ThisisIt606 Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Met this guy on an app, been on 6 dates/seeing each other for about a month. Yesterday we went to dinner and a local sports game. He came over after and needed to charge his phone. I was helping him look for an open outlet in my small flat. I finally found one next to where I plug my phone it, however both our chargers wouldn't fit so I moved mine. He set an alarm on his phone (attached to his charger) to wake us up. When it went off- he got his phone, got himself ready, thanked me for a nice time at the game, gave me a kiss/said he'll see me later and headed off to uni. When I got home from work I saw he left his charger here. Do I tell him? My first instinct was to shoot him a quick text saying "Hey! If you're looking for it, you left your charger here" However 3 of my friends say "no, don't say anything. I will come off as clingy and looking for an excuse to text him. If he wants it/realizes it's missing he will text me." On a side note idk if he can even text if that was his only charger/ his phone might be dead now. My reasoning is I'd want someone to let me know if I forgot something at their place. Also I think it's only natural/nice to let someone know you found something of theirs. Part of what I know about him is he's always pretty tired and stressed from med school.. lots of things on his mind. IF he does ask me if he left it, I don't want to look rude/weird by just saying "yeah, it's here" and coming across as aloof or inconsiderate by not saying anything first. I didn't think this was a big issue, but I"m getting so much feed back of "no don't say anything", that I'm really starting to question. What do you think?
Redhead14 Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Met this guy on an app, been on 6 dates/seeing each other for about a month. Yesterday we went to dinner and a local sports game. He came over after and needed to charge his phone. I was helping him look for an open outlet in my small flat. I finally found one next to where I plug my phone it, however both our chargers wouldn't fit so I moved mine. He set an alarm on his phone (attached to his charger) to wake us up. When it went off- he got his phone, got himself ready, thanked me for a nice time at the game, gave me a kiss/said he'll see me later and headed off to uni. When I got home from work I saw he left his charger here. Do I tell him? My first instinct was to shoot him a quick text saying "Hey! If you're looking for it, you left your charger here" However 3 of my friends say "no, don't say anything. I will come off as clingy and looking for an excuse to text him. If he wants it/realizes it's missing he will text me." On a side note idk if he can even text if that was his only charger/ his phone might be dead now. My reasoning is I'd want someone to let me know if I forgot something at their place. Also I think it's only natural/nice to let someone know you found something of theirs. Part of what I know about him is he's always pretty tired and stressed from med school.. lots of things on his mind. IF he does ask me if he left it, I don't want to look rude/weird by just saying "yeah, it's here" and coming across as aloof or inconsiderate by not saying anything first. I didn't think this was a big issue, but I"m getting so much feed back of "no don't say anything", that I'm really starting to question. What do you think? Oh, c'mon. You've been out with him 6 times now. You should be past this kinda thinking. Just shoot him a text. Nothing about this is about being clingy whatsoever. Sending him A text to remind him is not clingy. Sending 10 texts in a row would. And, maybe he left it there on purpose . . . 10
Pill Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 It comes off as an excuse to text him? Why would you need an excuse to text a man who was just in your house?! Can't you just text him for the hell of it if you wanted to? Let alone so it doesn't appear you are stealing him property 3
Erik30 Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 You're overthinking this, just text him. It won't make you look clingy at all 1
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Tell him is kind. Allowing him to freak out about where the heck he left it because you are afraid of looking clingy is silly. 2
Jj66 Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 :rolleyes: Really? You slept with the guy and are afraid to text him that he left his charger? It would be courteous, not clingy. 11
QueenDafine Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 Is this for real? Come onnn, this just sounds like child's play. Tell him he left his charger at your house. It's not being clingy it's just being a normal human being lol
anduina Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 If you left your phone charger at his place, would it be clingy of him to text you or would you appreciate the information and relieved that you hadn't lost it? Text him. Your friends are being silly. 1
Ronnys93 Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 Um... If you don't text him this instant and let him know that his charger is at your place LOL.
Author ThisisIt606 Posted February 1, 2017 Author Posted February 1, 2017 Yes, texting him about the charger was my first no Brainer instinct. I did end up texting him about it and he was just like oh whoops! You're right. Good thing I have others. I'll grab I next time I'm over. I told him that sounded good/ have a good rest of the night. He replied with so much studying!! ( Normal for him) And I wished him good luck with it mentioning his " favourite" subject He seems to be on a study streak again with an exam next week. In the past he mentioned he could come over and study so we can be together that way since he studies a lot. I arranged the last date. I'm assuming I should leave it up to him to arrange when to see me next? I figure when he has time/ study break he will. I'd like to keep in text contact with him. But I really don't have much to say.... ive found its much more interesting and easier to talk to him in person. Even at the very beginning ( pre first date and early date 1 and 2) he has not been a big texter
GeorgeWP93 Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 This is why I'm so reluctant to get back on the dating scene.... 1
d0nnivain Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 Glad you told him about the charger. I'd give him some time to study. If you don't hear back I'd send a quick "hope the test went well" & see what he does with that.
vanhalenfan Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 This is why I'm so reluctant to get back on the dating scene.... Totally agree with this. There's so much nonsense in the dating world these days! 1
preraph Posted February 1, 2017 Posted February 1, 2017 Your friends are scared little bunnies, aren't they? Jeez, he left his charger there. Be sure he knows where it is. It's the courteous thing to do.
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