What is the worst online dating incident that you have had?

[Newcitygirl]

Wow. Are you baptist? That tells you how he feels about the baptists.

 

My family has never been that religious. I'm like judge a girl before you get to know her. Lol

[ElizabethIII]

One of the worst experinces I had was with someone I hadnt met.

 

Had been chatting for a while. Seemed nice. Asked or my number. That night: a saturday. He started bombarding me with messages. Asked where I was and where I lived and that he would come over to mine. Sent me some nonsensical messages too. Then when I ignored him and before I had a chance to block him he started calling me. When I managed to get him blocked on whatsapp and no more calls or messages came through he started texting and calling not via whatsapp.

 

I finally said to him to stop it and I didnt want to talk to him.

 

The next morning I got an apology and that he was drunk. I did not dignify him with an answer. So the next day he texted again to say that for the record I was ugly and fat and he just wanted to tell me that. I told him I had used his phone number to find him on facebook and linkedin and knew his full name and where he worked. Should he not stop the abusive messages I would forward them to his employer and also report him to the police. Some of them were sent on work time. That did the trick.

 

I wish now I hadnt given him a warning and got straight to the police station. A call from them was what he needed.

[Jj66]

My worst. Was hanging out with some friends at the local watering hole one night when a live band was playing. I got notified of a Tinder match and she immediately messaged me asking me what I was up to. I told her. She asked where it was. I told her. She said she was dressed to go on a date but had been stood up last minute. She asked if I wanted company. I said well, OK, you can stop by if you like. When she arrived I met her and we had a drink together.

 

She told me this place is lame, how about we go dancing at XXXX? Do you mind driving? Well ok. We went to XXXXX but it had closed early for the night for some reason. She then said how about we stop by the grocery store and take some booze back to your place? Well I guess we could do that but just so you know, I'm not into hookups. I do have a little whiskey at home. We don't need to stop at the store.

 

We get to my place, I pour some whiskey and put on some music and we dance in my living room. She finished her whiskey and then got some more. She was drinking it really fast and finished off my whole bottle almost by herself.

 

She put her arms around me and started kissing me and we ended up having sex on my stairs. She "squirted" all over the carpet. Pretty sure it was urine. I was kind of upset about it. Said she always squirts when she comes. While I'm cleaning up the mess, she just goes into my bedroom and passes out on my bed.

 

The next morning I struggle to wake her up and then take her back to her car at the bar we met at. She said as we parted I hope this wasn't just a hookup and that she wouldn't be able to forgive herself if that's all it was. I said, well I have my kids tonight and for the next week but we can go on a date next weekend if you want. I'd like to see how we are when we are sober. She said that sounded great.

 

That afternoon while I was at work she sent me a series of texts that I didn't get until after work. First one was something like "hi" then about an hour later "if you don't want to talk to me that's ok" then about 2 hours later something like "fine ignore me then. You weren't even that good. At least not by my standards, anyway"

 

When I got the messages I thanked her for her insult. Told her I only date people with class and she has zero and then blocked her number.

Edited February 1, 2017 by Jj66

[KBob]

If anything I think my looks have hurt me, not helped. I'm not quite sure why though???

 

Because hot women are intimidating to talk to for most men. But hearing you say this makes me think I should just stick to talking to 10's, obviously they're not as unavailable as I thought!

 

I'm actually surprised as to how soft these stories are; I clicked on this topic thinking: "oh this should be good". Sadly (or maybe not), the worst OLD I've had is a girl mistake me for another guy in the bar. I'm bald, and I described exactly what I was wearing. He had a full head of hair and was wearing almost the complete opposite attire to mine.

 

Needless to say she didn't get a second date.

 

*EDIT* - For some reason I thought this said first date stories. I have a worse one:

 

Second date with a girl was a spontaneous "hey where I am sucks, let's meet up" kind of date. She asked if I wanted to come over for a drink. I was in the area, close to her place so she told me to go there and that the patio was unlocked; I could wait there and help myself to beer in the fridge. I'm sitting on the patio and notice her cat somehow pry open the bedroom window and escape, so I call her to let her know. She freaks out and starts yelling for me to get him back inside. So I tried, and the cat turned out to be one of the few animals in the world that doesn't like me. After a few attempted scratches and bites I got fed up, grabbed the broom and shooed his butt in the house.

 

She gets home, we chat and have a couple beers together and end up having sex. Later, around 2 am, we're cuddling and about to go to sleep and I explain to her that I'm a light sleeper due to shift work and I can't have her cuddling me all night, I won't be able to sleep. She gets mad and kicks me out. Now I have to drive home at 2 am to the other side of the city when I'm supposed to be up at 7 to do some work. Then the next day she phones me and tries to deny the whole thing happened; she couldn't remember because she was "black out drunk" from two beers.

 

Needless to say she didn't get a third date.

Edited February 1, 2017 by KBob

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

My worst. Was hanging out with some friends at the local watering hole one night when a live band was playing. I got notified of a Tinder match and she immediately messaged me asking me what I was up to. I told her. She asked where it was. I told her. She said she was dressed to go on a date but had been stood up last minute. She asked if I wanted company. I said well, OK, you can stop by if you like. When she arrived I met her and we had a drink together.

