball is in his court. Do not sit around waiting for him. Go back on your site & enjoy. If he comes back, OK. If not, oh well. Before your meet avoid telling a guy you are the only one & certainly don't believe any guy who tries to feed you that line. 3
Author xyz12345 Posted February 1, 2017 Author Posted February 1, 2017 (edited) I know I should message other guys. Cause I thought same way "don't put all my eggs in one basket". I tried that before and I simply can't do it. I can only focus on one person. Especially if I like and vibe with that person.. Thing is I am very skeptical of those lines guys say. But this guy really did seem ...normal. And as naive as it sounds he seemed very interesting and had potential... I agree, ball is in his court. It is still very odd to lie about something like that. I have been genuinely concerned and can't see him as someone who would lie like that. But eh, what do I know... It's not nice to do that to someone if he was lying... Edited February 1, 2017 by xyz12345
d0nnivain Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 You can concentrate on one person at a time if that is your style. Just don't tell him. 2
Author xyz12345 Posted February 1, 2017 Author Posted February 1, 2017 You can concentrate on one person at a time if that is your style. Just don't tell him. True, I agree. I don't say it off the bat. But I just decided to one day in conversation..
kendahke Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 I know I should message other guys. Cause I thought same way "don't put all my eggs in one basket". I tried that before and I simply can't do it. I can only focus on one person. Especially if I like and vibe with that person.. apparently, you're not vibing all that well with him if he's not responding to you. Are you sure this isn't one sided? A guy who is genuinely interested doesn't evaporate while in the middle of getting to know you, sick or not. He's probably still on the site, is still talking to other girls because he's not exclusive with anyone, so he can do that. If you want to put your youth on hold while waiting for someone who isn't showing any interest or forward movement with you, that's time that you will never get back and there is no reward for waiting on someone who has this little consideration for you. Besides, you shouldn't focus on any one person until they've told you they want the focus and that they intend on pursuing things further with you. Nice conversations over text ain't that litmus test. 1
smackie9 Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 Don't waste your time "chatting" with someone for weeks. Invest in a guy that will make time to have a date with you after a few messages or at least a have one set up. Think about it...if they are too busy, or they chat with you for weeks putting off asking you out...then why are they on a dating site? It's kind of obvious, they are either A, already in a relationship or B, weighing their options/dating others. Save the chatting for between your dates with them. Get it? 2
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