 

She told me this place is lame, how about we go dancing at XXXX? Do you mind driving? Well ok. We went to XXXXX but it had closed early for the night for some reason. She then said how about we stop by the grocery store and take some booze back to your place? Well I guess we could do that but just so you know, I'm not into hookups. I do have a little whiskey at home. We don't need to stop at the store.

 

We get to my place, I pour some whiskey and put on some music and we dance in my living room. She finished her whiskey and then got some more. She was drinking it really fast and finished off my whole bottle almost by herself.

 

She put her arms around me and started kissing me and we ended up having sex on my stairs. She "squirted" all over the carpet. Pretty sure it was urine. I was kind of upset about it. Said she always squirts when she comes. While I'm cleaning up the mess, she just goes into my bedroom and passes out on my bed.

 

The next morning I struggle to wake her up and then take her back to her car at the bar we met at. She said as we parted I hope this wasn't just a hookup and that she wouldn't be able to forgive herself if that's all it was. I said, well I have my kids tonight and for the next week but we can go on a date next weekend if you want. I'd like to see how we are when we are sober. She said that sounded great.

 

That afternoon while I was at work she sent me a series of texts that I didn't get until after work. First one was something like "hi" then about an hour later "if you don't want to talk to me that's ok" then about 2 hours later something like "fine ignore me then. You weren't even that good. At least not by my standards, anyway"

 

When I got the messages I thanked her for her insult. Told her I only date people with class and she has zero and then blocked her number.

 

Crazy girls can be fun once in a while lol.

 

 

 

I guess the craziest story that I have was this girl I matched with on Tinder. I went over to her place to "Hang out" and her gay friend was there hanging out, and she had her kid. I was like oh.... cool. Hungout for an hour or so, and her friend took off, and then she put her kid to sleep. Had some pretty good sex, but then she threw up on me while giving head. Ughhhh not fun.

 

I was like whatever though - it happens. Hooked up a few more times after that, she was interesting to say the least.

Edited February 1, 2017 by barcode88

[andie1969]

So wait, YOU had a back up date in case this guy flaked on you? If he hadn't, you would have flaked on the back up guy??

[Newcitygirl]

So wait, YOU had a back up date in case this guy flaked on you? If he hadn't, you would have flaked on the back up guy??

 

No. I had two dates. One scheduled at 630 and one at 1030. I wouldn't have flaked on either. Do not judge me for not even knowing me.

[Newcitygirl]

To greet the next guy I go out with how should I approach him? Do I say hi and what else do you say? Do I give a handshake or a hug meeting him for the first time??? I feel like with the youth minister there were some gray areas. What can I do to ensure no more awkwardness in first dates??

[TheTraveler]

No. I had two dates. One scheduled at 630 and one at 1030. I wouldn't have flaked on either. Do not judge me for not even knowing me.

 

I'll judge you. That's pretty **** you had two dates planned in one night

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

I'll judge you. That's pretty **** you had two dates planned in one night

 

Ehh thats not terrible if they're only first dates. 4 hours in between is plenty of time to get to know someone for a first meet.

 

I usually don't do same day dates though, it's just too much.

 

Another reason I won't, is because if things are going really well on the date, I may try extend the date. If someone abruptly ended the date on me when things were going super well, it would be a red flag.

Edited February 1, 2017 by barcode88

[Newcitygirl]

I'll judge you. That's pretty **** you had two dates planned in one night

 

Read the thread I only had one. Don't act like you have not had multiple dates. I work night shift so my time is very difficult. Do not judge unless you are in my circumstance.

[ElizabethIII]

Read the thread I only had one. Don't act like you have not had multiple dates. I work night shift so my time is very difficult. Do not judge unless you are in my circumstance.

 

Never multi dated that way.

 

Night shift or not there are 7 days in a week.

[Newcitygirl]

Never multi dated that way.

 

Night shift or not there are 7 days in a week.

 

Not when you work night shift. I sleep from 7am to 2pm. Then go to the gym then time for work. Please don't try to understand night shift if you don't know what it is like. Leaves very little time for social events etc.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Night shift blows, I did it for exactly one month and then quit.

[Newcitygirl]

Night shift blows, I did it for exactly one month and then quit.

 

Healthcare I will unfortunately be here for two years. So I'm trying to make the best of the situation. Ideally I have two or three nights at max. Still new in city so trying to make girlfriends as well as date.

[ElizabethIII]

Not when you work night shift. I sleep from 7am to 2pm. Then go to the gym then time for work. Please don't try to understand night shift if you don't know what it is like. Leaves very little time for social events etc.

 

dont bother dating if you cant do it

[Miss Peach]

Worst for me was between two:

 

1. I met a guy at a coffee shop and once we get our drinks a woman comes over and he introduces me to her as his mother. Yes... he brought his mother on the date!

 

2. A guy meets me at a coffee shop, kisses me right off the back. When we go to get our drinks he doesn't offer to buy mine. Then 10 minutes later he asks for me to take him home so he can 'tuck me in'.

 

OP - It sounds to me like he's lukewarm in his interest

[Newcitygirl]

dont bother dating if you cant do it

 

Not saying I can't do it. I just need to find someone understanding of my time and a bit more independent.

 

 

So you are telling all the people (police, nurses, doctors, and other staff) not to date when we give our time to help people?

[wwdsgcl]

It started out with a lovely introductory message from a woman I found stunning on every level. It was amazing how much we have in common - more than anyone I've ever met, really. We emailed 3-4 times the first day and then I gave her my phone number and we talked for 2.5 hours that night. We talked 1.5 hours the next night and then began texting each other daily, alternating who initiated. 5 days in we were on the phone for 5.5 hours, and then for 2 more hours a few days later. We planned a first date during the 5.5 hour conversation. We were clearly clicking and had no problem coming up with things to talk about.

 

We both like jigsaw puzzles, so she bought a cheap, small one to work on at the coffee shop. When we finished the first puzzle, she volunteered that she'd brought a second as well. While working the second puzzle I mentioned that I was going to have dinner at a nearby restaurant and asked if she'd like to join me, which she did. The date was 5.5 hours long.

 

When I got her back to her car she practically vaulted from the nearly still moving vehicle, giving me a quick "thanks for the coffee and dinner, talk to you soon", and she was gone. I got the "let's just be friends" call the next night.

 

I'm amazed at y'all that can take something like this and not take it personally. I only go on 2-3 dates a year, so each one ends up feeling like the last chance ever. I know I came on too strong; I got really excited that someone so awesome contacted me first and that we got on so well.

[Dis]

Because hot women are intimidating to talk to for most men. But hearing you say this makes me think I should just stick to talking to 10's, obviously they're not as unavailable as I thought!

 

Isnt this the truth

 

I should walk around with a sign on my back thats says, 'Single & Nice! '

[ElizabethIII]

Not saying I can't do it. I just need to find someone understanding of my time and a bit more independent.

 

 

So you are telling all the people (police, nurses, doctors, and other staff) not to date when we give our time to help people?

 

Then you just need to keep looking until you find that someone. Maybe date a nurse, policeman, fireman.

I dont see a huge problem.

Squeezing 2 dates in a few hours is not going to help.

[Newcitygirl]

Then you just need to keep looking until you find that someone. Maybe date a nurse, policeman, fireman.

I dont see a huge problem.

Squeezing 2 dates in a few hours is not going to help.

 

Do people not read? I only ended up going on one date because the ministry guy flaked. I went on ONE date. O-N-E.... And I don't date where I work.

[Dis]

 

 

I had a back up date planned in the event he was flakey (he never knew about it). I'm glad I did because my gut feeling was right unfortunately. So at least I wasn't sitting at home after rejection.

 

Do people not read? I only ended up going on one date because the ministry guy flaked. I went on ONE date. O-N-E.... And I don't date where I work.

 

I agree with Elizabeth

 

OP, you're flip flopping...but heres the truth in black and white

 

You had another date scheduled for that same night.....

 

So if the ministry guy decided to go through with the date your back up guy wouldve been just as let down as you were...so I dont have much sympathy for you...sorry

 

Even though you scheduled the dates some hours apart...I still dont think thats in good taste

[grays]

wwdsglc, I'm sorry that happened to you. Its so disappointing. I've had some similar things happen. It takes work to learn how to *really* not take that kind of thing personally, but it can be done. The disappointment is reasonable, but the assumption that there's something wrong with you is not.

 

The first guy I was interested in after my 25 year marriage asked for my phone number and told me he was gonna call at a particular time and wanted to make plans to go out. But he didnt. I saw him a couple of weeks later and he had a lame ass excuse and I told him I just didnt feel good about him anymore. I took it soooo personally. I thought I had totally invented his interest in me and immediately decided that it was crazy that I could have believed that he or anyone else could possibly find me attractive. It made me feel crazy, like I had managed to invent this alternatevreality for myself, and threw me into intense self-doubt. Then about a year later he came back around and said that he had been really into me but he was worried that I was still too close to my marriage (I was actually still living w ex bc of the kids and money issues) and, more importantly, he was in his early 40's and had only been w one woman ever, his recently ex'ed wife who he started dating in HS, and he was terrified.

 

Moral of this story for me is: even when it appears to be totally about me, there's a good chance it's not.

 

He and I are actually really close these days and I value the relationship a ton, but not romantic. I had a blast dancing w him last weekend and at those moments I feel a little bit in love with him, but he's still so insecure that the idea of more is totally unappealing.

[andie1969]

No. I had two dates. One scheduled at 630 and one at 1030. I wouldn't have flaked on either. Do not judge me for not even knowing me.

 

Woah, simmer down, just trying to understand what you had planned for the evening. 2 dates in one evening? Not something I would do, but to each their own. I like having the option to extend the date if I so choose, not have to rush to another one. Since you DID have a back up date planned, it is hardly "the worst online dating incident" that one can have.